You’ve been dating your man for a few years and you’ve been bombarded by the question “when are you getting married?” by his annoyingly nosy family and friends.
You know he’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with and his actions and words are pointing in the same direction.
So what’s the problem?
You were with his friend
Everyone has a past.
Apparently, yours involves a quick courtship with his friend.
It doesn’t matter if it was 5 years ago or 5 days ago – no man wants the rest left of his friend – let alone marry her.
You are very dependent
Men want to be needed, but he doesn’t want to be your do-it-all.
Although he will do anything to make you happy, he doesn’t want to be the only source of your happiness.
Do your own thing.
You are very nosy
Being curious about each other is natural – hacking an email account and Facebook is not.
If you spend all your free time watching and monitoring his every move on Facebook or Instagram, trying to decipher the hidden meaning behind every post and story, then you are on the verge of madness.
Give him some space – there’s a fine line between curious and stalker.
He’s Not Taking You Seriously
For him, there is much more fish in the sea and he is not sold because you are the fish he wants to attract.
What can it mean…
You Are His mistress
You’ve been with this guy for years and still need to meet someone in his family?
That’s the red flag.
If he’s never on vacation and shows up at your door at irregular times, he won’t marry you because he probably already has a wife.
You Are More Beauty Than Brains –
Having a hot, chic girlfriend is one thing – having a wigwam wife he’s unable to bring to any event where the conversation is needed is another.
When a man is ready to commit, he’s just as interested in what you bring to the table as he is in what you look like on the outside.
If all you bring to the table is a pretty face, a toned body, and the ability to pour a pint of beer at once, the lack of something deeper will limit their search for you to the surface level.
You Don’t Have Wife Qualities
You don’t cook, you don’t clean, you suck with kids, and you love spending money—his money.
One of the main reasons men don’t want to get married is due to the financial aspects – he doesn’t want to run out of money trying to keep you, a maid and a chef.
Why would he marry you if you’re so useless?
You Already Act Like His Wife
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
You’re already playing house, acting like his wife – what man in his right mind would rush to get a marriage license when you’ve already done everything?
He Has Commitment Phobia
Maybe he comes from a dysfunctional family, or maybe he grew up in an environment that doesn’t care about marriage.
If he tells you he doesn’t believe in marriage, don’t think you’re the magical girl who can change his mind.
It’s too early
We all know that women mature faster than men, so while you may have developed the qualities that prepare you for marriage within a year, it takes two or three years for him.
Ultimately, you’ll have to bet and decide if it’s worth the wait.