According to the experts, if you’ve just broken up with your ex and he’s already back in another relationship, it’s definitely a rebound relationship, that kind of relationship that one person jumps into too quickly, simply to fill the void left by another…
Maybe it’s authentic, but maybe not.
Knowing your ex has a new affair can hurt initially, but remember, exes are exes for a reason, right?
Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship
Let’s start with some signs that your ex is going to fail in their new relationship.
Sign 1: He’s Using Her To Forget About You
There are many guys who enter a new relationship to try to forget about their ex.
Does this tactic work?
Experts say you will fail miserably if you try.
Guys just don’t want to face the pain of failure they’re feeling, missing their ex, so they find someone new in hopes of getting back to their happy place again, where they feel loved and connected.
If your ex is in a rebound connection, for this reason, he is well on his way to screwing it up miserably.
It shows that his intentions are not sincere and that he still cares deeply about you.
So much so that he didn’t give himself a chance to heal and had to fill the void right away.
Watch out… he’ll probably try to show that he’s really happy, but you’ll know that’s just a cover-up of how he really feels.
If you’re important to him and he’s important to you, there’s no way he’ll be ready for a new girl that quickly, without giving himself time to go through the healing phases of a breakup.
Sign 2: Your Ex Has Decided To Date Someone Who Is The Total Opposite Of You
There’s a very good chance your ex-boyfriend is in a rebound relationship if he’s decided to pay attention to a woman or girl who is nothing like you.
For example, some women are discarded because they are too sweet, too insecure, and too needy, and she allows the guy to run her over without saying a word.
Men get bored quickly with a woman who has no opinion on anything and is always available.
Having your own personality and beliefs is very important in a healthy, balanced, and loving relationship.
On the other hand, when the woman is very confident, that woman will find the courage to dump him.
So what usually happens with rebound dating is that your ex-boyfriend is usually looking to find a woman who is the complete opposite of his ex.
If the ex was incredibly insecure, couldn’t make a decision if her life depended on it, and was lazy and boring, nagging and needy, he’s likely to find a woman who is loving, caring, and adventurous.
Bottom line: if your ex is with a woman who is the opposite of you (even if she’s better than you in her flaws), he’ll get tired of her soon enough.
Sign 3: Suddenly You Can Give Him What He Wants
Let’s say your boyfriend dumped you because you didn’t have self-esteem and he wasn’t interested in it.
In other words, you didn’t give him the attraction he wants.
Most men want to be with a woman at the top of her confidence and self-esteem.
Understand that it’s not as easy as telling him that you’ve changed and are now the woman of his dreams.
It’s just that you’ve figured out how to act like that when you’re around him.
This leads to my next point.
According to studies, many women wonder if they should stay in touch with their exes or cut all ties for good.
Of course, this depends on each person individually.
If you believe that you want to get your ex back, you will need to keep in touch with him.
You need to show him that you really want to have the experience he wants from a woman.
Text messages work to a degree, but they wear off quickly because they aren’t personal.
It’s best to answer the phone and call him, or better yet, meet him face-to-face when you can.
If your ex is willing to connect with you on any level, that means the door is still open.
He will be attracted to you if you make him feel excited and alive with his newfound confidence and self-esteem.
This will attract him more to you.
Many women may wonder how they are going to be able to date their ex because he seems to be happy in his new relationship.
Surely, the woman cannot worry about the other.
She has to focus on her ex and tell herself that he wants to be with her and not the new woman he’s dating.
This is a process and has many risks.
So it’s up to you to publicize the idea of getting back together and proving to your ex that it’s worth a try.
Don’t make the mistake of pushing yourself against her.
On the other hand…
If you’re not sure you want your ex back and it’s not really bothering you that he’s on his knees for this new woman in a rebound relationship, you should stand your ground and stop all communication until the end of that rebound relationship.
This whole strategy depends on whether you want to get your ex back, regardless of the fact that he’s in a new relationship that probably won’t last.
Sign 4: Zero Percent Success Rate
Another strong sign that your ex’s relationship is doomed to failure is that he still hasn’t had a healthy, successful relationship with a woman.
Think of it for a bookshelf.
If that’s the case, you don’t have any evidence that this rebound relationship isn’t going to end up like all the others.
If you want it back and you can find happiness in what you used to have, then there’s hope that you can give it another go.
Meanwhile, she might be showing to your face that she’s over the moon with this new woman; however, it is not likely to last.
Feelings change.
Sign 5: If He’s Making Common Attraction And Relationship Mistakes
A common cause of rebound dating failures is when he continues to do classic relationship and attractions bullshit.
For example, when he is extreme in terms of control.
Perhaps he remains too controlling and manipulative.
Perhaps he remains extremely sensitive.
Maybe he enjoys eating and dining with her or he doesn’t even think about taking her out.
Truth be told, many men have trouble keeping the fire going after they start dating a woman.
In conclusion, if he continually makes these common relationship mistakes, it is highly likely that this rebound relationship will fail as well.
Sign 6: He’s Suddenly Insecure
If you decide to stay in touch with your ex-boyfriend and show him how confident and secure you are, this could be the trigger to help him change his feelings for you.
If she is starting to see a different side of you, it will put confusion and doubt in his New relationship.
So if the rebound girlfriend starts getting insecure about you and starts trying to control him by telling you to stop communicating with him, naturally you will start to become his favorite woman again.
He’s going to start seeing the things he wants in you, the ex, and he won’t like what he’s experiencing with his rebound girlfriend.
Again, if you want to get your ex out of rebound dating, you need to make yourself attractive by showing him how emotionally balanced, attractive, and confident you are.
A strong belief in yourself will turn out to be very attractive to him.
Sign 7: Relationship At Full Speed
The faster a rebound relationship appears after you’ve broken up, the more likely it is not to work.
Usually, these relationships don’t work out simply because the guy is instantly excited that this new girl is giving him everything he didn’t have with you.
It won’t be long before he discovers that no one is perfect and flaws will show up and he’ll think twice about what he wants.
For example, she can be very full of herself…
Or maybe she insists he changes too much.
Technology seems to make the world go round these days, and many people want to make other people think, especially family and friends, that they are incredibly happy in their new relationship.
He’s going to want to show the world that he’s in a serious relationship with an amazing woman.
Relationships built on a solid foundation that has the power to stand the test of time are not built in a few days or weeks.
It takes time to build a solid, serious, and lasting relationship.
That’s how it works.
So if he jumps full speed straight into rebound dating and accelerates his steps to create a solid, healthy relationship, chances are he’s going to fail.
Sign 8: True Love Is Not Provided
People often plunge into a rebound relationship instantly after a breakup but are not emotionally ready for true love and another relationship.
Regardless, he’s going to get hurt from the recent breakup, especially when he thinks about the heartache and pain he’s caused.
Maybe he didn’t try hard enough or maybe he was too selfish in the big picture.
There are a number of ways a guy can coldly break up with his girlfriend out of the blue.
No person is perfect in their relationship qualities, and this is a big factor in couples breaking up.
Many men carry the disappointing emotional baggage from their previous relationship and unload it on rebound dating… and destroy it all on their own.
Sign 9: It’s All About Revenge
This is the worst way to try to get revenge on an ex by jumping headfirst into a rebound relationship.
This is often the case when the person feels they have been treated unfairly or poorly.
What he wants is to make you feel guilty and sad, maybe even jealous.
That means he’s not really interested in this new girlfriend.
Of course, there’s the possibility that he might fall in love with her, but that’s like picking up a needle in a haystack.
What you should do is not let any of this bother you.
Try to find it funny and it won’t be long before he realizes he’s gotten into a rebound relationship for all the wrong reasons.
Sign 10: He Still Has Feelings For His Ex
Keep in mind that this is not the case for everyone. However, the numbers don’t lie.
Up to 70% of men and women report that their ex or ex was still in contact with them.
This means that if your ex is still happy to call you, still text you, email or call you, there’s a strong possibility he still likes you.
Watch out, this could also be an indication that he’s tying you up just to make himself feel better.
Follow your instinct to find out if this is a good thing or a bad thing for you.
Let’s say you want him back and he doesn’t like you; what should you do?
First, you need to start communicating with him to generate that attraction again.
Show him that you know what kind of attraction he needs and wants.
Give him the things he was missing before and show him that you are a stronger and more attractive woman because of this change.
This will make rebound dating fail faster.
Final Words
It’s not always easy to see the signs that your ex is in a rebound relationship.
Heck, relationships of any kind aren’t easy.
The important thing is to understand the process of a breakup and how to facilitate the perfect relationship for you when you are ready.
Use these signs to make the best decision for you.
