Maybe your man is highly sure of himself, maybe he’s secretly insecure.
Here are 13 traits of insecurity in men for you to discover the truth once and for all.
Men are not superior beings who are shielded from insecurities as most women think.
Men are people, and that means they are at the mercy of having insecurities and personality flaws.
I know you want that perfect man that the movies show, but even he’s going to have some internal problems.
Now, having insecurities isn’t necessarily a negative thing, in fact, I think it’s impossible to be completely sure of yourself.
However, there is a line between having insecurities and letting those insecurities control your life.
Have you ever had a jealous boyfriend?
Well, jealousy is insecurity.
Now, we can all get jealous, however, sometimes that emotion can take over us and make us say and do crazy things.
I once met a girl whose boyfriend locked her in her room so he could go out to the club… This is extreme insecurity, and also extremely abusive.
If stopping a girlfriend from doing nothing isn’t one of the biggest traits of insecurity in men, then I don’t know what is.
The thing is, you can see how these insecurities can also affect your life.
Here are the traits of the insecure man.
Some of these traits, like jealousy, can wear a mask and pass for love.
Something like: “Of course he’s jealous, he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me!”.
If you think so, take a closer look.
These are the traits of insecure men you should keep in mind and pay close attention to.
1. He Is Overly Protective.
When the Twilight movie came out, I thought Edward was the hottest guy in the world.
He was protective, he took care of Bella, and he was her man.
Now, I find this extremely possessive and abusive protection.
This is a big warning sign.
If he won’t let you go to the bakery or supermarket alone because he’s afraid something will happen to you, this guy needs to relax more and change his behavior.
2. He Wants To Change The Way, You Dress.
He doesn’t like your clothes.
Of course, he only likes it when you dress for him, but he doesn’t want other people to see you dressed in such a way.
So he’ll tell you he doesn’t like the way you dress, he’ll tell you to change your hair, all those things are a form of control.
He wants to make you his way, how he thinks you should dress.
No, that won’t happen.
3. He Doesn’t Have Many Friends.
Yes, unfortunately, I understand.
I personally wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who thinks everyone is their property.
You end up being his emotional slave, walking on eggshells, just so you don’t hurt your insecure boyfriend’s feelings.
This is highly selfish, and really, it should be a strong sign that something is not right.
4. He Needs To Let Everyone Know He’s With You.
This is not always one of the traits of the insecure man, but it can easily be.
You’re in a relationship, but he needs everyone to know that.
He needs this to be clear on Facebook, Instagram, or any other social network where another man can see you… He wants to be in all your pictures.
When you introduce him to people, he has to announce that he’s your boyfriend.
Because he’s marking territory.
5. You Are His Whole World.
Of course, it feels great when a man is in love with you and can’t see anyone else but you.
But then comes the moment when you realize that you are the only person he sees, literally. You’re the only person he hangs out with.
You are basically his private property, you are his world.
He owns you, he’s possessive … Which at first, you find attractive, but now you’re seeing is over the top.
6. He’s Jealous Of Other Men.
If another man looks at you and smiles, he is ready to fight.
He becomes defensive, wants to punch the guy, or blames you for what happened.
This man just can’t handle the thought that other people find you beautiful and attractive.
See it grow, man.
7. He Tracks What You Do And Where You Are.
He wants to know what you are doing every minute of your day, where you are, and who you are with.
He needs to know about your schedule because otherwise, he assumes you’re dating another guy…cheating on him.
That boy needs to control your every breath.
If he could watch you sleep, he would.
8. He Brings Your Ex-Boyfriends Into Conversation.
Maybe you and your ex had a decent relationship, but he doesn’t see it that way.
What he sees is that you still have feelings for your ex-boyfriend.
You’ve worked hard to develop a healthy friendship with your ex-boyfriend and you have every right to do so.
He is insecure because he feels he could lose you to your ex-boyfriend.
9. It’s All About Guilt.
That’s how he’ll make you do things for him.
This is one of the biggest traits of insecure men.
If you haven’t seen him today, he will call saying that you never see him and that you are neglecting the relationship.
If he’s doing these guilt strategies, it’s because he wants to try to control you and the relationship.
He’s selfish and wants to keep you under his arm.
10. He Is Sensitive To Social Networks.
Yes, everyone stalks everyone on Facebook and Instagram, that’s normal.
What’s not normal is for him to comment to you in person about pictures you take with your friends or why you didn’t tell him you went out for coffee with an old friend from school.
He uses your social media to see if you are lying and hiding things from him because he is insecure.
11. He Has Had Terrible Experiences With Previous Dating.
All of his past relationships ended up with him either being cheated on or simply being left out.
None of his ex-girlfriends liked him that much and they all treated him like nobody.
At least, that’s what he tells you.
In reality, he was too demanding, required constant attention, and needed to be pampered.
12. He Needs Your Attention Constantly.
If you can’t see him every day, he thinks you’re not interested in him or he thinks you’re seeing someone else.
In reality, you are busy with your studies and work, but he doesn’t see that.
He tells you that you’re neglecting the relationship and you don’t care about him.
In other words, he is insecure.
13. He threatens to break up with you.
Whenever you guys have an argument, he tells you that he wants to break up with you and that you’re not good enough for him.
This is a trap to keep you trapped in it.
If he tells you that you don’t love him, you’ll try harder and harder to make him happy.
He’s insecure, controlling, and manipulative, that’s all.
Now that you know what the insecure man traits are in these top 13, the next time you’re in a relationship, keep an eye out for these warning signs.
I’m not saying you should run away if you only notice one of these traits, but generally, if he has one of these traits of his personality, he probably has more.
So in that case, run.