Do you suspect that your best friend is starting to have feelings for you? If the question “How do I know if my friend is in love with me?” frequently round your head, do not give it more turns! Pay attention to these 24 classic signs of falling in love with friends and get rid of doubts today.
1. He looks for you all the time on WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, Instagram …
It’s normal for best friends to talk a lot on the courier. So this does not necessarily mean that they like each other.
But if you notice that literally, any pretext is good to write to you, from sharing with you twenty memes a day to say good night before going to sleep … in reality, you are facing a sign that you should not ignore.
Pay attention to the type of messages he sends you: if he also takes time to write kilometer ideas telling you his day or giving you his point of view on something, or sends texts that can be interpreted in various ways, it is almost certain that he feels something more than a simple friendship.
2. Grooms himself more than usual when he goes out with you
Men are much more practical with their grooming than women.
For them, it is enough to take a shower, put some gel in their hair, and a clean T-shirt. They don’t even mind wearing the same pants for several days and they don’t get in the least bit overwhelmed if they didn’t have time to shave.
But if you notice that suddenly your friend begins to pay more attention to these details when he goes out with you, you look at him more groomed, you perceive that he put on cologne and his shirt is even ironed, it is because lately, he cares more than ever to make a good impression on you.
There are several reasons that can lead a man to groom himself more and they do not necessarily have to do with you. But if it is a pattern that only seems to repeat in your presence, you can be sure: he likes you.
3. He looks at you all the time, especially when he thinks you don’t notice
Have you noticed that he frequently looks at you and turns his gaze the other way when you discover him, pretending that nothing happened? That’s one of the clearest signs that he likes you.
If he were just looking at you casually, he would not feel compelled to look away but would greet you casually as if nothing had happened. On the other hand, since he is seeing you with romantic intentions, he knows that his gaze would give him away and that’s why he tries not to notice you.
4. Try to make you laugh all the time
Over time, you and your friend have gotten to know each other’s kind of sense of humor, and most likely have even built mutual humor filled with inside jokes and local jokes. It is natural that he is one of the people who make you laugh the most in this world.
But … pay attention! Do you notice that lately, he tries to get a laugh out of you all the time? Do you feel like he is trying hard to make ever-funnier jokes and pranks for you? Do you risk making a fool of yourself in front of other people as long as you laugh?
If in addition to all this you detect a huge smile of satisfaction on his face when he achieves his goal, it is clear that he is trying to reach your heart through laughter.
5. He avoids you when he is with his friends or family
Can’t you explain to yourself why your friend moves away from you when their friends or family are close, but when they are alone or among strangers they pay attention to you again and get closer to you?
The fact that he moderates his relationship with you in public maybe because he tries to hide his love for you from people who know him well and who might immediately notice: he wants to avoid being noticed and exposed.
6. He is always inquiring into your love life
In general, men are not very interested in the love past of their friends. The reality is that they prefer to talk about topics that are more interesting and fun for them.
But when they like a friend for “something else,” their love past becomes relevant because it gives them valuable clues as to the type of partners they are usually with, which provides them with tools of conquest.
They probably want to know what you liked the most and what you disliked about previous partners and try to imitate those virtues, as well as make it clear that they do not have the same flaws as your ex-partners.
7. Begin to imitate your tastes, points of view, and even your movements
A psychological phenomenon widely studied by scientists is the “mirror effect.” It is a behavioral inclination that leads us to imitate another person when we begin to feel attracted to them.
This phenomenon can manifest itself in many ways. The most obvious and immediate is that he begins to imitate your movements and your body language unconsciously.
However, you can also notice the mirror effect in his speech; If he suddenly starts using the same catchphrases and phrases that characterize you, it is because he is looking for ways to establish more and more affinity with you.
8. Always try to learn new things
Interestingly, when we are drawn to someone on an emotional level, we turn into something like young children who are eager to show and share their toys with their new favorite person.
If you realize that he wants to get involved with everything that he likes and is interested in, be it a sport he practices or a genre of literature, that may be because he wants to attract you to his world so that they have more things in common.
9. He likes to surprise you with details
One of the clearest signs that your best friend likes you is that he slowly begins to take attitudes that would be more typical of a boyfriend.
So he can surprise you with small details that he knows you will like, such as arriving with a sweet, book or with a simple musical recommendation that brightens up your afternoon.
It is normal for friends to pay attention to each other, but if you notice that whenever they see each other, they try to give you a gift, it is very likely that they are trying to woo you.
10. He is always available to you
A good friend will always try to make room in their schedule for you, especially when you need help or support of some kind.
But a friend who is deeply in love with you will be able to move or cancel any important commitment simply if the possibility of seeing you for a while arises, for no particular reason.
Realize: if you are his priority and he prefers to be with you over anything else, he is falling in love.
11. He talks a lot about you to his friends
If you notice that your other friends already know a lot of things about you, as if they have known you all your life, it is because your best friend keeps talking about “that special friend”, that is … you.
And we all know what it really means to talk about the same person all the time. It is even likely that they will greet you with jokes such as “so and so has told us a lot about you” or “you are already famous in the group of friends”.
12. Always have a positive opinion and image of you
Does he swear and perjure you that you look beautiful even when you are disheveled and your makeup is smeared? Do you minimize the mistakes you make all the time? Are you precious to him even in the moments when you feel ugliest?
It is completely normal for friends to encourage each other, but also that they can tell each other honestly when something does not favor them or when they made a mistake.
However, if your best friend has a crush on you, you will surely turn out to him absolutely beautiful and perfect no matter how you really look or what you do wrong.
13. Progressively he becomes shyer with you
Before, they talked about everything fluently, had a lot of confidence, and even passed lines of personal space with each other without any problems or discomfort. But now … it seems that he is afraid to touch you or say something that bothers you.
Does it sound familiar to you? When we like a person, we become very aware of everything we do and say, because it is a way of “controlling” the image we give the other and the feelings we provoke in him.
Obviously, if he suddenly begins to give a lot of importance to how you will react if he hugs you or tells you something sensitive, he will have a much more difficult time doing it in the usual spontaneous and natural way.
14. You take your problems personal
Does your friend get genuinely upset or anxious whenever you’re going through some difficulty, as much as if it were happening to him? Do you feel that you have a responsibility to fix all your problems? Do you give excessive importance to everything that happens to you?
It is one thing that we care about friends and another is that we make their life the center of our existence. When that happens, it is almost always because there is infatuation or obsession involved.
15. Try to win over your friends and family
A man in love knows that one of the most direct shortcuts to your heart is the good opinion that your family and your friends have of him. So you will go the extra mile to remember their names, their tastes, and to have details to please them.
You can, for example, buy a round of drinks for your friends or come to visit you with some cookies for your mother.
16. All your jokes (and practically everything you say) seems funny to him
It’s typical: you’re telling your friend that you couldn’t find the toothpaste you like at the supermarket and he laughs like it’s a joke.
But it is not that he is not paying attention to you or thinks that everything you say is a joke: he is unconsciously using laughter to bond with you.
Remember we said that a friend who likes you will always try to make you laugh? Well, in the same way, you will always be forced to laugh or react in some other positive way to everything you say or do.
17. Unnecessary physical contact
Friends are not shy about hugging or squeezing each other affectionately when necessary or if the occasion warrants it; for example, when they say hello, goodbye, emotional support, or compliment.
But, if you notice, it is not all the time. On the other hand, a friend who is in love with you will want to touch you under any pretext, almost as if he were your boyfriend, only that for obvious reasons he does not kiss you on the mouth or venture into “forbidden” areas.
18. Gets jealous and competitive
It is super evident when your boyfriend is jealous because when he is jealous he will probably tell you or show you directly.
But if your best friend goes through that, obviously he will not feel entitled to claim you or want to be exposed, so his jealousy will be more subtle and difficult to detect. Perhaps he masks them behind pretexts such as that that other boy does not suit you or is not a good person.
Pay attention to identify if it causes any discomfort to him that you talk about other friends or suitors, even if he tries to show off or show that he is better when they are with other men.
19. Try to make it clear to others that your relationship is “special.”
Have you noticed that she doesn’t simply present you as “her friend”? What’s more, you may shy away from using that term. This is because he doesn’t want you to think that you are “a friend and nothing else.”
He probably makes a lot of comments about how their relationship is unique to him (and you too). If you ask his other friends, they will tell you – without a doubt – that you have a special place in his heart or that he gets along with you in a “different” way.
20. Try to make yourself jealous
If you see that your friend tries to flirt with other girls only when you are present, and loses interest when you leave, just try to see how you react. If you get jealous, that could mean that you also like him and have a chance with you.
Another of his strategies could be to tell you about his affairs or even make them up. All this he also does to give himself more importance and that you see him as someone more attractive.
21. Makes comments about “being a couple”
When your relationship with your best friend begins to get closer, trust increases and you spend more time together.
It is common for comments such as “we even look like boyfriends” or that he begins to make jokes to test ground. He wants to see how you react to the idea of the two of you ending up as a couple.
22. He always notices when something happens to you
It’s normal for your best friend to always notice when something’s wrong with you and you’re trying to hide it, but men tend to be less observant.
So if you notice that your best friend also has that superpower of guessing (without fail) when you are angry or sad, it may be because he pays much more attention to you than other people. It’s hard to hide our feelings from someone who cares too much about us.
23. Find excuses to spend time alone
We know that your best friend invites you everywhere, but… do they tend to be outings where just the two of you are there? Do you happen to always get two tickets to the movie you want to see or to the concert of your favorite band?
Don’t think this is a coincidence. He knows that the intimacy he desires between the two of them will hardly emerge if there are more people around.
24. Gets irritable
Finally, if your best friend is falling in love with you, that means that he is looking forward to seeing you, that he has high expectations, and that everything that has to do with you affects him a lot.
Therefore, it is normal for him to become especially irritable, without apparent justification, when you are a little late, decline an invitation, or talk about other people. It’s not that he’s a moody or a complainer: it’s that he likes you and doesn’t know how to tell you.
You can be in doubt or you can play blind, but undoubtedly: if your best friend does any of these things, believe me, he is in love with you.
You already have all the signs you need to be able to answer the question: how do I know if my best friend is in love with me? Now you only have to be an observer and decide if you are going to reciprocate the feeling, or not.