Why is your girlfriend feeling insecure?
By their very nature, most girls are calm and warm-hearted, and only life experiences can cause them to manifest signs such as feeling insecure with a man they love. In other words, your girlfriend feeling insecure is not a congenital condition she has or a personality disorder. It is very likely his trust, and a child’s trust had been shattered before. One reason your girlfriend may feel insecure is if you’ve got intimate with her too soon than she wanted or expected. As it stands, security in a relationship can only come into play when partners have first given their minds and their futures before sharing their bodies. Where the body is shared for the first time before the commitment of the mind and the future, the most vulnerable partner may be feeding some fears. Where the above is not the case, it may be that one partner has caught the other on an affair once. Truth be told, if your girlfriend has ever met you with another woman, it can be almost impossible for her to trust you more. And insecurity is the firstborn of lack of confidence. The signs of insecurity can be subtle, especially if they come from a girl who is trying to play maturity with you. However, you have to be very sensitive in order to get to know her and then assure her that she is still all you have. Check the listed signs of insecurity and how to deal with them. If your girlfriend has ever met you with another woman, it can be almost impossible for her to trust you more. And insecurity is the firstborn of lack of confidence. The signs of insecurity can be subtle, especially if they come from a girl who is trying to play maturity with you. However, you have to be very sensitive in order to get to know her and then assure her that she is still all you have. Check the listed signs of insecurity and how to deal with them. If your girlfriend has ever met you with another woman, it can be almost impossible for her to trust you more. And insecurity is the firstborn of lack of confidence. The signs of insecurity can be subtle, especially if they come from a girl who is trying to play maturity with you. However, you have to be very sensitive in order to get to know her and then assure her that she is still all you have. Check the listed signs of insecurity and how to deal with them. You have to be very sensitive to get to know her and then assure her that she is still all you have. Check the listed signs of insecurity and how to deal with them. You have to be very sensitive to get to know her and then assure her that she is still all you have. Check the listed signs of insecurity and how to deal with them.
Signs that your girlfriend is insecure
1. She always wants to know who you are talking to on the phone
You think she’s loving or protective, right? Well, you will soon find their incessant research disturbing and annoying. She asks so she can be sure that you are not conversing with another woman. Unless you deal with the cause of this unnecessary monitoring, it could be the end of your relationship. Trust me; you will get mad at this as time goes by.
2. She constantly checks your messages and call history
It is for the same reason as above that she does this. Because she’s insecure and probably has little confidence in you, she’s not sure you haven’t been chatting with another girl or sending love messages while she was away. This is great with you, right? Of course, I know your answer and just pulling your legs. But your girlfriend is up to no joke here. She really means business, and that is why you need to prepare and deal with the situation.
3. She monitors your whereabouts at all times
Speaking of a secret intelligence gatherer, an insecure girlfriend plays that role perfectly. She watches her itinerary to see if she is deviating in any way from what she said she would do. Your girlfriend may even hire a few people to monitor your movement, and if for an unplanned reason you arrive home a little later than planned, you can organize a protest.
4. Your partner is jealous
Well, sometimes we guys want our ladies to be jealous. That tells us that they are deeply interested in us and that we have their hearts. But trust me, an insecure girlfriend’s jealousy can sting like a snake. You can’t even smile at another girl, and she’ll let it be, no, she must react.
5. You have to constantly affirm it
With an insecure girlfriend, you have to spend every hour telling her that you love her. She doesn’t seem to believe it because right after you told her how much you care, she still comes back with the annoying question “Do you love me?”
6. She plays her own trumpet
Flattery is constantly drawn from the lips of an insecure girlfriend. Without being asked, you would only see her telling you how pretty she is and how well her dress looks on her as if someone had lent you your own eyes that you cannot see. Don’t worry about her; She is insecure.
7. She often feels abandoned
Somehow she just has the feeling of not getting carried away by your plans. She waits until you ask for your consent before she can express her opinions on matters that are obvious and urgent.
8. She is too clingy
This is one of the very obvious signs of insecurity in a girl. She stays so close to you from time to time and barely lets you have your privacy. At the beginning of your relationship, you want to appreciate this. After all, who wouldn’t want his girlfriend to always snuggle up to him and surround him? But as time goes by, you will soon discover the true intention behind this gesture.
9. Their interests become yours
That sounds interesting in a way, doesn’t it? As in, she likes the kind of clothes you like; the food you like is also the same as hers and whatever you appreciate, she appreciates as well. That’s a subtle but classic display of insecurity. She is doing all of that to sell herself to you, and in time, you will get bored.
10. Unannounced visits
Yes, an insecure girlfriend will come to your house multiple times without warning. Of course, he’s following you to see if he can somehow catch you with another girl. You may think it is a surprise visit, but it is not. One way to identify insecurity here is to note the constancy of these unannounced visits. Most of the special things are not done once in a while.
11. She easily gets irritated
If she texts you and you don’t respond right away, an insecure girlfriend is offended by it. She is already entertaining some unfounded suspicion. The normal jokes that you two should easily laugh at becoming offensive to her because she’s taking it all personally now.
12. Don’t you dare make your mistakes
With an insecure girlfriend, you will find that keeping your observations and recommendations on her to yourself is profitable to tell her. She will read meanings with the humblest of advice and will consider that you are criticizing her even when she means well. She just can’t take criticism.
13. All your advice must be heeded
You should follow any advice she gives you if you don’t, you don’t love her. Yes, insecurity in a girl can be as serious as that. Not listening to her advice must mean that someone (besides her) is teaching you outside and that, for her, it is unacceptable.
14. No more friends
Don’t be surprised, she will cut off all her friends to focus on you. In some cases, this may not be intentional, but his obsession with you and what you are doing may have done that to him. She completely forgets that she ever has friends.
15. Everyone except her is wrong
Each of his stories of disappointment ends with a theme “They made me wrong.” She is never the cause of any dispute and never contributes in any way. She is alone and always a victim.
16. She reminds you that she is not your slave
Most of what is presented today as feminism is nothing more than well-packaged insecurity. Show me a woman who constantly reminds me that she is not my slave, and I will show you an insecure woman.
17. She overreacts to provocations
It is not out of place for couples to occasionally step on their feet. When it happens, both parties just have to accept it and move on. But for an insecure girlfriend, she tackles the problem more than necessary, so that a third party may have to intervene before the sleeping dogs can lie.
18. She sounds apologetic
In such situations where you know you’ve overreacted, you see an insecure girlfriend courting your favor in multiple ways in a single day.
19. You can’t keep friends
It is not only with friends that you have a problem; even your male friends are a threat to her. Of course, if you have too many friends, you can be swayed and not have their time again.
20. She is always trying to make fun of you
Do you think you are in a love relationship with an insecure girlfriend? My friend, you are not. You are in serious competition. She should let you know that there is nothing special about what you are doing. Just tell her that you just accomplished a feat and that she will be on her way to breaking your record.
21. She doesn’t know how to lose
If you fail in an effort, it becomes retrospective and feels like a disaster. Your week can be terrible just because of a perceived mistake. But who is that perfect man or woman who does not make mistakes? Regardless, in the mind of your insecure girlfriend, her mistake would give you a chance to be happy for her.
22. She is too preoccupied with material things
Of course, material possessions are your own measure of achievement, and you can’t bear the thought of any of them being harmed.
23. She is mostly pessimistic
Insecurity hardly makes a person think clearly or positively. You will see her panic about things she normally shouldn’t and she always doubts everything.
24. She is mostly unhappy
Your thought is soon reflected on your face and if you are not careful, you may develop an ailment because of it. In very simple language, what this means is that your insecure girlfriend would not experience reassurance and it would show on her face.
25. She can prevent you from having access to your family
Are you surprised? I don’t know. Women have that non-combative power to make men dance to their songs. Insecurity can make you no longer want to be around any of your family members.
26. She wants to be in charge
Only insecurity fights for leadership or who is in charge. You would constantly notice this in your girlfriend if she is one.
27. She is not very free with you
Except that a person is outside himself/herself, he/she cannot properly relate to others. There would be an unnecessary fear that others will treat them with bad intentions. Therefore, your insecure girlfriend would find it difficult to open up to you in the deepest longings of her heart. She will prefer to bottle.
28. Don’t you dare express too much joy to her
An insecure girlfriend would want you to mirror her. She will want to make you feel as insecure as she is. No matter your achievement, she doesn’t appreciate your rejoicing like that over it.
29. She checks your browsing history
God bless you if she sees something she finds offensive there. It will not be saved and the crack it can cause can take weeks to resolve.
How to deal with insecurity in your girlfriend
The key to dealing with insecurity in your girlfriend is to redouble your effort to convey the message “I love you.” She needs to see and feel that you really love her. Again, you must help her regain her self-esteem. Prolonged internal insecurity leads to a loss of self-esteem. You may want to consider these few tips to help your girlfriend get out of her insecure state. 1. Be very gentle with her. Okay, some of the signs discussed above can be irritating, but now that you know what the problem is, you will have to take it easy. 2. Get close to her physically. Cuddle with her frequently, hold her hands frequently, hug her, and constantly place your hand on her shoulder. 3. Show her that you are vulnerable too by sharing your fears and feelings with her. Constantly seek their opinion on topics that are challenging for you as much as possible, carry out some of their recommendations. 4. Don’t wait until she starts congratulating herself. Be good with words. 5. Be honest with her. Do not give occasions for suspicion. If you don’t want to make a deal, let him know beforehand.