4 Strategic Ways to Respond to Your Ex’s Messages

“My ex texted me, what does that mean and how do I respond to it?”

Here is detailed effective advice on how to respond to an ex-boyfriend.

After all, he went to the trouble of getting to you.

But your mind is probably working overtime trying to figure out how to respond to an ex who is contacting you and apparently wants you back.

10 Questions On How To Reply To Texts From Your Ex You’ve Been Dying To Ask!

One of the things you will learn today is not just how to respond to an ex who is asking how you are doing, but let me give you some answers right now on how to handle a whole variety of text messages he may send you such as:

1. When My Ex Texts Me, “I Miss You”.

He might miss you terribly, but if you’re in the midst of the no-contact period, be strong.

The dopamine rush he was used to feel when you were around is missing.

He desperately needs to fix this.

Don’t give it to him yet.

Play your cards correctly, you can create greater value.

2. When Your Ex-Boyfriend Texts You Out of Nowhere, What Does It Mean?

It probably means he’s curious about you.

Maybe he’s a nice guy and just says hello.

But more often than not, he’s measuring the post-breakup mood to see if you’re open to talking.

So he might be testing you to get a read on your willingness to reconsider.

Depending on where you are in the process of recovering and getting over your ex, it may be appropriate to ignore them or to slowly respond and repair the lines of communication.

3. When Your Ex Texts You, “Hello” Or “What’s Up” Or He Says “Are You Missing Me?”

These weak little messages are just that: weak, poor imitations of real conversations.

So if you are within the no-contact period, just ignore them.

4. What do you do if your ex-boyfriend confesses he made a mistake leaving you or asks you to forgive him?

If he acts this way right after the breakup, you’re better off ignoring him in most situations.

It is more likely that he is feeling it and is desperate for some attention.

But he may not have really learned his lesson.

Now, there are exceptions.

If the relationship history was strong, maybe he made a serious mistake and is willing to meet with you and offer a sincere apology.

5. How Do You Respond to Your Ex Who Says, “I Love You”

Well, maybe your ex really loves you.

On the other hand, he may love himself more and wants you to be around to ease the pain.

You have to ask yourself, did you have enough time for the wounds of separation to heal?

Stay true to your plan, focus on your recovery and regain your confidence.

If he loves you so much, he’s not going anywhere.

6. And How Do You Deal With It When Your Ex’s Girlfriend Texts You Asking Questions About Him? 

Listening to your ex’s girlfriend can be a little awkward.

If she’s looking for advice about her ex-boyfriend, tell him he’s a wonderful man.

Use a little reverse psychology.

If you say something negative about your ex, she may run to him to use what you said against you.

7. Why Is He Texting You So Often? Are There Reasons Your Ex Texts You So Much? This is good or bad. What does that mean?

It probably means he’s a little crazy.

If your ex is texting you, it could be for any number of reasons.

He can be impulsive and insecure and you are his rock.

So in that way, he is using you.

Or he could be having a panic attack and just can’t contain himself.

On the other hand, your ex might be a real shameless one and is just harassing you with his texts.

8. What If He Texts Me Every Day, But I’m Not Interested. How do I get him to stop?

You have two choices.

Block him or send him a nice reply, explaining that you are in a different place in your life right now, and ask him to respect your privacy and stop texting him.

9. I’ve been trying to avoid my ex-boyfriend, but what if he texts me during no contact. Should I Break The Silence? I’m Afraid Of Losing Him.

It’s a common fear that people have.

They fear that if they don’t respond to their ex’s text message, he’ll give up on them and everything will be gone forever.

It rarely happens.

It’s much better to stick with the cut-contact strategy.

If needed, you can always send him a text explaining that you need some space and won’t be communicating for the next few weeks to heal, move on, and focus on other important things.

10. What If He Messages Me With Good Things To Say. Should I Break the No Contact Rule and Give Him Another Chance?

It might be a time when you make an exception if certain factors fall into place.

If you’ve been out of touch for a reasonable amount of time and your relationship history has been good with him, it would be good to respond and proceed slowly.

Now let’s review some texting essentials to get your ex back!

What are your chances of getting your ex-boyfriend back?

When Should You Reply to Your Ex’s Text Messages?

One of the biggest mistakes I see men and women make when it comes to texting their ex is that they text too soon.

You can get so excited seeing your ex chasing you that you’ve just dropped everything you’re doing.

It doesn’t matter that he just texted and didn’t call you.

Or that it’s only been 4 days since the breakup.

You were probably so invested in the relationship and you miss him so much, that you’re dying to hear what he has to say.

Unfortunately, problems often arise when you feel desperate to start communications again.

It’s really important that you first implement the no contact rule when you’re thinking about texting and follow this rule to the letter.


Well, it can do a lot of things for you, but mostly it’s to make sure you don’t act this way.

So, What Are 5 Situations When You Can Reply to a Text From Your Ex?

Implement ‘No Contact’ to Set the Stage for Future Text Messages

You guessed.

Don’t go back right after your ex’s text messages until you’ve implemented ‘no contact’.

If you do this sooner, before or after non-contact, you’re in trouble.

Feelings of anger and resentment are on the surface soon after the breakup.

Much more often than not, you and your ex are going to headbutt each other.

2. First, take some time to heal before trying to reply to his messages.

Before responding to your ex-boyfriend, make sure you’ve invested enough time to heal.

Breakups are difficult for couples and you will be hurting emotionally and physically.

When your ex-boyfriend breaks up with you, it feels like a punch in the gut.

You will be confused, stunned… All sorts of emotions will flood your mind.

Therefore, you need quality time to allow your body and mind to release those stress hormones and recover.

3. Make Sure You Create Value To Attract Your Ex

You shouldn’t even think about replying to your ex’s text messages until you’ve had enough time to generate value.

I’m not saying you’re still not an amazing person.

But there are things you can do to make your ex see that he made a mistake.

You want to reinforce that you have some special qualities that he has taken for granted, and along the way pick up some new things that will make him sit back and notice.

You can do a lot of things to become the best version of yourself and make sure he knows that.

4. Briefly Explain to Your Ex Why You Need Space (Instead of Just Gone With No Explanation)

On some occasions, it serves to let your ex know why you are adopting the no contact rule.

This works well in situations where you believe he will react very badly if you completely shut down communications without him knowing why.

You can briefly explain that you need to get in touch with your feelings and work on personal goals.

While your ex-boyfriend may still feel rejected and frustrated by your explanation, it shows that you are an elegant person and of high value for a long-term relationship.

5. Reply to Your Ex’s Message If You Deem It Critical Or Emergency Information.

Remember, before texting your ex, make sure you’ve gone through a period of no contact, where you’ve created some space and a blackout in communications with your ex.

If an emergency has occurred, it is understandable for you to respond.

If there is important information that you need to exchange, be sure to answer it and then return to non-contact.

When You Shouldn’t Reply to Your Ex’s Text Message

Just to make sure we’re on the same wavelength, there are certain conditions that must be met before you can text him as I described above.

However, you should know that there are certain tricks and ploys your ex-boyfriend can try on you to get you to respond.

These text rules apply before, during, and after the no contact period.

Let’s look at the situations in which you should avoid replying to his text messages:

  • Immediately after separation (24 hours). This period can lead to all kinds of chaos. Better let things settle down a little
  • When your ex is being sarcastic or bitter about what happened between the two of you.
  • Your ex sends you a desperate request to meet with you to discuss the breakup.
  • When you feel angry and resentful.
  • Fight those urges to text him, because that will make things worse.
  • Avoid texting after the no-contact period if you’re not sure if he’s the right guy for you.
  • Don’t reply to his text messages if you’ve already decided to move on and end the relationship permanently.