4 Truths About Trust That Determine Or Break If You Find Love

Here’s the truth (and you’ve heard it before) – If your self-confidence isn’t solid, no matter how good you look or how much you want to find love… you’re not ready for a truly great relationship.

Your confidence is at the heart of everything you attract or repel in your love life.

It makes all the difference in the types of relationships you attract (or don’t) and the potential dating partners who find you…or avoid you.

Your general health and well-being are also directly linked to your level of self-esteem.

Life has an ironic way of reflecting the exact way you feel about yourself, and you’re more likely to be attracting men who match your current level of confidence.

Sure, you might think your confidence is rock solid; however, if you’re not attracting high-quality men ready for a relationship, a surefire way to find out why is to listen to your own inner dialogue… If your reasons for being single sound something like this:

  • “I have to fight to get what I want”
  • “If you don’t like me, it’s your loss”
  • “I can’t trust everyone”
  • “I have to protect myself so I don’t get hurt.”
  • “I’ll be passed over if I’m not careful.”
  • “I will never get hurt again…”
  • “I’m not worth it.”
  • “I’m too fat, so why bother?
  • This will never work for me.”

There is a chance that your confidence needs a tune-up and you are looking for a relationship that makes you feel better about YOU rather than to actually finding a partner to share your love and your life with.

This self-talk reflects that your confidence level is NOT in a good place to attract the high-quality man you want and deserve.

When you are confident, you are comfortable in your own skin; you like who you are, and what you represent in the world is positive and attractive.

To Help Strengthen Your Sense Of Identity, Here Are Four Essential Things About Authentic Trust That You Should Know:

1 . Having Confidence Is A Choice (And A Habit)

Confidence is not something like the green, blue, or brown eyes you were born with.

Trust is an ongoing relationship with yourself.

Your own confidence is like a plant that needs to be watered and nurtured daily, especially when you are getting ready for a serious relationship.

Confidence doesn’t mean you have to embody the most charismatic and outgoing.

In fact, confidence has nothing to do with being introverted or extroverted.

However, it’s all about you taking the time to appreciate yourself.

2 . Trust Fluctuates Over Time, Not Static Or At A Perfect Level

The question is – are you committed to creating (and maintaining) a great level of trust and a relationship with yourself?

Let’s do a quick inventory.

On a confidence scale of one to ten (ten being high and one being low), check your own gut instinct and find the number you would rate your current level of overall confidence in yourself.

If you wrote that your confidence is 5, know that it will fluctuate between 4 and 6.

And you will typically attract partners with a trusted average of 5 as well.

If you want to raise the level of your “attraction magnet” for men, you must increase your confidence.

3 . Confidence Grows In Slow, Steady Steps (Not Giant Leaps)

Many of you simply wallow in “perfectionist” thinking – “If I am four, how do I quickly get to ten?” In this situation, she would say it’s more realistic to ask herself, “If I’m a four, how can I get to a five?” And if you’re five: “How am I going to get to six?”

4 . The Work Of Trust Doesn’t Stop When A Man Shows Up

Often, women work diligently on their self-esteem and confidence while they are single, but once they find a man, they stop working on themselves to focus all their energy on the relationship.

As a result, his emerging confidence quickly recedes, which drives the guy he fell in love with (what he thought was) a confident woman.

Men ready for a relationship can sense your level of trust and this can cause them to be magnetically attracted to you or mysteriously disappear.

So, What Should You Do If Your Confidence Needs Some Work?

You might want to stop dating for a while and focus your energy on yourself.

Self-prioritization does not mean being selfish.

It means that you recognize your responsibility to create the life you want for yourself.

This time, “solo” is about your development.

It’s about choosing to boost your confidence, valuing yourself at the deepest level, and taking responsibility for being the fullest version of yourself, without excuses or embarrassment.

Once you are clear about your confidence level and how it appears when you present yourself on dates, you can increase your relationship readiness and ultimately attract quality men to you.

But most importantly, you will have the courage to go after what you want, knowing that you don’t have to be content because you are actually releasing energy that is congruent with who you really are.

And from that authentically confident space, you will naturally begin to attract the man you dream of, the perfect man for you.