Having and raising children is the most important event in a couple’s life. It is a daily challenge that requires sacrifices, time, and money and should therefore not be taken lightly.
It is important to ask the right questions before having your first child to be sure that you have the same vision for the future. Raising kids is a team effort, so it’s important that you both are on the same page to successfully complete this challenge.
There are of course hundreds of questions you will need to grapple with. And most of them will have to have a clear answer. But to keep it simple, here is a list of just 5 questions to ask yourself before having a baby. 5 questions that are important to all couples.
So sit comfortably with your man or woman and start responding to them. It may take several days and you will surely have to come back to a few points in the future… But for now, good luck!
HOW MANY CHILDREN TO HAVE? AT WHAT INTERVAL
It is important to know everyone’s wishes from the start. Maybe your husband wants 3 kids and you’re about to have just one. Weigh the pros and cons, and remember that you may change your mind later.
WHAT TO DO IN CASE OF INFERTILITY
WHAT WILL BE THE SHARING OF ROLES IN THE COUPLE?
In the 21st century, men and women are much more equal when it comes to raising children and participating in daily chores. But are you sure you are with a modern man who will help you? Will your husband be there to change the baby’s diapers, get up at night for the bottle? It is important that you do not find yourself alone when the time comes. Discuss who will do what. My advice is to share.
ARE YOU READY TO MAKE SACRIFICES FOR YOUR CHILDREN?
Having a child often means a break in a woman’s career. If you are a student, you will probably have to put your studies aside for the first few months. Your man will also probably have to give up going to see football games with his friends every night.
Being parents is a lot of sacrifices. Your married life will be changed, and you will probably have to make sacrifices on some things. But remember, watching your children grow up healthy and happy will reward you.
HOW TO EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN? WHO WILL HAVE THE FINAL SAY ON WHAT?
Discuss it with your husband or wife, but chances are you haven’t been educated in the same way. Maybe your parents were very strict, while your husband’s were cooler.
Agree on the type of education you will give your future child. It is important that there is not a nice parent and a bad parent in the relationship.
BONUS: WHAT RELIGION OR CULTURE WILL YOUR CHILDREN HAVE?
If you don’t have the same religion or come from different countries and cultures, you will need to agree on the heritage and religion you will give to your baby.