In an ideal world, all of our relationships would be successful and help achieve a goal. Unfortunately, the trials and tribulations of life often derail our best intentions. We enter into relationships that are all about making things work and giving our all to someone else. But as with countless other things, relationships are fallible. Relationships will always be fallible because human beings are fallible.
People break up all the time. This often leads to a sincere desire to bring things back to “what they were”. It is a very natural human emotion.
Relationship experts constantly stress the importance of communication in any type of mutual partnership: friendship, marriage, dating, etc. It is often the breakdown in communication between two people that ends up leading to the failure of a relationship. This is mentioned because each of the “signs” mentioned below has one common denominator: lack of communication. Keep that in mind.
HERE ARE 5 SIGNS THAT YOUR PARTNER TAKES YOU FORGED:
1. THEY ARE STILL GONE
Remember during those initial stages of a relationship when we are seemingly still attached to the other person? Well, it is indeed a “phase” for most of us … on some level. It’s normal that as the relationship grows, we strive for a little more independence and time alone. After all, we’re together quite often, and doing things without each other is healthy … again, on some level.
Many people who have fallen victim to a failed relationship have been shunned by their partner. Perhaps the relationship is a bit more complex – the children involved, finances, home ownership, etc. – and they can’t or won’t disengage completely. In this case, they will just go away for long periods of time without much explanation.
2. THEY DISPLAY A SERIOUS LACK OF CONFIDENCE
A great unwarranted lack of confidence is an affront to another person’s character. Essentially, they take for granted the basis on which the relationship was established. When a person can’t trust their partner’s word, it’s often at the end of a relationship.
They are confident enough to enter into a relationship; but for some reason they irrationally doubt the other person’s intentions. In a sense, it’s a lack of commitment; a lack of commitment that could easily be overcome if they were willing to engage in constructive dialogue. The problem is that they are often unwilling to do it. In fact, many partners with trust issues have them because of their own self-image and ego.
3. CONVERSATIONS ARE ONE-SIDE
One of the best ways to show someone you love them is to listen. How many times have we heard “he/she is not listening enough?” This is perhaps the most common complaint that partner/couple therapists hear. This problem usually manifests itself in two ways: either we’re still talking or it’s them. Either way, the conversation is a one-way street.
When we don’t make a conscious effort to actively listen to our partner, we show a blatant level of disrespect. When we don’t make an effort to engage in meaningful dialogue, we display a blatant level of disrespect. The bottom line is that effective two-way communication is essential for a healthy relationship.
4. THEY DO NOT KEEP THEIR COMMITMENTS
How many of us remember their first date or their first serious relationship? When we gave our word that we would be somewhere at some point, we were there. Granted, some of that meticulousness may have been during the “honeymoon phase,” but we did our best to be there.
As with most relationships that develop, it’s okay to be a little more lax about our necessary presence. We feel comfortable, we think we know the other person’s well-meaning intentions… so we just let it slip. Then we let slide some more, until we realize something is wrong.
5. THEY SHOW A LACK OF EMPATHY
Of all the signs mentioned above, this can be the most hurtful. In a relationship, empathy, at its core, is an expression of love. When we are separated from another person’s feelings, we are effectively withholding the emotional feedback that they need at some point. It’s something we do to someone who has irretrievably lost our interest.
When we’re in love with someone, it’s human to be sensitive to their thoughts and feelings. When that no longer becomes the case, someone is taken for granted in the worst way imaginable. No one in any relationship should have to go through this.
