Staying close to your ex is like having Gremlins: it’s better not to feed them after midnight. If you don’t set specific rules, the situation can quickly get out of hand. To help you get out of it, here are 6 signs that will help you analyze the behavior of your hopeful former partners.
In the great game of sentimental relationships, there is an unchanging rule, which our friends and our favorite romantic comedies have harped on until we are thirsty: we must flee our exes like the plague. We should delete his number, never see him again, never talk to him again, and ignore him if we come across him on the street, as if our common past was a dangerous airborne virus. A long sentence even circulates to justify this extreme policy of the gulag: “If two ex manage to remain friends , it is either that they are still in love, or that they have never been”.
Obviously, this generalization is absurd. It is not enough that we affix the label of ex to someone for it to be circumscribed forever in the meanders of our past. Very beautiful friendships sometimes arise from dead love, and one can create during a relationship bonds that are more solid than the failure of the couple in itself. However, keeping your ex in your life necessarily leads to a certain amount of uncertainty and ambiguity: it is not always easy to know on which foot to dance. Little decryption of the signs that show that your ex is still chasing you, just to clarify the situation.
1- He watches all your actions on social networks
If he had never bothered to love your profile photo during your 5 years together, but suddenly began to bury you under an avalanche of likes, ask yourself questions: after a study by the psychology department of the University of Brunel, 1/3 of people track their ex-partners on social networks after a breakup to fill a gap and maintain a link with the person, as fictional as it is . It is a way to stay in the life of the other, to artificially become embedded in his daily life. And not only is it a bit creepy, but it’s not a good sign.
2- He calls you or sends you messages late at night
Although technology blurs borders, there are unspoken rules of use when it comes to telephone exchanges. As a general rule, we don’t make a phone call to a client at 9 p.m. to tell them about a contract, for example. After 8 p.m., telephone exchanges become more private , and after midnight, they are normally limited to our intimate sphere: our best friend, our partner … And even if you are in contact with your ex, you must take care to maintain barriers, which it clearly exceeds when it leaves you an alcoholic and stammering message at 2 a.m. No need to have done the ENA to understand …
3- They criticize your new crush / partner