Make Your Marriage Stronger
Fabio and Lara spent the first years of their marriage in ecstasy; everything was very magical and wonderful.
As the marriage progressed, the couple noticed that they no longer had emotionally satisfying moments.
What Fabio and Lara tried to stop was happening.
They wanted the marriage to work out, but they realized that the marriage wasn’t as strong anymore and they were drifting away.
The gap between them continued to widen every day.
They held a meeting and resolved to take steps to prevent their marriage from collapsing and to strengthen it.
What are some things you can do as a couple to also strengthen your marriage if it is going through turbulent times?
There are certain steps you can take to make your marriage better and stronger, even if it’s going well right now.
I want to share with you these tips to strengthen your marriage.
Relive Good Memories
There have been events in the past, days in your marriage, where you had some wonderful times that made you both laugh as a couple or made you feel good about yourself, your spouse, and your marriage.
Some of these events and days could be the day your spouse bought you a great gift that you will never forget, or the day your spouse came home, seduced you into the bedroom, and provided the most amazing lovemaking sessions you’ve ever had. , or a time when your spouse said something so romantic you can never forget.
Set aside specific days that you can remember as a couple, talk about these experiences, refresh your mind about them, make jokes and laugh about them.
The first Sunday of each month is a good time to schedule this activity.
This activity will help your marriage in two ways:
- This will help you to bond as a couple as you have a good time together and reminisce about the good times you had in the past.
- The memories you bring back can serve as motivation to make you work hard to keep your marriage going.
Let The Romance Exciting
There are certain activities you can get involved in to strengthen your marriage.
Some of these activities include making your romantic life more exciting.
You can choose to book certain Saturdays of the year when you can have meetings at your home.
Make it a regular part of your married life.
This will help make your marriage better than ever.
On these days, prepare a meal and take it to your room.
Eat your meal while romantic music plays in the background.
While eating, create jokes and laugh out loud.
Do fun things for each other.
Focus on taking the time to mentally connect while talking and eating.
Appreciate your spouse telling him twenty things you like about his body.
After the meal, dance while you’re holding each other, to the music playing in the living room.
As you dance, kiss until feelings build up to the point where both of you want to do something…
This is one of the ways to strengthen your marriage.
Having these regular meetings at home has some advantages:
- They are economical – you don’t have to spend a lot of money and time to organize them.
- You can prepare the meal with the food available in the house, which will save you money that you would use to pay the bills at a restaurant.
- This will save your time.
- You will not need to travel to a restaurant that may be located far from your home.
- It also means that you can have these meetings during the week after work.
- This will give you the privacy to do things you can’t do in a public place, like laugh out loud and be playful.
Leave Your Office Behind
Some spouses bring work from the office to the home and make the home an “extension” of the workplace.
Instead of focusing on the spouse, talking to find out how the spouse did at work and providing moral support if needed, s/he plunges into more work.
This doesn’t make you seem like a caring spouse, and it can make the other person angry and lonely, as they expect you to give them your undivided attention when you return home.
So if you want to improve your marriage, when you get back home, leave all the work behind and leave the irritations and frustrations you’ve been through so much behind you.
Don’t mentally carry the office around at home, even if you leave physical paperwork behind or put your laptop aside.
Make up your mind to give your spouse your full attention and talk with him or her for the rest of the night.
This will help you to talk about outstanding conflicts, reassure each other out of love for yourself, and share ideas about how you will make progress as a family.
Leaving your office behind has another advantage.
This will help you to regenerate while relaxing and talking to your spouse, and it will positively affect your productivity, in the sense that mental rest at home will help you stay alert and creative, so you can maintain or increase your productivity at home. work the next day.
Learn to Forgo the Individual Needs of Couples
As a couple, you may have the same psychological needs, and many of your social needs may also be the same.
Your spouse may ask you to play your part in meeting many of these needs.
You must be prepared to satisfy your spouse, even if you have to subdue your own personal needs in the process, if you want to strengthen your marriage.
For example, if you are a husband who is working very hard to earn money to support the family, so much so that you do not have time with your wife and she feels neglected and tells you about it, you may need to set aside some responsibilities at work so you can free up a little and spend more time on it.
If you are a wife, for example, and your husband feels that you are abusing the family finances because you are buying too many ostentatious goods, like jewelry or shoes, and he wants you to cut back on these things so that you can contribute to school expenses or the children’s hospital or pharmacy bills, you must sacrifice your desire to buy these things and humbly agree with him.
This will prevent quarrels and quarrels, which tend to weaken the bond in the marriage.
How do you improve your marriage?
Communication is a two-way exchange of information, understanding and ideas – you try to convey an idea or understanding to your spouse so he can take action and he wants you to understand information that will benefit the marriage in the long run.
Some couples make the mistake of thinking that because they are talking to their spouse, they are communicating. Talking to people is not communicating.
Talking to your spouse doesn’t mean you are communicating.
Talking to people is less productive.
When you talk to your spouse, especially when you’re angry, it can make them feel like they’re treating you in a condescending way.
Everyone is proud of themselves, and when your spouse feels that what you are saying to them is demeaning, they will respond in anger, and this can lead to fights.
If you want to strengthen your marriage, talk to your spouse and actively listen to their opinions.
When you are angry and want to communicate with your spouse:
- Take a quick deep breath to help you calm down.
- Then, respectfully, talk to him about any issues that are bothering you.
- Make eye contact.
- Look into his face and speak slowly and gently so that your spouse will be able to assimilate and act.
If your spouse wants to express a concern or convey some vital information to you, stop whatever you’re doing so you can listen.
If you are watching a football game and your wife wants to pass on some information to you, it would be respectful to turn off the television, give her your full attention and listen to this information; turning off the television for a few minutes will not kill you.
If your husband wants to tell you something while you’re cooking and at the same time the baby is crying, apologize for a few seconds if it’s not convenient to talk to him at that time.
Wait until you can listen fully before listening to this concern.
Not actively listening is rude, it’s a bad way to communicate, and it can make your spouse feel unwanted.
If this continues, your spouse may find someone who will give you the attention you want.
Communicating well is one of the things you can do to strengthen your marriage.
Show Consistent Actions
A spouse generally responds well to a good spouse who shows consistent behavior, a spouse who is predictable in his or her actions.
When you are consistent in your behavior, it helps build trust in your marriage.
Trust is extremely essential in any relationship, especially a marriage.
When there is trust, you feel more relaxed, and this makes you more able to please your spouse, which is an important part of strengthening your marriage.
Your spouse will quickly distrust you when you’re hot and cold, when you don’t keep your promises, and when your actions are inconsistent with what you say.
And when your spouse doesn’t trust you, your commitment to the relationship is weakened and the marriage cannot be strengthened.
Showing consistency in your actions is one of the ways to make your marriage better and stronger.
This gives your spouse a sense of security, as he knows you can trust him, and when he thinks he can trust you, he is also willing to give his marriage his all to make it work and become stronger.
If you want your marriage to last until death separates you and your spouse, do your best to make it stronger.
When you are strong, there will be no fear of a breakup or divorce, and you will be able to enjoy your short stay on Earth.