“You never lose when you love. You always lose when you hold back. “- Barbara de Angelis
The relationships that add value to our lives are essential for our well-being and happiness.
And the role we play in those relationships is what matters most.
When a relationship is going through a difficult time, we often look at the other person and point out all the things that are annoying as if that person is the only one at fault. The reality is we should watch our behaviors because that’s all we can control …
HERE ARE 6 TIPS TO BECOME A BETTER PARTNER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS:
1. REACT LESS
In the midst of emotional situations, it is a natural reaction to overreact. It is easy to see when the other person is overreacting. However, we are not as likely to recognize our own over-reactions.
Our actions evolve based on how we feel. Responding less doesn’t mean ignoring or minimizing problems, it just means we are in control of our reaction. The key to reacting less is choosing to act on what we want to feel, not how we feel.
2. STOP COMPLAINING, START EXCLAMING YOURSELF
The average person complains between 15 and 30 times a day. That’s a lot of complaints, and almost everyone is to blame. Of course, removing the urge to complain is easier said than done. You must first recognize and understand what you are complaining about. Once you understand why you are complaining, you have two ways to act: You can accept the situation, or you can change it.
Once you’re ready to change, start by exclaiming yourself about what you’re going to do about it, and do it. When you repeat powerful positive mantras that train your brain to create thoughts, words, and ultimately actions, you are quickly making changes in the areas you are complaining about.
3. LEAVE YOUR LUGGAGE
We all have luggage. Whether it’s the expectations we carry with us from childhood or the experiences of past relationships, baggage prevents us from realizing the true potential of our current relationships.
Everyone at one point or another has felt lonely or empty. No matter what we have, we always feel like something is missing. You have to get to know your true Self.
4. ENHANCE THE OPPOSITE POINT OF VIEW
When we disagree, it’s usually because one person has an opinion, and the other has their opposite. When we defend our point of view, we look for evidence to support our point of view, and we keep looking until we can “win”.
Imagine what would happen if you changed sides? Instead of gathering evidence to support your point, start gathering evidence to support the other side of the story.
5. PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL DETAILS
People in a relationship are often told “not to take everything seriously”. Paying attention to the little details in relationships can be a good thing when you’re minding your own business, instead of your partner’s.
There are a lot of things your partner does that annoy you: leaving their laundry on the floor, not turning off their phone during dinner, or forgetting to take out the trash, every day. Now think about all the little things you are doing that may upset your partner. It’s these disturbing little things that can create real conflict in a relationship.
So instead of taking the “don’t take everything seriously” attitude, try to pay attention to the little details for a while, it will ease the tension in your relationship.
6. ASK FOR A FAVOR
The Benjamin Franklin Effect assumes that we are doing good things for the people we love and bad things for those we don’t. However, psychology says otherwise, which causes us to love people when we do nice things for them.
In short, asking for and receiving a favor generates good feelings on both sides. Do you want to eliminate negative feelings and build good rapport? Don’t hesitate to ask her for a favor, and don’t be afraid to offer one yourself.