8 misconceptions about romantic relationships

Whether you are a couple or not, we know all these 8 myths about romantic relationships! Sometimes, some are so ingrained in our brains that we can be surprised to make them truthful and to believe them as hard as iron! Today we are here to break these myths! Break these ideally designed images to reassure us that it would be more effective to ask better questions! Let’s go!

1) The saying: Who looks alike assembles

Although it is important to have hobbies, the same vision for the future and common tastes within the couple to be able to share more things together that we both love, it is also necessary not to find ourselves with a complete certified copy of yourself. Thus, you will keep a certain uniqueness in your relationship and you will continue to have things to learn from each other.

Best question to ask yourself: Do we have the same values (eg family, loyalty, surpassing yourself, freedom, money, creativity, etc.)? If you don’t know your values, you can always take a test to find them or just ask yourself: What are the points in my life that I will never give up and that I can fight for?

Then ask yourself the questions: Do we have the same vision for the future? The same passions? Does what he does in his life really interest me? (thus, you will be able to speak together about your passions, and work without that it does not harm you in energy!)

2) When we love each other, there is always a passion

The passion in the couple always ends up fading one day or the other to give way to intimacy and to a life in two more intimate and without taboos or superfluous. It is an obligatory stage through which the couple goes and it is important to welcome it as it should and without regrets from the old days. It’s a new start for two, a new stage, and a new way of loving! It is also important to maintain passion and desire, to remain attentive and caring for better shared moments and a better understanding within the couple! It’s up to you to be creative!

3) When we really love each other, we don’t argue

All couples are fighting! Even your youtubers, instagramers or celebrities argue! If this happens to you as a couple, know that this is a normal or even essential step for the good development of the couple, yourself or your darling! On the other hand, it is essential that your disagreements remain respectful, without insults, without violence, without hurtful words and without humiliation or domination! When a couple quarrels, it means something. This can be due to an unsaid, which can unfortunately make the argument more virulent because the person does not know how to detach from his violent emotion and wants a lot from his partner, when he could express it calmly … But that requires real work on oneself and on the control of one’s emotions.

The best question to ask yourself: Why do I feel angry? Would my partner have flouted one of my values ​​or something that is dear to my heart? Don’t I feel heard enough? Are my needs not being met enough by my partner?

4) Children provide access to happiness as a couple

A child is neither an object nor a means of achieving happiness. If you are not happy, you will not be happy with it! Far too many couples have children without really thinking about what it entails and before they even get to know each other before! Children, once it’s done it’s for life and the bond that you will have with the father and the mother also because of this! We don’t make a child to repair a couple, legitimize it or consolidate it…

A child must be desired by two and come from the fruit of great shared happiness! Selfishness has no place in the conception of a child and ask yourself if he would be happy to live in the environment that you offer him (love, family,…). Also, just because you don’t want children in your relationship doesn’t mean that the couple is fucked up or that you don’t like each other. There are lots of couples without children who love each other more and healthier than couples with 5 children under their arms! Live your love your way as you do it so well every day, strike out the sentences that society wants to instill in us, and enjoy!

5) A loving couple shares absolutely everything

Some people have the annoying tendency to believe that when you love yourself, you have to share everything, say everything and be constantly together. Here you have all the ingredients for a superb break or a great twist of cable gratin with herbs! It is more than necessary, it is even VITAL to spend time alone to recharge your batteries, move towards your own projects, practice your hobbies, and what makes us happy!

So if you are emotionally dependent, and you find it hard to be happy without your partner, go out, treat yourself, do things that you like but let him live his life! There is nothing better than an independent person who lives his life and who does things to move towards his dreams to better find himself and to feel more desire! And know that a person who can not be happy without his partner, is a real problem (both for her and for the couple) and more is less attractive! Because indeed, what we are looking for is a person who is already happy alone who with us will be happier and fulfilled!

6) To be happy as a couple, you don’t need a routine

Do not confuse routine and boredom! Boredom within the couple can indeed harm your couple, while the routine is something important in the couple! You will see, you may even find yourself enjoying it! Routine makes it possible to create cement in your relationship, to appreciate moments of relaxation that are yours alone, to forge your couple, to appreciate you for your fair value, to share intimate or futile moments that you adore!

It is interesting to see that following a breakup, what we miss most is precisely this routine! These little moments of everyday life, these little habits that made our couple a pretty love nest! While it’s important to do things together, share new things, and hang out, the routine is not to be thrown out!

7) Marriage is the beginning of the end

A marriage is the union between two beings from a civil and sometimes religious point of view. You have duties towards each other and especially during difficult moments in life (serious illness, etc.). The marriage decided well in advance strengthens the love and allows the couple to commit to a life in two for a new start.

Whether you get married or not, in any case know that it is not and will never be the reason for the end of the passion in your couple! Be responsible for your choices, do not blame the marriage (he did nothing to you poor), and act with convictions, love, and respect.

8) The saying: Opposites attract

Although we can find love in someone radically different from us, and it can be nice to discover new things, the fact remains that it is important that there are common foundations for the couple to last! The same vision of the future as well as common values ​​are essential elements for the good understanding of the couple!

I hope you enjoyed this article and that it helped you to put aside these myths to focus on much better questions in your relationship and in your life.