Living with insecure men isn’t just hard work, it can have a devastating impact on your well-being and emotional health, as well as your marriage.
There are few things more defeating than knowing that you are a faithful, loyal, caring and motivated girlfriend or wife; however, you have a partner who is continually suspicious, and suspicious, and who rarely stops questioning many of your actions and motives.
Many women simply try harder to keep their husbands happy.
At some point, the task simply becomes too frustrating, tiring, and overwhelming, and the resentment becomes too much to contain.
When a woman can’t take it anymore and finally comes to an end, she sometimes announces that she can’t take it anymore.
She feels the demands are too great.
No matter how hard she tries; he will always find a new area in which he doesn’t measure up.
Some of the signs of an insecure man can include:
1. He Questions Your Motives All the Time.
You know you are working hard to take care of your family and your man.
You know you rarely have time to take care of yourself or do something you would like to do.
No matter how hard you work, he still finds ways to question your motives and expresses doubts that you really care as you say.
2. He Saves Things To Throw In His Face Later.
You find that he never forgets the time he was able to hang out with his friends or was able to visit his mother.
He’s told you countless times how many times you’ve had the opportunity to go out without him compared to how many times he’s managed to go out without you.
If he goes out without you more often, there’s always a reason why most of his dates don’t count, but yours always do.
3. He Believes You Always Have a Hidden Agenda.
No matter what your reasoning behind your actions and what you have to say, he always read between the lines.
He can read things in your face, in the tone of your voice, or in the words you choose.
He is quick to attribute negative motives to you and accuse you of things you would never say, do or think about.
It happens so often that every now and then you start to think, “I might end up doing this since he’s always accusing me of doing it.”
4. Discussing Almost Always Becomes Defensive Instead of Seeking a Solution to Problems.
Sometimes you try to defend yourself when the accusations start.
Sometimes you just try to get over it.
If you defend yourself, he turns into a swamp of pointing and blaming fingers.
He is quick to find fault with your explanation of what you really meant and continues to blame you.
He often makes a liar out of you when he knows you are telling the truth.
There is almost never a way to solve a problem and leave it behind.
You end up feeling guilty and unloved no matter what you do.
5. You often get in trouble for not praising or thanking him.
You two might be getting ready to go to a special event.
He walks into the room and compliments him on his appearance, and even before you have a chance to compliment him, you’re already in trouble for not complimenting him.
If you don’t immediately thank him for something he’s done, you’ll never hear the end of the complaint.
He will say that you had many opportunities to praise or thank him, but when you remember the situation, you know that you never had the chance to praise him before you were attacked.
6. He wants to know about every conversation you have or message you receive.
You discover that before you even speak a word to answer a call, he demands to know who he is talking to.
He can’t stand if you get a message and reply if he doesn’t know who it is and what the conversation is about.
He may later pout because someone is having his attention or assign a negative purpose to his conversation with someone else.
He might accuse you of complaining about him to other people or even having an affair.
7. There Are Many Assumptions Made By Him That You “Should Know”.
He often gets angry because you didn’t understand how he was feeling or what he needed.
You can respond by letting him know you can’t read his mind, but he won’t listen.
He responds by saying that since the two of you have been together for a long time and how many times this has happened in the past, “you should know this”.
8. He Gets Jealous Of The Time You Spend Talking Or Hanging Out With Your Close Friends.
You know you put a priority on him and your relationship with him.
Because he is so insecure, you are sensitive to his concerns about the time he spends with his close friends or family.
You’ve already cut down on the time you spend with them and limit chatting and texting with them, but he still complains and stalks you until you eventually have no friends to talk to.
If this is happening to you, and you can no longer sustain the situation, it will be your responsibility to initiate change.
If you decide to “draw a line in the sand” and demand certain actions or changes on his part, you should be prepared to follow what you tell him and actually do it if he doesn’t change.
This is the time to enlist the help of a trusted and wise friend to help you determine your next steps and help you move forward.
This is also a good time to start working with a counseling professional.
Change can happen, but this kind of change takes time and outside help.
It can pay big dividends for both of you.