Timing is something none of us seem to be able to control in relationships.
We meet the person of our dreams a month before they leave to study abroad. We form an incredibly close friendship with an attractive person who is already taken. One relationship ends because our partner is not ready to commit to a serious relationship and another ends because the other person wants things to get serious too quickly.
“That would be really perfect,” we say to our friends grumbling, “If only it had been five years later / eight years earlier / if I hadn’t had all these problems right now.”
Timing seems to be the invariable third party in all of our relationships. And yet, we never stop thinking about why we let timing play such an important role in our lives.
Timing can ruin everything, it’s true.
But that’s only if we let it happen. Here’s a simple truth that we all have to face: The people we meet at the wrong time are really just the wrong people.
You never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right people are timeless. The right people make you want to let go of the plans you originally had and follow them into a hazy and unknown future without looking back.
Good people have no hesitation, they just know. You know that everything you originally planned for your future wouldn’t be as amazing as without that person by your side. That whatever you think you want is better. Everything is better since the arrival of this person.
When you’re with the right person, you don’t care about time. You don’t worry about finding a place for it in your complicated schedule, because it becomes part of that schedule. You organize it around him. Your happiness becomes your priority and as long as it contributes to it, you can adapt to the rest.
The right people don’t stand in the way of the things you once wanted and don’t make you choose. The right people encourage you to persevere, to dream bigger, to always do better. They showcase the most amazing parts of you and make you want to fight harder than ever.
The right people put no limits on your time, dreams, or abilities. They want to attack these mountains with you, and they don’t care how long it takes. With the right person, you have all the time in the world.
The truth is, if we let someone down because the timing is wrong, it means that we don’t really want to spend our time with that person. There will never be a magical moment when everything falls into place and mends all of our broken relationships. But there may come a day when the timing issue won’t matter anymore thanks to the arrival of this person.
Because when someone is good to us, we take the time to let them come into our lives. And that kind of timing is always good.