I know I need all the help I can get when it comes to relationships.
And knowing tips, tricks, and clear signs that my ex wants me back will only help me find the right guy for me.
But relationships are anything but easy, and often the strongest unions come after the breakup process.
Is your ex sending mixed messages?
He says he’s broken up with you, but you know deep down in your heart it’s not over for him yet?
If you’re honest with yourself, do you still love him?
These are fair questions that might be running through your brain as I type.
The good news is that you are about to learn some simple but effective signs that your ex really wants you back; if you want.
Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
According to some relationship experts:
If You Are In A “Friends” Situation…
Your Ex Is Constantly In Touch With You
Without any reason or encouragement, if your ex is calling, texting at least 2-3 times a week, that’s a sure sign that he’s still into you.
Keeps telling you about his life
If he’s writing or talking about his life like you’re still together, that’s a loud and clear sign that he’s still thinking about you and wants you in his life, no matter what.
It’s obvious your ex still wants to know what you’re up to
If your ex wants to know how your job is going, who you’re dating, and what you’re doing in general, that’s a huge sign that he still wants you in his life.
Playing the jealousy strategy
Experts say that if your ex is filling the internet world with party nights and he’s pretending to be happy without you, then you need to understand that he’s just trying to drive you crazy, and make you jealous.
You deserve more.
He’s calling you specifically to complain about work
You’re kidding, right?
Okay, so he’s not sleeping with you anymore, but he’s still complaining about his job? Speaks seriously.
Could it be because he needs you and trusts your judgment?
Think about that for a minute, please.
Wanting to ask you out for a date
That’s a tough sign because it obviously doesn’t mean you’re going to get back together.
He may be lonely or just assume that you want to get back together with him.
Ultimately, this is desperation on his part.
Only meet up if you “really” want to.
You’re always bumping into him… ok.
If you happen to bump into your ex in the strangest places… It was probably planned.
It’s not a bad thing if that’s what you want, but if you really want to get away from him, it gets tricky!
Has the status of “friends” passed? Are You In A Zero Contact Situation? Here Are Some More Telltale Signs Your Ex Wants You Back
Your ex seems to be in mysterious contact with his family and friends – Lots of contacts!
IF your ex knows someone who knows you, he asks a zillion questions about you.
Kind of weird, no?
“Accidentally” your ex ends up in the same place as you – Over and over again.
Without you asking, your ex’s friends bring up the fact that he’s not seeing anyone.
If your ex is commenting on your social media, he still wants you inside out.
In other words… he wants to know who you’re with and what you’re doing.
Back to the Facebook stuff.
Your ex is complaining about how empty life seems or how tired he is of not having anyone.
This is a tried, true, and true sign that he wants you to come back – that’s it!
Next! More Of Clear Signs Your Ex Wants You Back!
Sign One – Ultra Emotional
You may not notice it, but your friends will definitely notice.
If your ex gets emotional; angry or upset, sad or mad; just mentioning his name, he desperately wants you back.
The reason he is emotionally wrecked is because of you.
Take this to the bank and smoke.
When people react, negatively or positively, it’s because they still care.
Take action or not.
It’s your choice.
Signal Two – Consistent Communication
Regardless of the fact that he has something intelligent to say, he will still try to communicate with you.
What does that say?
He wants every bit of you he can get.
And if you have a new person in your life, they will consciously find any excuse they can to get in touch or get your attention, don’t say you haven’t been warned.
Sign three – Single forever
If your ex still wants you back, it’s pretty safe to say that you’re the only one he wants.
Whether he’s willing to admit it or not is another story.
Ultimately, he wants you to know that he’s still available – that does wonders.
Signal Five – Extremely Competitive
If, for example, you’re not paying attention to your ex and he wants ALL eyes on him, that’s a direct sign that he wants you back.
If your ex is flirting with someone right in front of you, it’s a lame way of showing that he wants you, but he’s too insecure to tell you face to face.
Just be careful, please.
Sign Six – What You Think Matters…
If your ex goes into an identity crisis or has to make a serious life decision and he comes to you, that’s a direct sign that he wants and needs you in his life.
This clearly says that he misses you, but to what degree is uncertain.
Obviously, you still have value in their lives if they come to you when they need advice or opinion.
Sign Seven – Affectionate nicknames
When couples break up one of the first things to cut like a knife is when you hear those special terms of endearment you used to use with each other.
Now here’s where it gets interesting.
If your ex is still using these terms with you, as if you are still together, that’s the voice of the heart wanting you back.
Sign Eight – Never Far
Your ex is always trying to stay in touch with you, but it goes way beyond that.
The second you send him a message, he replies back.
If you call, he answers before the first ring ends.
If you need him for anything, he runs to you.
If an ex-boyfriend broke up with you, he will take a lot longer to respond to your immediate needs, if ever.
Sign Nine – Creativity
This is not a complicated question.
If you miss someone but can’t see them, what do you do?
Well, you start to get creative!
Whether your ex is writing poetry about you or emotionally reflecting on you on social media accounts or just emailing you, it’s pretty clear he wants you back.
Sign Ten – Tight or a long hug
This one usually comes a little later after a breakup.
If you meet, you can hug, but if your ex hugs you a little too much or touches you gently or brushes your hair out of your face, he still likes you.
If you don’t like someone, don’t hug them in the first place.
Second, that delicate emotional touch is not going to happen.
Beware – Emotions And Logic Don’t Mix.
Both cannot physiologically “Show Face” simultaneously, according to experts at WebMD.
Sign Eleven – Going Back in Time
A straight-to-the-face sign that your ex still wants you back is if he often tries to remind you of the amazing past memories you created together.
Sign Twelve – All Eyes on You!
Chances are you won’t tell your ex all the details of your life, but he still asks.
This can be annoying at first, but what it means is that your ex is NOT over you and he wants you back.
He wants to know what you’re doing, who you’re dating, and other secret information you’ll divulge.
He might even ask his friends what you’re doing.
Essentially, he might be stalking you for his own reasons.
All the crazy strong indicators that he wants you back.
Sign Thirteen – Parties never again
If your ex suddenly seems to be home on a Friday night and doesn’t go out much, it could be because he simply wants to be with you.
What he’s secretly doing is trying to show you an image of a well-behaved man or how lonely he is.
In short… He desperately wants you back.
Sign Fourteen – Meets You Anywhere
It’s safe to say your ex knows your favorite hangout spots, and when they show up unannounced, he just wants you back.
What he’s trying to tell you is that he wants you to know that he’s making an effort to get in your face.
In the end, he hopes the feeling is mutual and you want him back too.
Signal Fifteen – Not turning in your stuff
If your ex is taking all the time in the world to get your belongings back to you, then of course he wants you in his arms.
His personal possessions are an intimate bond between the two of you and that’s something he just doesn’t want to undo if that makes any sense.
Clearly, he doesn’t want to abandon you completely.
Sign Sixteen – Telling You Directly
One of the biggest reasons your ex wants you back is if he bites the bullet and says it directly, face to face.
When he opens up to you and says he misses you and why he still wants you in his life, he’s still deeply addicted to you.
Pay attention to these signs.
If there’s a chance that you seriously want your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend, you need to be direct and tell him.
If, on the other hand, you are no longer attracted to him, you will need to let go of all feelings and let him know.
Turn him off completely if necessary, because it’s NOT fair to do things to keep him around.
Time for you to act.
Follow your heart and you will be fine.
As Important As It Is To Know The Signs Your Ex Wants You To Come Back, You Also Need To Know When To Run Far And Fast
There are some important signs that you need to kick your ex for good and move on.
Perhaps you are in the common scenario where everything is going well, you meet family and friends, talk about the future, and believe that you will be with them forever.
Then, suddenly, everything stops for one reason or another.
The question running through your brain may be “now what?”
You need to take control of yourself and stop getting caught up in the rut.
It’s time for you to see things clearly.
Straight down, there are some signs that you need to open your eyes to the clear truth and move forward…
Your “past” man has a new girl
Wake up and smell the coffee.
I understand, it’s hard when you miss someone.
I know it’s crazy hard.
But if your ex is with someone else, you need to ditch him, get over him, and move on now.
When your ex brings a new girl into the spotlight, it’s directly telling you that he doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore.
Think of it as getting fired, if you will.
You have no voice here, understand that.
Your ex has moved on and isn’t with you, and it’s best to accept that and move on when you’re ready.
I’m not saying it’s easy, but you MUST do it for yourself.
The distance card is at stake
Like me, you’ve probably been in contact with an ex for a while.
Of course, we altered the amount of contact we had given the circumstances.
Distance is difficult, but it’s VIP in the separation process.
People often choose not to connect on any level or form with their exes after they break up.
If you were the one who got dumped, you might have a hard time with the situation.
No matter what, if you’re feeling distant, it’s time to start distancing your brain too.
Just do this, please.
The rage card is at stake
In real life, you’re not going to date people who go crazy with rage, so why would you let your ex get away with it?
That’s a fair question.
It doesn’t really matter whether or not he’s pissed off, if you broke up with him, or if he’s just disappointed in his own life, you need to step back and let him deal with his own shitty situation he’s gotten himself into.
He has to deal with his own problems.
They are NOT your responsibility.
Be aware that getting angry and upset is part of the grieving process.
Yes, it’s hard for everyone involved, but you don’t have to accept and deal with the anger card.
As hard as it is, if your ex isn’t returning your calls, responding to your messages, or interacting on social media, he’s not interested in you.
I’m sorry, but it’s true.
Try to open your mind and understand that this will take time, but you really need to move on.
You are seriously better than that!
Stop waiting for the call.
Stop replying to messages.
Just shift gears – stay sober – and understand that you need to move on.
The biggest and best for you is almost upon us.
Go get it!
You did your best
Seriously, it doesn’t matter if you’re trying to get him back or not, because at some point, if it’s not working, you have to give up.
If there’s something you obviously need to fix in your relationship and you can’t fix it, you need to end it.
Sad but true.
Especially if he doesn’t feel the love for you like he used to, it just needs to be done.
You Can Only Think About Fabulous Moments
Be careful because this is super dangerous territory.
If you remember the happy times, the laughs and laughter – totally forgetting the bad times – you need to run far and fast.
Truth – We are naturally programmed to block out all that was bad and accept what is good.
This isn’t necessarily a good thing.
Just be careful, please.
The important thing is that you understand that being in love and missing someone are two VERY different things.
I hope you understand this.
Here comes the boredom
Often, when you are madly in love in a relationship, it is very difficult to realize that this relationship is not the best thing for you.
Sometimes, as crazy as it sounds, we are totally bored!
I’ll tell you right away if your ex makes you feel bad, it’s a sure sign that you need to move on now.
There are people who just don’t want to experience life and you need to walk away, no matter how hard it is.
Here Comes Suffering Again
Heck – Breaking up is incredibly difficult.
Pain makes us afraid to step forward – this is normal.
Conclusion – If you want to feel love, you need to open your mind to accept and positively thrive on it.
You need to love yourself from the inside out to move forward.
Time to move on at full speed
When your breakup is acknowledged, it’s simply time to move on.
Now it’s time to let go and move forward with a smile on your face.
It’s all about loving yourself and believing in yourself, as corny as that sounds.
Seriously, this is the hardest part of forgiving.
You need to understand your own worth to get started.
It really doesn’t matter whether or not you’ve failed your relationship.
You need to forgive yourself and move on with a smile on your face.
You need to understand who you are and believe in your positive parts that will attract the partner of your dreams.
It’s mind over matter here.
It is safe to say that you will end up with your own negative traits during a breakup.
It sucks, but it’s true.
Focus on positive conversations and understand what you deserve.
Take things to the next level with an open mind.
When your ex wants you back, he’ll let you know it to your face with direct signals.
Pay attention and take action.
You deserve to have what you want when you want it.