I’ve been giving dating advice for a while now. And the question I have heard most often is “why am I single?” “. That’s why!
Depending on your situation, there are different possible answers. But, generally, staying single is mostly a question of bad timing and bad luck.
That said, there are some things you can do to change the game and stop locking yourself up for days on end asking yourself, “but why am I single?” What is wrong with me? (Don’t tell me it’s not true, I already did.)
1. Get some air!
Don’t repeat it to her, but Candice is probably the most charming girl I know. She is pretty well made and 1000% sensual. But you’ll never see her with a guy (well, not for at least 2 years). Why? Because after each day of work, she comes home, eats in front of the TV, and… falls asleep. Which wouldn’t be a problem for anyone if she was happy. But she is not and keeps telling whoever wants to hear her that she dreams of having a boyfriend.
Unfortunately, she lives, like some women, in the illusion that if love must fall on her, he will find her on its own. WRONG!
The chances of meeting a man and finding love are still higher when you walk through the door of your home … So get out!
2. What about your friends?
Unlike Candice (you know, the one who falls asleep in front of her TV), Sarah spends her life in a club. But when she goes out, she is always accompanied by her group of girlfriends. Do you really think it’s easy for a man to approach a girl as well surrounded as the Queen of England? No, a guy with a bit of dignity is afraid of rakes in public.
So try to limit the number of friends who accompany you to the club. Two is ideal. That way they’ll have someone to talk to when you dance passionately with your future Jules. Remember, men will only approach you if they sense you want to be.
Do not forget either that the fateful moment in seduction is the meeting! To seduce a man for sure, you have to get the first impression.
A man knows very quickly if you are going to interest him, so it’s up to you to control the moment of the meeting, even to provoke it.
3. Shyness is not a valid excuse
I know that shyness is a relatively heavy burden to bear. To be honest, I was a victim of it for a while. Where did it take me? At the grocer on a Sunday evening, desperately alone, to buy a stock of crisps. Not really transcendent, right?
Believe me, the biggest risk is not to take it. Obviously, I’m not asking you to rush all claws out at the first man to wave at him.
No, just to start slowly. Like smiling at this super cute guy who takes the elevator with you almost every morning. Start with small wins and you’ll soon be ready to ask the server for her number without stuttering.
4. Do not fall into the trap of “He must love me for my personality”
As breathtaking as your inner beauty is, if it is well camouflaged inside an oversized faded orange sweatshirt, your future Jules may be missing out.
I’m not saying that you have to be a top model to get out of your celibacy. But if a well-fitting skirt, a cool fit, and understated makeup can be very successful, why not?
Because I’m sorry to tell you, as long as you’re not a Kardashian sister, you are unlikely to succeed in starting the faded orange sweatshirt fashion.
5. Be wise? You have plenty of time for this. But after!
Sorry to be so blunt but… “wisdom” is outdated and boring. Really.
Forget all the precepts as “reasonable” as they are boring: “do not mix job and feelings”, “wait for him to take the first step”, “do not sleep with a man before the sixteenth date” …
Life is too short to refuse the advances of a nice (and hot) colleague, to wait for a shy man to dare to find the courage to approach you or to marinate an attractive guy until the seventeenth date. You. The key to your destiny is in your hands, never forget it!