Respect is a vital condition for any relationship! Without this component, it is impossible to be able to continue, build and grow together. We will see how to be respected in your relationship. Because, if it may seem obvious and natural for some, it may be much more complicated for others.
Why is respect important?
Respect in a couple is a concept that must send you back to yourself because how to be respected in a couple if you do not respect yourself? It is therefore important to ask the question first: do I respect myself? If not, ask yourself what you can change.
Love gives no rights over others, only the duty to respect them.
Jacques Salome
The respect in the couple is a principle of balance between two people. Power and control lie in the hands of both partners. There is no dominant and/or dominated but two people who love each other and who go towards the same path. If you feel that you are not being listened to or understood, it is because respect is not entirely present in your relationship. It is important to arrive at a relationship that takes into account the needs of the other without which it is not a love story.
Learn to respect the other to be respected in your relationship
To come to respect the other, you have to start from the principle that he tells HIS truth. It is therefore important to put yourself in his place and to show empathy to get to see his prism, his reality. To do this, you have to come up with your own criticism and constantly question yourself. It will be the best way to move forward and change so that you don’t repeat the same mistakes over and over. Consider your partner more carefully by complimenting them , surprising them and loving them as they deserve.
Be careful, because if you tend not to respect yourself, the other will never respect you! Why make this effort since you do not consider yourself to be fair.
Be an example: it is important to respect yourself in order to be respected in your relationship
Learn to be the change you want to see in the world! Breathe joy, smile, love, and live as if everything could stop tomorrow. This kind of enthusiastic and positive person is respected because it cannot be otherwise. But if you play a role in giving the appearance of being a person that you are not: it is doomed to failure. We always end up becoming what we are with our qualities and our faults. If you are a sincere person, you will bring respect to you. Your partner will bring you all the emotional food you need.
From now on, make the decision to be a person who aspires to become respectful of yourself and others.
How do you know if respect is present in your relationship?
To know if respect is present, we must ask the right questions:
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- Are you comfortable in your relationship? Can you be yourself at all times and in all circumstances? Do you have to make constant efforts to match what your partner wants?
- Does your partner question themselves? If this is not the case, it is because he does not respect you, because he assumes that you are wrong. If no compromise is possible, it is because your partner does not value you at your fair value.
- Do you feel like you are being listened to? If your words don’t matter and your desires are never realized, it is because respect is lacking in your relationships.
Respect is not something that is earned: it is due! You do not need to prove to the other that you deserve to be respected.
If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
Maya Angelou (American poet 1928-2014)
Deciding to change your life to gain respect in your relationship
Respect is the basis of all human relationships. If you feel that you are not being respected, this is a sign that something has to be changed in your life. Start by asking yourself why you accept certain relationships that are not respectful of your differences. Work on yourself to understand and move forward on the path of respect and acceptance.
What is the first step you will take to gain respect? What does the concept of “respect” mean to you? Take the time to ask yourself the right questions.
