“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you really are” CG jung
Often times when people are looking for a new relationship, they either wait for someone to complete them or they imagine sharing their life with someone just like them. So they try to present themselves in the best aspect they imagine for their future partner – in other words, as the perfect half of a whole of an ideal vision of what they believe their future partner desires … complicated isn’t it?
From experience, finding your soul mate requires a different, much more rewarding approach – here are 3 steps that have worked for me and for all those who have found love and make it last.
3 steps to find lasting love and making it last
1- Stop looking for your soul mate and find the part of you that is missing
This may sound counterintuitive to you, but that’s exactly how I met my husband. I quit looking for “Prince Charming” of my dreams after a few romantic teenage girl and young adult love disappointments. I decided to focus more on myself, to learn to love and accept myself as I am and to develop other aspects of me that had hitherto been repressed (such as learning to assert myself for example).
Like most people, I needed someone to love me in order to feel loved. But every breakup with a “boyfriend” left me with this painful feeling of not being “kind”, not “enough”, or “too much”.
The realization throughout these years was to discover that I didn’t have to “pretend”, to play the ideal woman that a man would potentially seek, that I had to learn to accept myself and be. myself. It was from there that my whole life changed!
2- Live your life the way You want to live it
When, thanks to my many readings, and training on human psychology and personal development, I started to know more about myself, my life took on its full meaning. I had to respect and love who I really am, not what other people want for me!
The universal lesson to be learned here: If you want to achieve fulfillment in your life, you have to fulfill yourself, no one else will!
3 – Stop trying to appeal to a “potential”, purely imaginary partner
A side effect of leading the conscious life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive.
Why ? Because you become more real, more authentic, passionate, happy, present. Which naturally makes you more beautiful / beautiful and then naturally makes you more attractive to your soul mate.
Whereas, when you try to make yourself attractive in the hope of meeting someone, you change the way you behave and the way you are, so that if your soulmate shows up they won’t be able to recognize you!
THE key to finding love and making it last
Just be yourself! You don’t have to have an hourglass figure or big biceps, or wear attractive clothes or uncomfortable shoes if you don’t like them. Go to the gym if you like, do yoga if you like, run if you like, but only for that.
The rule to remember: You simply have to indulge yourself in everything that your activities do and, more generally, focus on everything that makes you feel good most often …
In other words, start by knowing yourself better, learning to love yourself better, and to respect yourself in your authenticity!