How to Get a Boyfriend: 6 Proven Tips to Get the Guy You Want

When you’re single and looking for a quality partner, it can be frustrating when you don’t find someone right away.

And the more you want it, the more desperate you are to get a boyfriend.

The more desperate you are… The lower your chances of attracting a man.

But I’m here to tell you that with a little patience and the tips below, you will  find a boyfriend.

You’ll find an amazing guy that you won’t feel like you’re settling for less with because he’ll be everything you want in a man.

How to Get a Boyfriend – Tip 1: Be Confident and Show That Confidence

There is nothing more attractive to a man than confidence.

Even if inside you feel hopeless and alone, I want you to work on projecting complete confidence.

It can take time, so if you don’t feel confident today, recognize that you need to work on it.

Men love confident women.

A confident woman shows that she can take care of herself.

She doesn’t seem to need a man, but she wants one in her world.

A confident woman is attractive..


It’s worth the effort to win her over.

Don’t you want to be that woman?

I’m sure yes.

Here are some ways to boost your confidence and improve your chances of getting a boyfriend:

  • Smile to yourself in the mirror. Tell yourself you are beautiful every time you see your reflection. Nobody has to listen to you!
  • Wear clothes that you feel amazing in, even if you’re going to the grocery store
  • Pull your shoulders back and lift your head up when walking
  • Pretend you own the place when you enter a room

How to Get a Boyfriend – Tip 2: Don’t Be in a Hurry

I know you want to find out how to get a boyfriend today , but girl, you need to be patient.

I know that’s not what you want to hear, but understand that the next man who’s going to be your boyfriend is out there somewhere.

But right now, he might not be emotionally ready to connect with you.

He may be in another relationship.

And another, you  may not even be ready for a relationship.

When it is, it will.

When you try to rush to find love, you can spend a lot of energy regretting being single and complaining that there are no men in the world.

What do you think this energy does for you?


In fact, it might even prevent you from finding a boyfriend.

Have you ever heard the saying like attracts like?

If you spend all your energy complaining about being single, you are creating negative energy.

It’s like stuffing your body with junk food.

These useless thoughts affect what you attract.

If you complain about being single, you will be single.

Or you’ll attract the wrong kind of guy simply because you don’t want to be alone.

So go slow.

Learn to accept the fact that sometimes you will be alone.

There’s nothing wrong with that.

Embrace the idea.

More on that in a minute.

But first, some ways you can learn patience while learning how to get a boyfriend.

  • Realize that being single is a temporary situation.
  • It can last a week…or a year.
  • But it’s not permanent.
  • Watch movies like ‘How to Be Single’, which show an optimistic view of single life.
  • Maintain high standards when talking to men.
  • Just because you want a boyfriend doesn’t mean the next guy who texts you on Tinder is your next boyfriend.

How to Get a Boyfriend – Tip 3: Have a Life

Keeping active will fill your time and make you feel fulfilled.

Okay, let’s talk more about hugging being alone.

I know it seems counterintuitive to get a boyfriend, but bear with me.

It’s shocking how uncomfortable humans are to be alone.

In a study published in Science Magazine, researchers found that given the option to sit quietly with their thoughts or suffer an electric shock, an overwhelming number of participants chose the shocks.

Are you as shocked as I am about this?

Somewhere along the way, humanity decided that the only way to value ourselves was to be surrounded by other people or in relationships.

Who are you if there’s no one around to tell you you’re amazing?


You‘re amazing and you don’t need a boyfriend or even constantly going out all the time to prove it.

But it may be necessary to change your mindset and even your habits to ensure you don’t sit there alone.

The best way to find a boyfriend is not to be looking for one.

Get a life.

Be active.

Do things you love.

And then, when you least expect it, someone great will show up.

You might meet a guy at your hiking group’s weekly meeting or at the coffee shop.

But you won’t find it if you’re sitting at home crying about it.

Here are some ways you can have a life and stop focusing on wanting a man:

    • Start a new activity. Exercise is a great place to start. Climbing, anyone?
    • Find things to do alone that you love. Check out a great book that just came out.
    • Go to the movies alone. Make it a habit.
    • Go out with friends…just don’t do it every night of the week.

How to Get a Boyfriend – Tip 4: Be Open to Opportunities

Like I said in the last tip: you can find a fantastic guy anywhere.

He might be the cutie who stops to ask what you’re reading in the park.

He could be your next dance partner at the club.

He could be your brother’s best friend.

He might show up at your next business meeting.

You’ll notice that in all these scenarios, you’re always out and about, ‘on track’ when these opportunities arise.

Again, this doesn’t happen when you’re at home!

Yes,  online dating is a tool you should consider, but you will maximize your chance of finding a boyfriend if you are open to that possibility at all times.

So how can you be more open to opportunities?

  • Strive to look good whenever you leave the house.
  • I’m not saying get all dressed up, but clean, new clothes and brushed hair are a start!
  • Say yes to invitations to events you might not want to attend.
  • Smile! Every time you see an attractive man, smile at him.

How to Get a Boyfriend – Tip 5: Be Ready to Commit to the Process

Online dating should just be something you dedicate yourself to exploring.

I always say that dating is not for the weak.

You can try really hard to talk to guys and hang out with them, and they can never work out.

You might start to get tired and think, if I have to get all dressed up for one more bad date, I’m going to give up!

But look at it this way: Think about the last time you were looking for a job.

I bet you put a lot of time and energy into scouring through these job ads, reading them and applying to the ones you liked best.

So you had several interviews, only one of which had a job offer.

It’s the same with dating.

Dating requires dedication.

You can’t take 10 minutes a week and then throw up your hands and yell, I give up! There’s no one for me!

You need to be ready to commit.

This will take time. It takes emotional energy.

Some days, you’ll want to give up, and that’s okay.

On these days, I say just take a break.

Spend time alone or with friends and don’t think about how to get a boyfriend.

You can increase your efforts when you’re ready.

Just don’t expect results if you’re not ready to put in the effort.

Here are some guidelines:

  • Be open to all channels, including singles parties, online dating and dating through friends.
  • Dedicate several hours a week to participating in online dating and events.
  • When you get discouraged, back off. Take time out of the process and then come back to it.

How to Get a Boyfriend – Tip 6: Be Open to Who You Know

Another mistake I see a lot of women make is not giving a guy a chance.

This happens a lot online, where first impressions mean a lot.

But in reality, guys can be bad at taking good profile pictures or writing their bios.

So if you judge them for that, you might miss out on some amazing guys.

And even if you don’t get along with a man you date, you never know where that relationship could go.

Many failed dates end up creating great friendships.

I know a woman who went out with a man she met on Tinder.

Chemistry didn’t exist, so they decided to be friends.

He invited her to a party he was organizing and she brought her friends.

Now, everyone is friends, and women often ask men for advice about flirting.

It’s a bonus to have a friend who can give you a different perspective on dating than your friends!

So give a guy a chance.

  • Give him a second date.
  • Some men are incredibly nervous on the first date and don’t make a good impression.
  • But on a second date, they are more at ease.
  • Before swiping left, consider at least joining a conversation.
  • If he’s witty and smart, that blurry selfie might not even matter.
  • Also, guys are prettier in person.
  • Don’t be closed off when you go out on a date.
  • You never know what might turn around (a business contact, he has a friend better suited for you, etc.).


Be patient.

Love will find you when you least expect it.

My best tip on how to get a boyfriend?

Just let it happen.

Be Open, Courageous and Confident.

Her next boyfriend – who could very well be her last – is out there.

Looking forward to when he will enter your life is half the fun.

Wake up every day happy and full of expectations.

Could today be the day you meet him?

Do you already know him?

Let the magic of dating and finding the right guy fill you with excitement.

After all, what is the alternative?

Get in a bad mood because you don’t have a partner?

This is not good.

I know when you have married friends or couples, it can be hard to be single.

But think of it this way: some of your friends might be jealous of you .

Their relationship might look great on the outside, but you usually have no idea what’s really going on.

A friend may be experiencing a betrayal or her husband is simply a failure and may not be brave enough to leave him.

So yes, from their perspective, your single life can look pretty fabulous.

So embrace it.

Enjoy being able to do exactly what you want to do.

You have no commitment to anyone.

There’s no need to consider the fact that your man is vegan, doesn’t drink, or is introverted when you make plans.

You can eat popcorn and ice cream for dinner and watch girls’ movies all night.

No judgment.

But one day you will meet a wonderful man.

And part of what you loved about being single is gone.

Sure, you’ll trade one set of perks for another, but you can look back on your time and be a little nostalgic.

So live in the moment.

You won’t be single forever, so make the most of your time before your future husband shows up.