In a long-distance relationship, there are a lot of mysteries and sometimes it can be difficult to try to know some important parts of a relationship from a long distance.
Do you spend your time wondering what’s going on in your partner’s mind and if they really love you even when they’re far away?
Asking yourself if your relationship is important to him or if your partner is really serious about your long-distance relationship can make you think too much.
The problem is, that it can be scary or intimidating to ask loaded questions like this. One solution to this problem is to look at the signs.
Your long-distance relationship will tell you how they really feel without having to go out and say it.
Here are some of the signs that your long-distance part is really serious about the relationship.
1. They want to spend time with you
A big sign that they are serious about the relationship is that they make time for you. Not only do they make time for you, but they are also excited and motivated to spend that quality time with you.
Sometimes when they start spending less time with you and giving you less, it could be because they are pulling away from you. That’s why it’s important for them to be looking forward to spending more time with you.
If you’re not sure whether or not your long-distance partner is eager to spend time with you, one of the ways you can tell is if your partner contacts you first.
If you’re normally the one contacting your significant other and planning some quality time for the two of you, try not to contact him first.
Do this to see if he gets in touch with you first, so you can know if he’s looking forward to spending time with you. It is a good indication of whether or not your long-distance partner is serious and looking forward to your relationship.
2. They talk about long-term future plans for their relationship
Another sign that your long-distance partner is serious about your relationship is that they talk about the future with you or about long-term plans for the relationship.
This can show in your relationship in a number of different ways. One of the ways this can show up in your relationship is in the way your partner talks about travel or vacations. You can know your partner is serious if he talks about wanting to book a trip with you for a few months or even years in the future.
This means they are thinking about the future or thinking about a long-term relationship with you and not really thinking about how long the relationship will last until it ends.
Another way to see if your long-distance partner is thinking about the future is to say that he wants to move to be with you or that you move to be with him.
If they’re willing to talk about the future in this way and take that leap, you can be sure they’re feeling serious about you and your relationship.
Talking about the future can show itself in many different ways, but these few examples are a good foundation for you to follow.
3. You have the same goals
Along the way in your long-distance relationship, I’m sure you’ve talked about goals. Some of them are short-term goals and others are long-term goals.
Either way, it’s important that they match in some way. They don’t have to be a perfect match or be completely similar, but they should lead in the same direction.
You can tell your long-distance relationship is serious when his own goals follow the same path as yours. It means that he wants to continue with you and grow with you in life.
Goals are important to anyone’s growth, so when your partner’s goals match yours, it means he wants to grow significantly with you and become a better person with you.
In a long-distance relationship, it’s important that your goals are similar, rather than separating one from the other. Some goals follow a different path or are considered opposites to each other.
To see if your partner is serious about the relationship, spend some time talking about future goals and where you both want to go in life.
4. You two are happy
The biggest part of any relationship is for both of you to be happy to be involved in that relationship. You cannot expect the relationship to continue if one or both of you are unhappy.
You can tell how someone is feeling by noticing their little habits or changes in their habits. If your partner starts pulling away from you by not responding to you or purposely spending less time with you, it usually means he is unhappy.
On the other hand, you can tell someone is just as happy. If your partner sends you a gift or even a heartfelt message or letter, it usually means that he is happy and in love.
If your partner wants to spend more time with you or seems to be more eager than usual to talk to you, it could also be a sign that they are just happy and in love. All you have to do to try to decipher if your partner is serious is see how happy he is.
5. You trust each other
Trust is important in a long-distance relationship. If your partner is serious about you and the relationship, one of the things he will show is trust.
The fact that your long-distance partner shows that they trust you means they are willing to take more risks and work on the relationship.
Trusting you, they opened themselves up to the possibility of being hurt and let down, which they would only do if they saw a future with you.
6. They tell their feelings and secrets
When someone takes a relationship seriously, they open up to each other. That means they talk about their past, their dreams, how they’re feeling, and any secrets they want to share with you.
When your long-distance partner opens up to you about personal things like this, it usually means he’s serious about you and your relationship. Only people who are serious about a relationship tell each other about their personal feelings and their past.
The reason this is so important to find out if your long-distance partner is serious about your relationship is that it takes a lot of trusts to tell someone something personal about you.
So if you find him opening up and telling you personal things about her, that’s usually a great indication that they’re serious about the relationship and see that this long-distance relationship is going to last for a while.
7. They reach out to you
Another great way to tell if they are serious about you is for them to reach out to you in times of need or sadness.
Everyone goes through difficult times and if he doesn’t talk to you or ignores you in your times of need, it can sometimes indicate that they don’t take you or your relationship seriously.
On the other hand, if they trust you and come to you, that means they trust you and see you as someone they can trust. If they think they can trust you, then it probably means they are serious about you and the long-distance relationship.
8. You can talk about anything
A sign that they take you seriously and are comfortable with you is that the two of you can talk about anything. It doesn’t even have to be a serious matter.
If the two of you can laugh at anything and make inside jokes with each other, that’s a good indication that he’s serious about your long-distance relationship.
Being close and comfortable with each other is important for your long-distance partner to take you and your relationship seriously.
9. They don’t make excuses
If things are happening in life that the two of you don’t get to talk to as often or spend quality time together, your partner isn’t making excuses as to why they left.
In life, things can get complicated and that means he can’t pick up the phone as often to talk to you.
That’s fine, but if it starts to happen a lot and they make vague excuses about where they were or what they were doing, then it could be because they’re not as serious in the relationship as you might think.
Your partner needs to be straight with you about what was going on. If they are serious in the relationship then they are able to trust you and confide in you about what is going on in their lives that they end up going so far.
It can be difficult at times, but it is necessary for building trust and seriousness in a relationship. If they don’t apologize, it usually means they’re serious about you and your relationship.
10. They make it a point to say good night to you
Making a point of saying good night to you is important to feel loved and remembered. When someone does something small but important like this to make you feel loved and remembered, it can mean that person really cares about you.
People who genuinely care about their long-distance partners tend to want to be serious about their relationships.
So if your long-distance lover cares about you enough to make sure they say good night to you, then chances are they have something very serious about loving you and the long-distance relationship.
11. You had a big fight and the relationship is still intact
If a relationship is weaker than most, it won’t survive a big fight.
So if you and your long-distance partner had a really big fight and the relationship is still working then this is a good indication that your partner is serious about having a relationship with you.
Fighting can be especially difficult in long-distance relationships because you’re not physically close to each other to try to lessen the blow. That’s why when you have a big fight and survive, it means your relationship is very solid and serious.
12. They Root for You
Your biggest cheerleader should be your better half. If the other is always rooting for you, then he cares about you, your well-being, and your future.
In my opinion, this is a good indication that you are close and serious about your long-distance relationship. Being able to root for each other is important for a serious and healthy relationship.
13. They work hard to surprise you
Being able to surprise each other in a long-distance relationship is important in its own right. So if he goes to great lengths to make a point of continuing to try to surprise you, then you will be someone important to him.
When you are important to him and he goes out of his way for you, it often means that he is serious about you and the long-distance relationship.
If they‘re willing to work hard for you or something for you, then that’s a big indication that they’re serious about you.
14. They don’t forget important dates
Remembering important dates like a birthday means they care about it.
In turn, if they remember their relationship anniversary and they remember your anniversary, it means that he cares about you and thinks of you as someone important in their lives.
When they think of you as someone important and someone they care about a lot, it usually means that your relationship is something they take seriously.
15. They miss you during the day
Missing someone is a normal part of any relationship.
But for a long-distance relationship, the couple tends to miss each other more, as they don’t get the personal, physical contact to help with the feeling of homesickness for the other person in the relationship.
If your long-distance boyfriend talks quite often that he misses you, then it’s a pretty safe bet to say that they’re serious about you and the long-distance relationship.
16. They make a point of trying to visit you whenever they can
In a long-distance relationship, visitation is important for the survival of the long-distance relationship. When he makes it a point to visit you whenever he can, it could mean he’s serious about you.
This is because traveling can be expensive and is certainly never free, so they are willing to spend money and time to get where you are. Just like they’re willing to spend money to get you where they are.
Another reason they may be serious about you is that they want to see you and are willing to do whatever it takes to do so.
Not everyone is willing to travel to see someone, so if your partner is, it means he’s serious about loving you and having a relationship with you.
17. He sent you a personal item to remember him
Having something personal to hold from your partner can really help in a long-distance relationship.
In a long-distance relationship, you can sometimes feel lonely; so when they send you something personal, like a sweetheart hoodie or something like that, it can help you feel less alone.
That’s why if your partner sent you something to remember him or her, it could mean that they’re very serious about their long-distance relationship.
final thoughts
There are many different ways to know that your long-distance partner is serious about you and your relationship. Doing something small like saying good night to you every night, doing something bigger like trusting you with something personal, and things as important as these can really show you that your partner is serious about the relationship and can give you some peace of mind about your long distance relationship.
