The concept of couple, not to be confused with that of household which designates people living under the same roof, remains after all quite vague! How do you know if you’re in a relationship? When can we consider each other? At the first kiss? At the first outing? When you first wake up in the same bed? At the first SMS declaration of love? At the presentation to friends, family? Today we are answering this not so obvious question!
The frequency of your meetings
The first criterion that can help you determine if you are in a relationship? Frequency! The frequency of your meetings, your reunions, your SMS, the times when you think about each other … It’s simple, the higher the frequency, the more likely you are to form a couple! So if your partner takes 24 hours to respond to your SMS, it is very likely that he or she does not share your notion of the couple. Some people refuse to bond, especially seducers. Others are in denial, for fear of engagement. Finally, still, others see the couple as an attack on their freedom … Anyway, it is important that you are on the same page, or at least, that you are both satisfied with the turn of your relationship.
You no longer flirt with others
A second criterion that your story begins to get serious? You no longer flirt with other people! It may not even be intentional: you are simply no longer attracted to other people, you are completely satisfied with the way things are with this guy / this chick. And once again, if this absence of flirtation is common, that your partner just like you will no longer see elsewhere, then you can be sure (e) this relational exclusivity approaches the notion that people have of a couple!
Third criterion? You and/or your partner become jealous! There, that’s for sure, it’s the beginning of the end! It is one thing to refuse to look elsewhere. It’s another to feel jealousy as soon as someone gets a little too close to your partner! Do you send (and/or receive) text messages constantly asking where he/she is? It may be time for you to clear things up between the two of you, and find out whether or not you can think of yourself as a real couple.
You said to yourself “I love you”
Have you ever said to yourself “I love you”? If you still hesitate to describe your relationship as a couple, it is because one of you, or both, is afraid to formalize things for the reasons mentioned above. If the situation is right for you, that you feel good without declaring yourself to be in a relationship, then there is nothing wrong with that. But make sure you don’t hurt each other by refusing to commit.
You want or have presented it to your loved ones
Another sign that you are a couple: the presentation of his partner to his loved ones! It’s sort of formalization of your relationship, whether you like it or not. You are looking for approval from those around you, or simply want to show your partner to the people you love because you are proud of them.
You told yourself!
Finally, the best way to know if you are in a relationship, or not, is to discuss it! It can be important and healthy to have a conversation about the subject, especially from the moment you ask yourself the question. It is that you are in uncertainty, and express an unconscious desire to be on the same page with your partner … And that’s good! Of course, things can just as easily happen naturally. But do not be afraid to put your feet in the dish and get clear. Otherwise, you risk living an ambiguous relationship and not having the same expectations for each other. Which could inevitably hurt you in the long run.
Put the question simply (when the moment is welcome): ” For you two, what are we?” “Or, more mischievously, with a small smile” It makes me weird to tell you that but that’s it, no, I think we can say that we are in a relationship between you and me! “