Law Of Attraction: Relationships
You’ve probably heard about the Law of Attraction – or “the secret” as many people call it.
These days, it’s a self-help foundation, and like many popular concepts, it’s been slowly watered down to the point where hardly anyone knows what it means.
Yes, the law of attraction does work.
You Can Also Absolutely Apply It In Your Relationships And Use It To Help You Attract A New Partner With The Kind Of Traits You Want.
The problem is that people don’t understand the Law of Attraction all the time.
They don’t realize what it really is or what it means, so they often apply it incorrectly and dismiss it when it doesn’t work.
The problem is, they’re not doing it right.
You can’t blame them though.
All the propaganda around the “secret” is easily misunderstood because it is such a superficial description of what the Law of Attraction entails.
If you don’t have more exposure to the concept, you might end up thinking it’s basically the same thing as desire or magic.
Let’s take a quick look at what the Law of Attraction really is, and then we’ll look at some ways you can use it to manifest love and every kind of relationship in your life.
Attracting the right relationship requires the right mindset.
What The Law Of Attraction Really Is And How To Manifest Your Relationship Status
“I’m single and lonely, and it feels like there’s no one out there for me.
I think about how much I want a partner every day.
Shouldn’t I have what I think?
Why didn’t the Universe bring it’s still love?
The Law of Attraction doesn’t work!”
The Law of Attraction doesn’t work like that.
If something like the paragraph written above is what goes through your mind when you’re trying to attract a partner, it’s no wonder you haven’t manifested a relationship.
That kind of thinking is a lack mentality.
No matter what you’re thinking, you won’t attract anything with a mindset like that.
The Law of Attraction is not an illusion.
It’s not complaining about what you deserve.
It’s not complaining about what isn’t here yet.
It’s not focusing on what you don’t have, hoping it finally arrives.
Stop wanting; start receiving
The Law of Attraction is focused on what you want, not the fact that you want it
There is an important distinction there.
If you focus on what you want, your subconscious mind will be trained to look for the best way to achieve it.
If you focus on the fact that you want something, your brain will only miss it everywhere.
The Law of Attraction Means Putting Your Attention Directly On Where You Want To Go
Forget the fact that you’re not there yet.
Don’t let the problems you’ve encountered along the way linger in your mind.
Keep your eyes on the target, as if you were already there, and keep going.
It is not enough to wish.
The law of attraction is not magic; it’s just a way of training your subconscious mind; you must still take steps to reach your goal.
You Are The One Who Must Change Before Your Circumstances.
The path to what you desire is through personal transformation.
If that means you need to learn a new style of relating to people in order to have the relationship you want, so be it.
In other words, you must be a different person to receive something different from the Universe.
That’s why most people get it wrong.
They don’t want to change.
They think they can stay the same and somehow get different results.
How does it affect relationships?
You can probably already see how this applies to relationships.
How many desperate people do you see in good relationships?
What did the focus on loneliness and emptiness do for them?
Are other people attracted to them?
What about people with confidence who radiate a sense of wholeness?
You’ve probably met someone before who seemed content to be single, and yet, she was never short of suitors.
Seems unfair at first, doesn’t it?
If you look a little closer, you’ll see that the difference is only in how well these people applied the Law without even realizing it.
Manifesting love means finding the joy of life first.
How to Manifest Love When You’re Alone
Have you ever truly, really wanted something for a long time, and it never came?
Did it feel like the more you wanted it, the more it ran away from you?
Maybe it was money, a relationship, or a different life situation.
Has it ever happened that the moment you gave up and moved on with your life, you suddenly appeared out of nowhere?
This Is The Power Of Surrender.
Sometimes wanting something “too hard” just leads to focusing on the lack.
You end up getting desperate.
The moment you let it go and say, “ah! I’m fine with you or without you!” suddenly you get what you want.
This is common in lonely people who crave relationships a lot.
They can’t get the loneliness out of their minds.
They think about it.
Anguish is still noticeable to other people and drives them away.
Then, the moment they surrender and realize they are perfectly fine being single, someone suddenly appears in their life.
You need to be okay with yourself first.
The degree of your self-acceptance will dictate the quality of your relationship.
If you try to manifest a relationship when you are filled with despair and have low self-esteem, you may succeed, but the relationship will almost certainly be meaningless.
You may push your partner away, unconsciously cause drama in your relationship, or – more likely – attract a partner who isn’t good for you.
There are insanely codependent people out there who cling to desperate loners like a magnet.
Do you really want to attract someone like that?
Being grateful for your friends is a good strategy to attract better relationships.
How to Use the Law of Attraction for Love (Not Lack of Love)
Instead of looking into the void of your loneliness and waiting for someone to show up, the best way to manifest a relationship with a good partner is to fill that void first.
After all, happy, self-sufficient people are attracted to the same kind of people.
Here are some practices you can implement that will help slowly transform her into the type of person who can attract many different partners easily:
#1: Be Grateful for the Relationships You Have
First of all, using “the secret” to get what you want involves cultivating a sense of gratitude.
This can be very difficult in our society because we are programmed to complain about what is wrong with our lives.
Often, we may not even realize that there are solutions to our problems, and we may just accept them as a fact of life.
Well, your loneliness is not a fact of life.
Whether you’re alone or not, you can be grateful for the things you have.
What relationships in your life do you already have that you really like?
Do you have some very close friends?
Do you have a loving family?
Do you have a good relationship with yourself?
Is there someone you are already seeing romantically, but you keep poisoning that contact wondering when it will become a “real” relationship?
Are you pushing the person away with demands and desperation?
Look around you.
There’s always something to be thankful for, even if it’s hard to see through a lens of loneliness at first.
Even something as simple as getting out into nature and revisiting your relationship with the animals and plants that live there can make a difference.
Appreciating nature can help you feel more complete and self-sufficient and, indirectly, help you attract a partner.
#2: Abandon Judgment
Much of what closes us off to connections is being overly judgmental of the people who come into our lives.
Having a strict “must-have” list So mile long for our potential partner is usually just a form of self-sabotage.
The truth is, you may not even know what will make you happy.
Let go a little.
Stop focusing so much on the perfect things and accept what comes with happiness.
This will signal the world to send more.
#3: Don’t Sell Yourself Short
Just as it is a foolish task to expect your partner to fulfill your every whim and desire, you shouldn’t settle for something far below reasonable standards just because you think you “can’t do better.”
It doesn’t matter how unattractive you think you are; no one deserves an abusive or disrespectful partner.
Pay attention to the signs of someone mistreating you and know when to leave – even if it means being alone.
Sometimes “the universe” will test you like this.
You will get a bad suitor and she will wait and see if you have the strength to politely refuse.
Putting Yourself Out There
Do you actively meet new people to try to find a relationship?
#4: Forget The Disney Ending; Create Your Own Story
Attracting a good relationship does not mean it is perfect or even permanent.
Remember that you will attract someone who matches who you are at any given time.
If you or your partner changes, the relationship may no longer be compatible.
Sometimes we should learn something from a relationship and move on when we’re done.
This is perfectly fine and not a failure.
It’s just life.
Let go of the need to live “happily ever after”.
This is just cultural programming that can ironically interfere with real happiness.
Instead, make your own story.
How would you like the relationship to be?
Imagine as vividly as possible in your own mind.
If you can do this without missing out, be as detailed as possible.
#5: Use Visualization
When you imagine your partner, make him as real as possible.
Imagine walking up to that person and starting a conversation.
Rehearse it many times in your mind so that when it comes time to make the connection, you will be prepared.
Not only will this help you to be more confident, but it will also make you look for opportunities.
Go your own way; the one that is right for you.
#6: Don’t Be Shy !
When you’re ready, don’t be shy!
Send your intention to the world.
Tell everyone you know you are looking for a partner.
Remember not to send this message in a needy way, or it could backfire.
Be confident, specify what you want, and joyfully invite new people into your life.
If you’re too shy to admit you’re looking for a relationship, you’re going to have trouble finding one.
Make what you want as obvious as possible.
#7: Build a Good Life and Invite Others
If you’re living a life you love, people will naturally be attracted to you in droves.
Someone who genuinely feels the joy of being alive on a daily basis is so unusual that it piques people’s curiosity.
It will also attract a good partner.
So one of the best strategies for manifesting love in your life is to simply build the foundation first.
Make a life for yourself and watch how the right people flow into it.
Be careful here though.
“The right life” does not mean “the life I think will give me a partner”.
That is a trap.
Many people force themselves into a job they hate to earn money to attract a married partner.
This leads to a miserable marriage.
Be creative and build the life that’s right for you.
The right partners for you will come naturally.
How to Express Love with a Specific Person
Finally, let’s say a quick word about how to manifest love with a specific person.
Do not do it.
Is it possible to manifest a relationship with a specific person?
Yes, in theory.
However, the fact that you want to do this usually means you have a scarcity mindset and therefore it rarely works.
People who are using the Law of Attraction correctly to manifest love are open to a relationship with anyone who is a good fit.
If you are overly focused on one person, it means that you are rejecting people from all sides who can give you the same joy and happiness as the one you are hanging on to.
This is desperation.
Not only does it not work to manifest your desires, but it will also likely turn off the other person.
If you really want to attract a specific person, then, ironically, it would probably be best to let go of the need to be with them.
Dating other people will make you more attractive to them anyway, and you may ultimately end up together.
Of course, if you like a specific person and feel that this is the person the Universe has sent you, you can always try the direct method of attraction: ask them out!
As you can see, the Law of Attraction is not about wanting, it’s about having.
What do you already have in your life that you love?
Enjoy and expand!
What kind of relationship do you have with yourself?
Improve it and you will see other people coming into your life.
Focus on your own joy, and the rest will follow.