Are there really soul mates in this life? Is there really this person who wanders in this world with which you are destined to spend the rest of your life? Well, if you are like most people in this world, you believe in the idea of having “the good”.
You might think your destiny is already written for you. You might think that your love story has already been planned and that it is only a question of execution on your part at this stage.
A recent survey has shown that a large majority of adults, whether men or women, believe they have a “soul mate”. Both genders are equally seduced by the idea of finding “the one” with whom they are supposed to be forever.
Of course, it can be very comforting to know that your soul mate is only waiting for your arrival and that you are going to have to find it to find happiness together. However, there is not really any scientific evidence or evidence to support this evidence which is yours.
And if you really want to have a more realistic view of things, it would be rather limiting and narrow-minded to believe that there is only ONE person who is made for you; someone you can imagine spending the rest of your life with.
There are so many people living on this earth; and if it is true that you are only supposed to be with one in a billion people, then your chances of finding that person are not very good. But of course, it’s always nice to know if you’re with someone you have a lot of chemistry with; someone you are really compatible with.
And if you really want to be able to test your chemistry and compatibility with a person, you need to make sure that the following are present in your relationship. Otherwise, it is likely that you are not made for each other.
1. You feel secure in your relationship.
Your relationship should be a haven for you. It should help heal all the broken parts in you. A relationship should never fuel your fears and insecurities. So you know that things are not going to work out for you two if your relationship is not secure. This proves that there is a dysfunction in your romance.
2. You have fun together as a couple.
In the end, if you’re not having fun, then it’s not worth it. This is why you should always make sure that you are having fun. If you are not having fun, it shows that this relationship is not for you. A relationship without pleasure cannot last in the long term.
3. You are shopping for each other.
You should still be able to go shopping WITH the other and FOR the other. You need to be able to shop together to buy things for the house. If something as simple as this is impossible for both of you, then you know that you are having serious difficulties that you must resolve as a couple.
4. You are completely honest with each other.
You should always be honest with each other in your relationship. And you should always make sure that you are honest and transparent with each other. If you both feel that there are certain aspects of your private life that you need to hide, then that means that you are not in an ideal relationship at all.
5. Sit in silence without feeling uncomfortable.
You don’t always have to do something exciting to have fun. You don’t always have to go to lavish places to enjoy each other’s company. You should be able to enjoy each other’s presence, even if you stay at home and sit in silence.
6. You allow yourself space and privacy.
It is not because you enter a relationship that you will give up your sense of individuality. You should always set limits for each other. You both should be able to be your own people. And if you are unable to respect each other’s individuality and privacy, then you are in a toxic relationship that is not built to last.
7. Support each other’s goals and dreams.
A relationship should never be an obstacle to a person’s dreams. If you feel like your relationship is forcing you to give up everything you want for yourself, then it’s counterproductive to what a relationship should be.
8. Communicate effectively with each other.
As a couple, you still need to communicate effectively if you want to make sure your relationship will last. You will never make things work if you don’t know how to express yourself mutually. You always have to feel safe to talk about everything. And you should also be able to listen to each other.