How to strengthen your relationship if you have doubts:
When you love someone head over heels, you don’t expect to have doubts about the strength of your feelings at all.
The question seems contrary to the commitment. Even if you do it in private, in your head, in the middle of a sleepless night, while jogging, or taking a shower, it can sound like serious betrayal.
After you reach a certain point, you don’t want to wonder if your partner’s values are aligned enough with yours to move forward, long after the lustful phase, and in a lasting romantic attachment, or if you want the same things in life. life, or if you can imagine parents together and growing old next to each other. You don’t want to ask yourself these questions because it seems disrespectful to the person you love and what you’ve built together so far.
But you have to do it, without panicking, if possible. Because if you don’t, these questions will eat away at you from the inside until your heart is unable to love.
No matter how you feel about your partner, it’s natural to feel confused about the relationship once in a while. You may doubt that the person you love loves you as much as they claim to. You may doubt that your partner deserves the trust you place in them. You may wonder if your relationship will last for the long haul. Especially when it comes to the heart, no one knows everything.
The pangs of uncertainty can arise for no good reason, tickle your conscience and demand attention, even if it seems unwarranted. On other occasions, your intuition may respond to glaring signs of trouble or to subtle but meaningful signals. Unfortunately, it’s hard to tell the difference. But it is always worth trying to decipher the root cause of any doubts that arise. As unpleasant as the process can be, facing uncertainty is the only way to get clarity back.
You may or may not have reason to doubt your relationship.
You can decide whether or not the woman or man you have long considered “the right fit” for is exactly what you need. You can choose to make the effort to mend all the broken aspects of your relationship, or view the situation as a lost cause.
Relationship doubts are not necessarily an indicator of insurmountable problems, but they can be. The morning you wake up wondering if the person next to you belongs to you, that doesn’t necessarily doom you to separation. But maybe it is.
So listen to yourself, but with the utmost caution. Don’t ignore your inner little voice, but don’t fall victim to your own speculative thoughts either. Be as reasonable as your emotions allow. Seek advice from friends and family, but don’t take their ideas as more specific than yours. Seek therapy from a trained professional, but avoid horoscopes and psychics.
Consider all the possibilities: leaving, cheating, moving, ransacking the apartment, emptying the bank account, but understand the distinction between thinking, saying, and doing something.
Unless you are a saint who only thinks pure and holy thoughts, don’t feel pressured to voice every theories or opinions that cross your mind. Full transparency is not as healthy as it sounds, and we are all responsible to some extent for keeping each other out of our minds. It doesn’t mean that you can’t communicate openly and honestly, but it does mean that you need to choose your words carefully, especially when talking to the person you love.
Ultimately, whether you have reason to be suspicious, paranoid, or hesitant, whether you and your spouse stay together or go their separate ways, you will both be okay with it. Love is painful and baffling and exhausting and frustrating and incredibly awesome. It leads us to places we cherish and places we abhor. It brings out the best and the worst in us. Love demands sharp curves, steep hills, and giant potholes. The terrain is irregular, and that’s normal. If it was simple or easy, it wouldn’t be that hard to find, nurture, or let go. But no one has ever died of a broken heart.
People grow up because individuals grow, often separately. But relationships are also changing. If you stay together, your love won’t be weaker because you’ve questioned your relationship. On the contrary, you will be stronger as a couple.
