Without doubt one of the most stubborn, persistent, and annoying questions when you are in a relationship with someone … I love him yes, but … Is he the right one? Here is what you should take into account to help you answer this delicate question!
Are you compatible?
Love is a feeling that you cannot control, especially when it is combined with desire … What makes many couples who start quickly realize that they are not so compatible, over the weeks, even months! But love is a long journey strewn with pitfalls … To do so, you must be united and your goals are the same!
It is unfortunately difficult, but possible, however, to achieve sufficient perspective at the start of the relationship with regard to your compatibility. Passion can blind and camouflage all those little warning signs that something is really wrong with you.
In any case, do not imagine that certain differences in character, behavior, opinions, etc. will diminish over time. Often this is far from the case. And love is not the only thing that allows a couple to last, it is better to stop the costs as soon as possible, before investing too much in a relationship that sinks in the long term in the wall.
Does your short-term vision match?
To help discern if you have the same future objectives, compare your objectives, your projects, in the short term, ie 3 years in the future. Where do you see yourself, what do you do, what is your daily life like? Indeed, if you are preparing either to go abroad for a more or less long period, or if you intend to enlist in the army, or favor long studies, or anything otherwise, you may have to reconsider, one or the other, the future of your couple.
Please note, we are not asking you to have identical projects, 100% similar future prospects! Your goals only need to make sense and be compatible with each other. That you are ready to do those of your partner and vice versa.
Do you love yourself?
Self-esteem and self-esteem are essential in a relationship! We, unfortunately, neglect them too often, believing that the love that the other has for us will replace them … Which is false! It’s a long-term job for some, but the result will always be worth it. Because if you love yourself as you are, then you will know how to determine what is good and best for you! So learn to love yourself before you love another person.
So if this is the case, ask yourself very seriously the question: deep down, do you think that your darling will be the one who will manage to satisfy you, and to walk with you several years while trying to make you happy?
What about ultimately?
If after answering these questions, you realize that your story is a great story, but there is little chance that your man is really the right one, then rest assured, you will be able to find a man who will more able to share his life with you!
