Don’t get me wrong, if I stay, it’s not for lack of self-confidence. I know what I am worth and I know just as much what I deserve. I am great and I am fortunate. I am fully aware of this.
What do I expect from love and my relationship? A blossoming. Mutual assistance. Support. A life for two, which is really worth it. I am waiting for someone who is able to appreciate me for my true worth.
So, I warn you: I will not wait for you one more day. If you refuse to evolve, I will have to leave you. As painful as it is. If you do not want me to be part of your life, I do not intend to insist or force you to do anything. I will say goodbye to you and resume my journey.
I’m not interested in mediocrity
With age, I understood that a couple could not move forward when the efforts only come from one side. I have long decided not to fight for someone who refuses to do the same for me. It is out of the question that I waste my time and waste my energy for a poor relationship.
I am an adult. I no longer want to hear pretexts or excuses that do not stand up. You are also not 15 years old and I doubt that it is only your shyness that prevents you from moving forward or clarifying your intentions.
I need a man honest and able to assert his desires. If you want to be with me, show it. And that’s all ! If you think that we are not on the same wavelength, do not hesitate to tell me. I will accept it and try to move on.
But understand that I will never settle for less than what I deserve. And I deserve better than a man who leads me a boat! No, I prefer to wait for someone good. Someone who loves me and has certainties.
I have much better to do!
Believe it or not, time is a precious commodity and I am well aware of it. Again, I am not going to waste mine on someone who is not sure, who has doubts, who hesitates, etc.
I have things to do. I have ambitions, dreams, needs, desires, wishes, etc. In short, things that deserve my time! I love my life as it is and if you are not the good, I will recover.
But I need to know. I don’t want to feel like I’m stuck in time or like a problem that needs to be fixed. It’s not what I’m looking for.
So if you don’t make up your mind now, I won’t wait any longer. In life, you have to act! Time is precious and I will not spoil mine for you, especially not if you continue in this direction.
I want a serious relationship
I am no longer 18 years old and have had overnight relationships. Today, I want something else. I want a love story. I don’t expect perfection, but I expect something that is true, sincere and authentic.
A relationship based on respect and sharing. Above all, I expect a man to know what he wants and that he consciously decides to be with me. For good reasons, not to pass the time or for lack of anything better.
In short, I want a mature, fulfilled and fulfilling relationship. I do not want to bring into my life someone lost and childish.
I am not desperate
And if that’s what you think, you are greatly mistaken! As I told you, my life is rich and I love it as it is. Of course, I aspire to meet a man one day with whom I could share it. But if it is not you, it does not matter!
So explain to me: why should I choose you? For your doubts? For all the beautiful things you promise me? For your big gestures? No, certainly not. I want a lot more and I’m not so desperate as to settle for the minimum .
Because let’s be honest, I believe that if you were the man of my life and if I were the woman of your life, things would have happened differently and we would not be where we are today.
I tell myself that a man who deserves my love would do everything to get it. He would not be passive …
I’m not stupid either
By writing this to you, I choose to give you a chance but I’m not stupid. Let’s say that I am an optimist and that I believe in second chances. But beware, there will be no third so if you care about me, I invite you to take advantage of it or it will be too late.
Because your behavior speaks volumes. Your actions and the little gestures you have towards me too. You also don’t want to spend more time with me. You are not particularly affectionate. You never take the time to write me a message to say hello.
In short a lot of things that put me on the ear when it comes to what you feel for me. But I want to be clear. Let you know that a short-term relationship doesn’t interest me. Either it gets serious, or it ends.
It’s up to you. The ball is in your court.
… I prefer to be alone than badly accompanied
You may not be the man of my life, probably not actually. But I know he’s waiting for me somewhere and I’m not going to waste my time with you, risking missing a story that is really worth it.
There are lots of fish in the ocean and I will not miss it! If you don’t want to be with me, it’s too bad for you!
But what is certain is that I do not want to be a second choice. I want to be the priority of the man with whom I choose to share my life. No more no less.
If you want to play, you bet on the wrong horse. I will not let myself be led on a boat by an unfaithful man who aspires to accumulate stories. I hate games, they only bring pain and it’s something I have understood for a long time.
Love cannot bear hesitation
I don’t think I am wrong when I say that when you really love someone, you know for sure. When we really love, we have no doubts. Even less at the start of the relationship.
We have been dating for several months already and despite my desire to give you one last chance, I believe that if you loved me or felt something for me, you would know and you would act accordingly. However, it is not the case. You are distant, cold and very careless.
Love has many facets and takes multiple forms, I agree. But it rarely takes on the appearance of indifference or ignorance! I’m sure of that.
There are only two options
Either you choose to be with me, or you choose the opposite. But know that whatever you choose, there will be no turning back possible.
No need to come back to cry in three months telling me that you are crazy about me, that you made a mistake, that I am the woman of your life, blah blah blah. No, out of the question.
I also don’t want to hear bullshit like, “I wasn’t ready” ; “It was not the right time, but now it’s fine”; etc. Either you want me, or you don’t want. There are not a thousand options and you do not change your mind overnight, especially not in love.
The choice is yours
You will understand, now the ball is in your court.
I’m not going to lie to you, I like you. And that’s why I’m writing to you today. I would like it to work and I would like it to change but I also have no illusions. I am realistic and I am well aware that your behavior does not augur anything positive.
But know that if you decide to leave me, I will recover. I will get up and move quickly to something else. I leave you the benefit of the doubt and if you succeed in proving your sincerity to me, I swear to love you with all my heart and to give you all that you will need.
Anyway, I will have no regrets. I am proud of myself and of my approach.