He left you. He ended a relationship that you thought was just getting started. He abandoned you. He has given up all the hopes you had for both of you. And you wonder when he fell in love with you. You wonder if he may have been your person, but you were not his. Maybe he didn’t like you enough. And you’re here crying and praying that it’s all just a dream. Here, you replay every moment of the conversation in your head, trying to analyze every word he said at the end of the conversation. But all he really said was that he couldn’t be in this relationship anymore. Everything he said was no longer his case. That it was not the relationship it had been. And all you could do was listen and try not to cry. All you could do was subconsciously beg him to stay, without the word “stay” escaping your lips. And then he left. And it was over. Just like that.
I know it felt good when he loved you. I know you miss, at least, the one who was in love with you. And I know how much you miss the magic feeling of being loved by him. But at one point, his love ended. Or at least it wasn’t enough to keep him there. And I know it’s a hard truth to grasp. Maybe it came out of nowhere, or maybe you knew it was going to happen, as much as you hate to admit it. Maybe the signs were there that he was no longer your Prince Charming. Maybe he stopped sharing his feelings or asking you about your feelings. Or maybe he slowly created a distance between the two of you. He didn’t hold your hand so comfortably. But even if the signs were present, even if the spark faded, you still didn’t feel ready. You still didn’t feel prepared for such a big defeat. You did not feel ready to lose your prince charming. Whoever you thought you were. And now you don’t know how to “be” without him. You don’t know how to get back to normal. Or what normal even feels.
And I know how much it hurts. I know how sick your heart is and how empty your stomach is, and you have a chronic headache that doesn’t go away without sleep or sleep. I know you still believe that deep down part of him must still love you. Or at least you want to believe that he still loves you. Because nothing has changed. At least not from your point of view. And it hurts to think that he may be well. You want to believe he is crying over you. Or that he will come back to you when he realizes what he has just released. You hear the noise of a car outside your house late at night and believe it for a fraction of a second that it is him, coming to tell you that he is sorry. That he screwed up. Let him realize that the end was a mistake. But it is not him. Because this time is really an end. And as much as it hurts, you have to understand that he chose to go there. He chose to leave. Maybe her feelings have changed. Or maybe he was just afraid of loving you. But whatever the reasons, he left. He moved away.
I know that deep inside you believe that you are still the only one for him. I know you think it was your fairy tale. I know you are in shock that it ended so quickly. I know how to cry since his departure. I know your face is swollen with tears. And I know you feel hollow, like your heart has been ripped out. I know you cannot envelop yourself in such sadness and sorrow. I know you just want to go back and bring it back into your life. I know you are checking your phone to see if it has texted you. I know you continue to keep yourself from texting or calling her. And I know you are still praying for him to come back. But if you can step back, you may realize sincerely that it was not for you. Because he did not stay. It’s as simple and deep as that.
And one day you will look back and realize that the fact that he leaves you was actually a blessing in disguise, because it opened up the possibility of something more. Something better. Of a love that has no expiration date. A love that you will not have to question, worry or doubt. You will find your true fairy tale. I hope that in your pain, you will always be able to realize it. I hope you will understand that sometimes someone leaves to give you room to meet someone better. Sometimes you have to go through grief to find the happy ending. The truth is that if you continue to care about the one who does not love you, you will not leave room in your life for the one who loves you.
And I know that now you doubt yourself and consider yourself unworthy of love. But you should know that just because he didn’t love you doesn’t mean you can’t love yourself. And just because he did not love you does not mean that the other will not love you, more deeply and more intensely than ever. Your worth has never been measured by his feelings towards you. He has no say in the value or the particularity of your personality. It will not leave you feeling broken or insecure. It doesn’t make you feel small or worthless. It does not have the power to make you feel inevitable. It doesn’t have that power, so don’t allow yourself to think it does. You are adorable and dignified, and therefore very special. And no one can take this from you.
And maybe now you feel your love made no sense, if all was going to end well. Maybe the relationship made no sense if it ended up causing so much pain or emptiness. But the truth is that you needed this love to grow. You must have felt this deep love for someone because it taught you how deep your love could be. You have learned to trust someone with the most delicate belonging you have had – your heart. And for a while, you let someone else hold part of your heart. He fed him and loved him and cared for him as if he were his own. But now he has returned it. He didn’t break it, even if it’s like that. Maybe he accidentally bruised it by giving it back to you, but he didn’t spoil it. He did not make it impossible to love. And now you carry your whole heart, all by yourself. So take care of it. Tend to it. Love him and watch over him. Because one day, if you wish, you will share it with someone else. So make sure he is ready to love and be loved. Remember that it is not your last love. It is not the last time you will be loved. This end of a love story is the beginning of another. It’s a new start. It’s a new chance. Remember that it is not your last love. It is not the last time you will be loved. This end of a love story is the beginning of another. It’s a new start. It’s a new chance. Remember that it is not your last love. It is not the last time you will be loved. This end of a love story is the beginning of another. It’s a new start. It’s a new chance.
So now let him go. Keep the memories, but don’t keep reliving them. At least not now. Later, you can dive into the past. Later, you can remember all the good sides of your relationship. But now you are tender. For now, all you need to do is take care of yourself and focus on healing. Because yes, you have lost someone very, very special to you. You lost someone with whom you thought you had forever. But one day you will feel good. Someday it will be a memory and the pain will not be as severe. One day you will feel together and kind again. You will feel happy again. I promise. So take your time while you heal, but make sure you remember who you are.
You haven’t finished with him, because you didn’t want him to. We don’t know what the future of your story reads. We don’t know what’s going to happen next. But what we do know is that you have a beautiful beating heart and everything is going to be fine. You will be fine.
