Resentful people don’t forgive and forget

The problem with resentful people is that they will never recognize that they are. However, if they succeed, they can correct this behavior and succeed in changing their way of being.

Resentment or resentment is a negative feeling that can damage your sanity. All of this happens because resentful people are unable to forgive and forget an unpleasant situation that others have caused.

Whether it was a word or an act that hurt them, resentful people never manage to be happy. Because they carry all their life a venom in it. They lack the resources to forgive and this causes them deep bitterness.

The grudge is different from revenge

You might think grudge has to do with revenge, but they’re two very different things.

Resentment is a moral damage that makes us want the other person to pay for what they have done.

The revenge, in contrast, is when one behaves in a hostile manner towards the other person and we do everything we can to make his life hell and she suffers as much as we suffered.

While resentment and revenge sometimes go hand in hand, most of the time a resentful person is a passive subject who never gets what they want. Which is totally different from people who take revenge.

Resentful people swallow all this hatred and anger they feel about past circumstances.

They wish the other person harm but seldom act. They are content only to criticize, judge, and spit out their venom.

Characteristics of resentful people

Now that we know a little more about resentment, you might be wondering how one can recognize a person with a grudge.

Today we are going to find out some characteristics of these people.

They don’t forgive and don’t forget

There are people who forgive but never forget. A resentful person can lie to themselves when they say they have forgiven. However, inside, what happened is still alive.

They don’t learn from the past

Resentful people never leave the past and live in it continuously. They fail to let go of the negative experiences they have had.

They believe they are never wrong

Resentful people think they are perfect and that they never make mistakes. This makes them very rigid with others and they do not accept to act differently from what they want.

They get annoyed easily

Coming up with a resentful person can be complicated, as words or deeds can offend them.

They think they are better than others

The pain they have suffered from someone else makes them adopt a role of victim that prevents them from seeing that they too are wrong. Their perception of reality is often wrong.

Life is a drama

Their emotional insecurities and the inability to move past the past turn their lives into dramas where they always find themselves in the role of the victim.

Do you feel that someone around you is characterized by these aspects? Do you recognize yourself?

Just like any other emotion, resentment can be overcome. You just have to be aware of it and want to change.

Anyone can change

If you have discovered the characteristics we have discussed for yourself, it is important to interact with the people around you.

Try to keep an open mind to anything other people can tell you. 

Talking with others and sharing different perceptions of life will make you realize that you might be wrong. This will help you understand why you harbor this resentment within yourself and find out how you can eliminate it.

All of this will be difficult, and people with resentment tend to deny this fault. They believe that they are forgiving when they do not forgive. This is why it is necessary to know how to self-criticize and to accept what does not please us and what comes out of the mouths of our loved ones.

Whether you are a resentful person or have one around you, you know that can change. So, don’t think that a person who is resentful will be resentful all their life because if they realize it, they can stop being.