There are over 7 billion people in the world and the number is continually increasing.
Of those 7 billion people, you are likely to find only a few thousand.
Of those thousands, you will only truly match one or two.
Throw time into the mix and the chances of finding an ideal person to settle down are, to be honest, slim.
As depressing as this realization may seem, it brings with it a sense of relief.
The reality of it all is that meeting the right person – a person you will love and love back – is mostly out of your control.
This is not a fact to be feared.
On the contrary, it is a fact that should give you peace of mind.
Life used to be lived.
Today, life is controlled.
Or rather, we do our best to control as many facets of our lives as possible.
We fail most of the time, but we try anyway.
We don’t like things to get out of our control, because that leaves things to chance.
We feel the need to have control over our lives, because we understand that giving up control leaves everything to chance – and, as I mentioned earlier, most of us don’t feel very lucky.
Unfortunately, there are some things in life that you cannot and will not control – no matter how hard you try to force things your way.
Some things in life must be left to chance because whether or not you believe them to be left to chance, in reality, there is no other way.
You may be wasting a lot of your time, energy, and thoughts figuring out ways to manipulate the system – to take a shortcut.
You can, with all your might, try to move the mountain, but mountains cannot be moved.
They can be broken, but never reallocated.
You have no choice but to leave some things to chance.
The hard part is accepting it and moving on.
Finding a person to love and spend life with is without a doubt the most important part of life.
It’s also the hardest – or at least most of us believe.
The truth is, since finding a partner is basically out of your control, finding that person is a passive act.
You don’t search and find that person.
You just find him – or he or she finds you.
I’m not much of a believer in things outside of myself, but in this case, faith is the only true option.
You need to believe that sooner or later you will find the person for you.
You need to keep your eyes open, not looking for them, but paying enough attention so that when that person comes into your life, you know you’ve found them.
That’s the real problem with us.
We are too busy trying to find the person we believe we will love that we almost certainly ignore potential candidates.
We predetermine the type of individual we believe we will love, rather than allowing ourselves to interact with others and find out if they are lovable.
We imagine an ideal, thinking we will find it, not understanding that just because we imagine them doesn’t mean they exist.
Looking for someone to love never works.
You just can’t force such a thing.
With all the variables in play when it comes to two separate human beings, the equation for finding your true love is out of your reach – you just can’t calculate the outcome of any relationship.
You shouldn’t try either, as the act of calculating is a variable that must be added to the calculation itself.
All the things we do and think affect the way we live our lives, the way we see the world, and the experiences we have.
Why bother thinking about something you have absolutely no control over?
Instead, live your life and be grateful for the opportunities that come your way.
Spend your time and energy improving yourself and working on those things that you have control over.
Reflect on life’s greatest mysteries.
Work on being happy and healthy because of those two things you have complete and complete control over.
When you get to a point where you are totally self-sufficient and independent, you will find that finding someone to love is much easier.
The truth is, the more successful and prettier you are, the more options you have – especially when it comes to the opposite gender.
You and your better half will enter a relationship on your own.