You Are Better Than That.
Dating can be full of disappointments, usually one after another.
When you’re single, your line of potential suitors is usually 60% weirdos, 20% emotionally unavailable men, 15% ex-boyfriends, and 5% men you’d really like to date.
Even though there are much fish in the sea, many of them are bad.
So when the stars align and, by some miracle, you find a guy you like, it’s easy to get too excited too fast.
But there is great danger in putting all your eggs in one basket.
Of course, there are people who meet and fall in love instantly and are together forever, but this is more of an exception than a rule.
The rule of thumb is that you should never assume that someone wants to be exclusive until you are truly exclusive.
When you first meet someone you instantly click with, there’s a tendency to over-inflate the parts of their personality that you like and ignore the parts you don’t.
You focus on the fact that he makes you laugh and not that he hasn’t had a job in six months.
You tell all your friends how loud and protective he is and leaves out the part about the serious issues he has with anger management.
While it’s entirely human to want things to go well for the first time in your love life, you need to resist the urge to accept less for fear of being alone.
Taking the time to get to know someone before committing to them is essential to protecting your heart.
You shouldn’t give in just because you’re tired of waiting.
If you get caught up in a dream about the guy you like, make an effort to come back to reality.
Compare what you are visualizing with what is actually happening and see if there is a big difference.
In that case, you might want to tap into the emotions and find other ways to distract yourself before getting too involved.
Trust me, the last thing you want to do is settle down and settle for less than you think you deserve.