After observing hundreds of couples for almost 40 years, researchers at the Relationship Research Institute have managed to draw up a list of signs that indicate that a relationship is made to last. Their flagship process for probing love relationships: the Love Lab. The idea is as follows: ask a couple to place themselves in a home-like setting and converse as if nothing had happened. In this context, the researchers declare that they are able to predict the future of the couple at 91%.
According to psychologist John Gottman , who specializes in the study of couples at the Relationship Research Institute, breakups are not linked to differences of opinion but to the inability to communicate differences. Another factor leading to the breakup of the couple: trying to change the personality of their partner instead of accepting it as it is. But are there keys to ensuring that our couple will last ? Certainly, according to psychologist John Gottman.
He is convinced that lasting couples are neither richer, smarter, nor more strategist than the others. They just don’t put their negative thoughts and feelings on their partner. What he calls an “emotionally intelligent” union.
Here are the 5 signs that show that your relationship should last.
1- You are polite to each other
When you converse, your discussions are cordial and friendly. You treat your partner as an equal and he does the same. It is not a question of underestimating the other or putting him on a pedestal but to consider him at their fair value and to estimate his words. If your exchanges are synonymous with respect, your relationship is likely to last.
2- You complain but don’t be critical
Your complaints start from the “I” and not from the “you”. You do not openly criticize the personality of your partner and understand that everything is not always the fault of others. If he makes a mistake, you don’t take the opportunity to rebalance all his mistakes. In short, we are trying to see the relationship through a positive lens.