Seriously. Nothing else matters except this.
The other day, I received a message from someone who made me understand the importance of addressing this subject:
“Have you noticed that there are a lot of people who are content with a cyber date? As if they were so busy that they just sent videos and text messages all day and never saw each other? It happened to me for 4 months – and I ended up not being satisfied with that! ”
Today, in a world in turmoil where we are fortunate to be always connected to each other, these “methods of meeting” are an effective way to get to know each other and stay in contact unlike previous generations.
However, there is often a crucial piece of the puzzle missing (as evidenced by this post and many others), which reveals someone’s real interest in you – or the lack of that interest.
We can spend the whole day talking about ways to find out if a man is interested in you, but in the long run, there is only one thing that really matters. You might receive a message wishing you a good day every morning, a good night message every evening, flowers sent to your work, chat all day or receive compliments that regularly make your cheeks blush.
But the truth is, it doesn’t matter at all if he doesn’t make the effort to come and see you.
A man who is really interested in you, even if he is “busy”, will always find time to see you. No excuses, lies or broken promises.
Of course, assuming there is sufficient distance between the two of you.
When I meet a woman who grabs my attention, texting and all the fun stuff that goes with it, it’s great, but all it really does is increase my desire to see her and spend time with her in person.
Why wouldn’t it go? This type of communication should complement, not be the largest part of, the relationship.
It is true that many men may need a little more pressure than others. Maybe a suggestion from you to do something in person will help; but it’s a safe bet that he will take matters into his own hands and he will be the one to transition between texts / chats / conversations and the time spent together.
The longer he waits to try to make real plans with you, the less you can assume that he is interested.
He should be wondering what you are doing on Friday. Busy? Why not Saturday? And while we’re at it, what are you doing for the holidays?
The right person, who is genuinely interested in building a relationship with you, will dedicate their time to making this happen.
He will spend his time coming to see you; he will devote his time to enriching conversations he will devote time to YOU.
He will understand that a relationship is like any other investment – if you don’t put anything in it, you can’t expect to get anything out of it.