Many people confuse attachment with love.
They think they love someone or that they are loved, but in fact, they are just attached and too weak to leave.
They fight for their relationship not because there is unconditional love, but because they are unable to be alone. It’s always easier to stay in a comfortable and secure relationship than to be alone.
As mentioned above, it’s quite common to confuse love with attachment, but once you understand the difference, you feel free and yourself again. Of course, at first, you might be afraid to admit it, because you know that a relationship that isn’t built on love can’t last long.
The fear of losing the relationship and leaping into the unknown is terrifying as hell. But the worst thing that can exist is to stay in a loveless relationship just because you are afraid.
When you recognize that it is only attachment, not love, you can open up to reality and find someone who will make you truly happy. Being stuck in a comfortable, but not satisfying, relationship can be very stressful and exhausting, especially when you don’t know exactly what’s wrong.
The difference between love and attachment is not that big
And that is why it is difficult to notice her.
Love is pure, healthy, and secure. It uplifts you and makes you feel at peace. Attachment can, of course, make you feel similar emotions, but it’s also toxic. Attachment also makes you jealous, scared, and needy. You feel at peace when your partner is by your side.
With attachment, you don’t care about the happiness of your spouse.
You only want him by your side. You need it by your side. You can’t get by without it, and it’s even an unhealthy obsession. With love, you let the other person be free and flourish. You like to see him happy and see his dreams come true. You value the time spent together, but you also respect her privacy.
Attachment is like a drug.
Your partner is constantly on your mind and you need them more and more. You might even collapse and lose the will to live if your partner were to disappear from your life.
True love helps both partners grow as people. They support each other, but also give each other space and privacy. They choose to be together, but they don’t need each other, and there is a big difference.
After the breakup, love remains stable, and partners can usually get along. Sure, it hurts, but if there’s no obsession, it’s manageable. With attachment, pain is destructive.
Usually, people who have been in an unhealthy relationship can’t get along, because they start to resent. You start to blame the other for all your misery and sadness. You don’t love him as a person, you love him as a part of your life. And it is difficult to give up part of your life.
Attachment is often more harmful than love.
With love, you can be honest with your partner and express how you feel. Attachment only allows you to see the good in your spouse, and you’re afraid to fight because you’re too afraid of losing it.
In conclusion, love is pure and healthy. It makes you feel safe, happy, and secure. Attachment is an unhealthy obsession that destroys you and makes you feel insecure, fearful, and jealous.
Don’t settle for an attachment-based relationship because in the end, it will make you feel sad, stressed, and depressed. Learn to love yourself first and find a partner who will love you with all of your flaws and who will never take you for granted.