What is true love?
There are relationships that work for life and then there are others that don’t work, even if it’s long-distance. And those in the latter tend to ask why they are unlucky in romantic engagements! ‘Am I lacking physical appearance?’, ‘Am I a horrible person?’, ‘Is this a curse?’, ‘Can I still find true love?’ and ‘Why am I so unlucky in love?’ – These are just some of the things we wonder about. But, if we get down to business, what is true love? Does it really just depend on our luck? Is finding one just a coincidence that we end up with the right person? Is love at first sight even true love? Is it true love when couples work it out, even if it is a long-distance relationship? Yes, there are many questions in our head that need answers, but love has been around since ancient times and people still cannot give a definitive answer to the question. So back to that, what is true love? We may never discover the true definition of it, but one thing is for sure, there are still ways to know if we are in one, as there are signs within a relationship that can assure us.
1. You always put yourself in the place of your partner
It’s probably true love when you think about things from your partner’s perspective or point of view. There are relationships in which people do not think of their partners when making decisions and that could mean taking their lovers for granted; It’s safe to say it’s not true love at all When you get used to the idea of thinking about what your partner will feel in everything you almost do, it is because you have already accepted that your life is no longer just yours and that you gave a large part to your lover, therefore, affecting them. when you make decisions; either positive or negative
2. Pride out of jealousy
Let’s face it, we tend to get jealous of our friends when they accomplish something we failed at or when they overshadow us. But, when you love someone deeply, jealousy will never enter the picture. Rather, we feel proud and consider our partner’s accomplishments to be ours, even if it means that we sometimes overshadow ourselves. This is actually one of the most common reasons why some relationships don’t work out. When women succeed and earn more than their partners, men feel that they are losing their pride and superiority, leaving their lovers behind. However, sometimes it is normal to worry, but if it is true love, pride will always win out over jealousy.
3. The willingness to share everything
When you are in a relationship, everything that belongs to you will belong to your partner. That’s what love is about, as they say, it’s about sharing. But, everything positive and happy would be very easy to share, right? What about negativity? It is one of the signs of true love when both involved in the relationship are willing to share each other’s burdens because you will never want to see someone you love go through difficulties alone. And you are not doing this because it is an obligation. When you do this because you want to, it is true love that you are feeling.
4. True love is always “us”, never “me”
Although you still have affairs of your own, even when you are already in a relationship, as it is still your life, after all, your main goals and dreams in life must still involve your partner, no matter what. When talking about plans, always consider your lover’s side. When planning events, think about how it would affect your relationship. When you hear your partner talking to their friends about their future plans and using ‘we’ instead of ‘I’, it just means that you matter so much and that your partner truly loves you.
5. Keeping the promises
Many people say that promises must be broken. But, a promise is a guarantee that you are giving to someone else. Although, yes, it is your choice if you want to break it and it is still in your control when or how you will keep it. If you make a promise even if it is sometimes difficult, but are willing to do whatever it takes to keep it with the person you gave it to, it is sure to be true love. Our partners may never know if we break them, but if you love someone, your conscience will tell you, and you won’t even think about it in the first place.
6. To know how to deal with disagreements
There is no perfect relationship. Sometimes the blemishes are actually the ones that keep the relationship going and last a long time. Therefore, arguments and occasional fights are expected to be unavoidable. Two people in a relationship are still different in their own way in some way, so there will be times when lovers would disagree with each other and instead of being shy to speak their minds, they tend to argue and make silly mistakes. . The arguments would annoy us, but we would hurt ourselves twice if we see that the person we love is hurt by our actions. If you truly love someone, you will never be shy or hesitate to apologize. You’re willing to back off when you already feel like your partner is getting upset. So when lovers can swallow their ego, so as not to hurt themselves, it is true love.
7. Signs of willingness to make sacrifices
As human beings, we have our own wishes and dreams that we want to achieve to improve our lives, so from time to time, we tend to be selfish. That’s fine if we are not in a relationship. We can dream and do things, whatever and however we want. But, if you decide to get involved with someone, it’s time to be considerate of your partner’s feelings. If both lovers show signs of willingness to sacrifice their own wishes and desires, so that they can support each other, it is true love. Once you get over the feeling of selfishness, it is because you learned to love deeply and their happiness becomes yours.
8. You know each other very well
When you don’t care about someone, you won’t even make the effort to get to know them. There are some relationships in which the partners do not know the personality of the other, which is the cause of endless discussions and disputes. There are some, even after the years they have been together, who are still shy about doing things with their partners because they feel uncomfortable. However, it does not necessarily mean that this type of relationship is not automatically true love. It’s just that they don’t reach the level of romance where couples just love each other!
9. One of the signs is that passion never stops
Some relationships that last for years can gradually turn casual. This is a stage where couples feel really comfortable and used to it. This usually happens in long-distance relationships. However, when couples truly love each other, their passion will never go away, even after years of being together. It is true love when you still feel the desire to be close to your lover; just like when you first met them. It is true love when couples do not tire of each other.
10. When you are willing to change
When you really love someone, you won’t even think about changing their personality to satisfy yourself. However, changing them is completely different from your willingness to change for the better, just to please your partner. It does not mean that one has to change completely; it’s just that you have to adjust sometimes for your relationship to work. If you think there is a habit that your partner is constantly upset with, try changing it. When couples are willing to change for the better, it means that they are considerate of their loved ones.
11. Couples cannot stay angry for long
Arguments and misunderstandings are inevitable in a relationship. Even if you are together for years, you should expect that there are things that you will not agree with. Although it is okay to have arguments sometimes, because believe it or not, a relationship that is too perfect is usually unsuccessful because it gets boring, it is not okay to stay angry for too long. When you really love someone, you cannot afford to ignore them for long. No matter who is wrong, you won’t feel shy to apologize because you want to make it up to you as soon as the discussion is over. It is true love when couples are not afraid to ask their loved ones for forgiveness.
12. Constantly saying “I love you”
Saying “I love you” today is very common. It’s actually very easy to tell even when two people are in love with each other, rather than in love. When couples randomly say “I love you” while staring at each other, it is real. It is not the one at the end of every phone call or chat; that is already a routine of all.
13. Remember special things that others want
When your partner remembers almost everything that is special to you, it could mean true love. From their birthday to their anniversary, they will always make an effort to make it even more special. They will also know your likes and dislikes, and your hobbies and interests.
14. Complete mutual trust
It is understandable that it is difficult to give 100 percent of your trust to your partner, especially if the relationship is long-distance. That’s completely normal because you probably just take care of yourself, right? But, know that in true love, complete trust is always present. There will be times when we will wonder if our partner has ever done something to hurt us, but if you fully trust them, these kinds of thoughts will go away. The true love you feel will always prevail.
15. Most important sign: Happiness!
The most important sign of true love is when you are both happy. Even after years of being together, when you still feel the joy of being with your lover, it is probably true love. Or, even when your relationship with your lover is long distance, but you have full confidence and are happy, it is true love.