What Men Want in a Relationship

Whether you’ve just gotten into a relationship or have been in one for decades, it’s helpful to know what men want in a relationship.

It’s easy to assume they want exactly what you want, but that’s not always accurate.

Understanding how a man’s mind works can be beneficial to any relationship.

Below are several ways to give a man what he wants in a relationship.

If you can apply all of these to your relationship, you can guarantee that it will be healthy and that your man will appreciate your effort.


While this advice may seem too obvious, many people easily get into relationships that are just convenient, even if there isn’t a strong attraction there.

From the start, there are ways to inadvertently decrease his attraction to you.

This can happen if you are too needy or demanding.

If you push him too far or play mind games with him, he could end up losing his attraction to you.

Despair is also a big attraction killer.

As long as you are willing to do things for him, also maintain your self-respect.

So how do you maintain a strong attraction if there is one?

Be yourself and let things happen naturally.

Let your fun, laid-back side shine through.

Attraction is not just appearance.

It’s also about the attitude and behavior you have.

It goes without saying that a positive outlook on life is attractive, while a constant negative attitude about things can be super annoying for men.

If you are positive, chances are he will feel positive too and this can only help your relationship.

Don’t try to force or rush things in your relationship.

If you try too hard to impress him or push too hard to make the relationship happen, you could end up scaring him away even further.

Emotional Intimacy

Most men don’t like to show their feelings all the time, but they have the few people they can open up to.

A girlfriend or wife should be that person he trusts to fully open up to.

Something a man really wants in a relationship is for you to be his safe space.

A sign of a strong relationship is when he can open up emotionally to you.

Don’t worry if it doesn’t happen right away.

Sometimes it can take years for this kind of emotional intimacy to develop.

He needs to know that you won’t be disgusted if he breaks down and cries in front of you.

If you make him feel like he can’t be vulnerable, his trust in you will disappear.

A man wants a woman who can see the cracks in his armor and still love him.

Emotional intimacy also applies to the feeling you and your partner have for each other.

Don’t be afraid to tell him that you care about him, especially as the relationship progresses later on.

If a guy wants to be in a relationship, it means he doesn’t just want physical intimacy.

He wants to be emotionally close to you too.

And that means he wants your heart.


It can be easy and sometimes even fun to fight with the opposite gender, but we have to be aware when he is worried.

You can make a joke or two, but consider your man’s feelings.

We’ve all heard the gender stereotypes out there.

Do yourself a favor and don’t belittle your partner.

You probably wouldn’t want to be looked down on either.

Sometimes this can happen accidentally.

Be careful of being overly critical of him.

It’s not good if you don’t make him feel good about himself.

For a good number of men, respect and love go hand in hand.

These men need respect in their love lives, and the respect you show them will also show your love for him as well.

After all, if you don’t respect him, then do you really love him?

If you don’t respect him, he will feel loved, anxious, and frustrated, among other things.

Another part of respect is seeing you as your equal.

That means not treating him like a child.

Don’t treat him like a little boy, or compare him to others who are stronger, smarter, better-looking, richer, and so on.

Remember that people deserve respect and that goes double for anyone in a relationship.

Be aware of how you are with the opposite gender.

While you should be able to have other friends, it’s usually considered disrespectful to flirt with other people, regardless of whether your guy is also there watching you.

The best rule of thumb is to consider how you would like to be treated and apply it to the way you treat the man in your life.

Having a deep, mutual sense of respect for each other will be really healthy for your relationship.


We all have an ego and men are no different.

Even the man who seems most confident can use some security now and then.

Whether it’s about themselves, their careers, how good they are in bed, or partners, men love to be complimented.

While men typically don’t need as much praise as women, being praised by significant others can positively affect your confidence and self-esteem.

Congratulate your guy on a good job done at work or at home and make him feel good about the things he’s good at.

If he’s really strong or witty, let him know he’s special.

If he is the main breadwinner in the relationship, tell him that you value his hard work and what he does for your family.

And if he’s not, acknowledge him for the other contributions he’s made to the life the two of you share together.

Men like to be appreciated and recognized for the things they do, whether big or small, and it’s always better when the compliments come from someone significant.

This lets them know they are doing something right.


Men. You can’t live with them and you can’t live without them.

It can be frustrating when they don’t always use the dishwasher properly or when they don’t remember to do little things that are automatic for you.

But you love this special man, right?

Let him know that you accept him.

Most adult men put themselves in their own way and don’t look for someone who wants to drastically change them.

Of course, we all have our flaws and our relationship partners can help us become better people, but there is a limit to this.

You shouldn’t want your man to be a completely different person.

Remember, no healthy man wants a woman who acts like her mother.

Don’t try to belittle him if you want a healthy relationship.

Allow him to feel like a man and accept him for the unique person he is.

After all, you chose him for a reason.

Physical Connection

While women generally connect better through the act of communication, men are known to connect better through the act of physical intimacy.

Being intimate is an important part of many relationships.

Many men want to feel needed in their relationships and often want their needs met as well.

Ideally, this physical connection should be present as this can make a relationship very strong.

When you enter a relationship, it can be easy to feel like the flame has gone out.

Don’t fall into the trap of complacency.

The last thing you want to happen is giving up the intimate bond in your relationship.

This doesn’t even have to fully apply to intimacy in bed.

This also includes small gestures like holding hands and hugging.

Believe it or not, he might crave your touch even outside the bedroom.

He might even reach out to know you’re still there for him.

Getting involved with him physically is also getting involved with him romantically.


Some people don’t consider that men want a little romance too.

Some are more romantic than others, so find out where your boyfriend fits in.

While he doesn’t expect chocolates and flowers from you, he might value the occasional cute message from you or the kiss on the lips for no specific reason.

A big part of great romance is the little surprises that aren’t expected but that are delivered anyway.

Things like a quick kiss on the cheek or an impromptu hug session.

Or you could even try something warmer, like an unexpected passionate kiss or a nibble on the neck.

Making romantic gestures will also show that you are passionate, spontaneous, and generous in a relationship.


Feeling secure in a relationship is always incredibly important to the parties involved.

What makes a person feel secure about their relationship?

Having a partner who is trustworthy and honest can certainly help.

Men are no different from girls when it comes to wanting security in a relationship.

Think about it.

If a guy is taking you on a date or has a house with you, he would be devastated if you decided to end the relationship without any warning.

That’s why it’s important for you to be trustworthy and communicative with him.

Remember to communicate with him through the good times and bad too.

That way, your relationship won’t just go up in smoke.

Commitment is an important part of a secure relationship.

It’s important that you both agree on the terms of your relationship and work to maintain a strong relationship.

If one person stops making the effort, the relationship will start to fall apart.

Emotional Maturity

If you’re in a relationship, you should be old enough to act like an adult, 16 or 60.

It’s no surprise that men want emotional maturity in a relationship.

This means not acting like a child when things get too difficult.

Think about it.

Why would a normal man want a woman who acts like a child when he could do better with a woman who acts maturely and responsibly?

To be emotionally mature in your relationship, remember to always communicate with your partner and respect their feelings.

Don’t act immediately on your emotions.

If you get upset or frustrated, don’t “give it up”.

The opposite of someone with emotional maturity is someone who gambles.

For example, if you are angry with your boyfriend and instead of talking to him, you ignore him for several days while he wonders what is wrong.

A man wants someone who can handle the situation in a mature way.

Instead of reacting in a way you might regret, take a second first to step back and try to figure out how to fix the problem.

Remember that an emotionally mature relationship is healthy.


Good communication is definitely linked to emotional maturity.

To keep a man happy in a relationship, you must be able to communicate, even when you just want to give him the silent treatment and leave him there to guess what went wrong.

Fewer things are frustrating than when you have no idea why your partner is upset.

Do them both a favor and just talk to him.

If you need to calm down, let him know that you’ll be back to talk about it.

But people in healthy relationships aren’t afraid to communicate openly and honestly.

If you have a problem you’re dealing with, especially in a relationship, let him know before it’s too late.

Remember that men aren’t mind readers.

In fact, no one is a mind reader.

That’s why it’s great to communicate your thoughts and feelings.

If you don’t communicate what you’re thinking, nothing will change the issues you’re dealing with in your relationship.

Communication also involves listening.

So remember to listen to him if he has something to say.

While men are said to be less likely to want to talk about their feelings, you should also let them know that you are there for them if he needs to talk.

Men have feelings too, and as his partner, you should be there to support them when he needs it.

Remember to keep you posted.

This includes involving him in the plans you make together.

Don’t make plans for you all the time without him knowing.

If you’re late for a date, send a message to let them know.

Don’t show up 30 minutes late unannounced or worse, not show up.

Most men don’t have the patience for that.


If a man wants to be in a relationship, that means he wants a partner.

This doesn’t just mean someone goes out to dinner and gets close, but also someone he can build a life with and make important decisions with.

When two people are partners, they listen to each other and value each other’s opinions, especially when it comes to the big things in life.

Partners support each other and don’t fall apart.

In a partnership, both people involved must remember that one person should not give while the other person only receives.

This can apply to anything from the effort of spending time together to sharing housework if you live together.

A partnership means you do it together.


Regardless of whether it’s a sense of adventure or a similar sense of humor, who doesn’t want to have fun with their romantic partner?

Men especially like to laugh, and while they may laugh and joke with their friends, they probably want to laugh at you too.

That doesn’t mean you have to like everything your guy finds funny with his friends.

Two people in a relationship can have their own inside jokes and a set of things they can laugh about.

That’s what makes it even more special.

After all, who likes it when their partner takes themselves too seriously?

This means that you are not afraid to feel comfortable with your partner.


No matter how strong, intense, and loving a relationship can be, everyone needs some space from time to time.

Whether you’re at the start of a violent romance or you’ve been going strong for 10 years, you still need time for yourself.

It’s probably a surprise that guys need space in a relationship.

The truth is, that people need their space, regardless of gender.

We all need time to remember and discover who we are outside of our relationships.

If he has his own hobbies and interests, he should be able to do them without feeling guilty about not being by his side.

While it’s fine for a couple to have hobbies and interests together, sometimes a guy wants to do his own thing once in a while, no matter how much he cares about you.

When it comes to space, the two people in the relationship will need to talk about what their relationship is all about.

Not every couple will be the same and everyone will have their different needs.

Some couples may need time alone at the end of each day, while others may choose to spend time apart once a week or once a month.

Work together to find out what’s best for you as a couple.

The idea of ​​giving her space can also apply to the early stages of a relationship.

Give him the time and space he needs.

Don’t do things like talk about marriage on the second date.

While it’s important to talk about a long-term commitment in the relationship, it’s the kind of conversation that can be started as the relationship progresses when both of you are ready to talk about it.

Don’t press too hard from the start.


While you shouldn’t change drastically to fit what a man would like in a relationship, you also need to consider that a relationship is a two-way street.

At the end of the day, men want a relationship where they can feel good about themselves and where they feel like they’re with someone mature.

Being able to communicate and commit are just a few aspects of a mature relationship.

Men appreciate the respect and a partner who works alongside them.

If you can do these things, you can have a happy and fulfilled relationship with your boyfriend.