The idea of living together is becoming more and more present but you are still afraid to take the plunge? Wondering when to live together? If there is a better moment than another? Here are the 9 signs that you are clearly ready to live under the same roof!
When to live together? The 9 signs that you are ready
This is a question that must be asked before making such a decision, a decision that will upset your life, your pace, your habits. Living together can seem idyllic in your imagination. However, life together, although beautiful, is made up of compromises. We do not choose ease by living together. Some people decide to live their whole life in two different apartments so that they never know the routine and keep their independence (obviously if there are children, it becomes more complex). But when to live together?
Living together is a decision that should not be taken lightly. In no case should one push the other to pass the course. The desire must come from both partners.
1 / You live more or less already together
Your toothbrush is already well installed in the small glass jar placed on Doudou’s sink, you already have a small drawer where some clothes hang around here and there at his place. You are used to going to each other. Besides, you almost have the impression of already living under the same roof (beware, this is only an impression!). For my part, I lived like this with my friend for a year and when we really settled together I naively thought that nothing was going to change. Living together with one or the other and living together in YOUR common apartment has nothing to do with it. If you choke, if you argue, you can go get some fresh air but you will no longer be able to go home to rest, you will no longer have your own cocoon. You will have a cocoon to share and you really have to want it.
However, already living with each other on a regular basis will allow you to notice the small faults, the slightly strange and even annoying manias of the other. Monsieur does no housework, Madame lets her panties hang everywhere, Monsieur likes watching series until 3 am, Madame wants to go to bed at 10 pm to get her 10 hours of daily sleep… You know, we will have to deal with it!
2 / You are not at the start of the relationship
It is obvious but better to specify. We don’t live together after six months of relationship. You cannot make such a serious decision when you are blinded by love. If you are still in the “Passion” phase beware! You have the impression that everything is beautiful, that everything is pink, and that all of this will remain intact or even improve once you have moved in together. FALSE! The passion is maintained and the desire to see the other is not for nothing. When you live together, the passion will fade. It’s inevitable. This does not mean that you will not love each other anymore! You just have to be ready to accept going from the love state to Love. You just have to be ready to build.
3 / You do not do it for financial reasons
We don’t live together by doing calculations. You live in Paris? In 17 square meters? You each pay 700 euros? Do you think that if you live together you would have 40 square meters for 1200 euros? Yes, it’s true. But is this a good reason? Have you paired up for the equipment? ” No, but it sure works .” NO. Money shouldn’t play a role in your decision.
You have managed to live alone so far so don’t make this mistake. We decide to live together when the relationship allows: you have reached a stage of maturity, you want to build, you accept the faults of the other, you tolerate them … Here are reasons to live together. Money should not come into account.