Why did he stop texting? If you’re asking this question, the truth is, he’s probably not into you.
These 12 rules will ensure that this does not happen again.
You’re probably here because you’re in a situation where you thought you were totally fine with a guy and you suddenly realize he’s stopped texting.
A good friend of yours would list 10 reasons he still likes you, she would say it wasn’t your fault or even that you deserve someone better than him.
However, the reality is different.
If the guy has stopped texting you, the best thing to do is not get stuck on the subject.
Simply accept and move on.
However, if you want to make sure it doesn’t happen again or if you really want him talking to you again, have these tips in hand in case he talks to you again or if you start texting another man.
Grab these rules so you don’t mess up next time and no man you like will stop talking to you.
The biggest problem with a text message is that it doesn’t always read the way you meant it.
It is read by the reader’s thoughts and perceptions.
What does that mean? This means that anything you put into written words has the potential to be misinterpreted.
Texting is tricky because you might have sent him a message that was misunderstood and ended up scaring him or even making him angry.
When texting with a guy, follow this 12 general and basic rules, especially before you start dating him officially.
Do This When He Stops Texting You:
1. Less Is More.
When you look at a conversation between girls and guys, what you will probably notice is that women write a lot more than men.
They usually respond in one sentence or one line.
Men don’t like to write their life stories, not even amusing ones.
When you’re texting a guy, keep things very simple.
If it’s something longer than 3 lines, wait to see him in person, because you’ll be able to talk to him better.
Also, if it’s a topic you want to discuss extensively with him, you won’t be able to get much out of it.
Nothing good comes from text messages filled with emotions and questions.
2. Don’t Be Too Anxious.
If he texted you, don’t respond at lightning speed, as if you were waiting for a message from him.
When you receive a text message, wait to finish what you were doing, that way you’ll make him think you weren’t sitting with your cell phone in your hand waiting for him to contact you… even though you were.
If you seem too needy or desperate, he’ll get the wrong impression, and anything after that will seem too demanding.
Rule number 2 is to just wait a little longer to respond, using that time to think about the answer.
3 to 5 minutes is the basics and using common sense you can wait up to 10 minutes or more.
3. If He Doesn’t Respond, Don’t Send Another Message.
If you send him a message and he doesn’t respond, just leave it as is.
Often, women overestimate what he just sent and start to panic, wondering what he might have understood.
This makes you pick up your phone to send more messages, explaining what you meant by the last message.
Obviously, he will think you are needy and insecure.
If you text him and he doesn’t respond, texting more isn’t a reminder to reply, it’s a reminder to ignore yet another woman who’s pissing him off.
When you least realize it, you’ve already sent 3 messages saying things like “won’t you answer?”…
And he doesn’t really respond.
Now he’s totally ignoring you.
4. Use Neutral, Emotionless Language… Always.
Women are dramatic by nature. Impossible to change, it’s genetics.
Men are not much for words.
When you put things in a text, they take it literally.
If you start using emotional words, you’ll overwhelm them and they’ll end up not knowing how to respond.
A text message should be one of two things: completely emotionless or attractive.
These are the only two types of text messages that men know what to do and how to respond.
Before sending him a message filled with love and feelings, think twice. These things you must say in person, face to face.
If you can’t, then maybe you shouldn’t text either.
5. Don’t Send Emojis Unless Necessary.
Emojis Are Fun. You and your friends think they’re funny, but guys… not so much.
The only two situations to use fun icons are when you’re trying to make sure he’s not misunderstanding your text, i.e. to make sure he doesn’t get mad at something that was supposed to make him happy.
The other situation is when you are trying to smooth things over.
The rule is not to use or use as little as possible.
They irritate men.
6. Don’t Text When You Know He’s Doing Something Super Important.
Don’t try to get his attention when you know he’s in a meeting at work or in the middle of a negotiation. Trying to get his attention at the wrong time will only make him angry.
He will think you don’t respect him.
It’s like showing up by surprise in the middle of his meeting and asking him what he wants for dinner.
If you want to know how things are going or how they went, just wait for him to get in touch with you, then you can ask.
7. Don’t Be Passive.
Yes, you can be passive through texting too.
If you just say things like “okay” and “yeah”, you can make him angry.
If you use texting, be honest about your feelings or expect to meet with him in person to discuss your feelings.
8. Too Many Questions Is Not Good.
Men hate questions.
They hate it when you throw a question in their face.
They also don’t like asking too many questions over text messages.
Unless you have something fun or lighthearted to say, save the probing questions for when you see him in person, but remember that too many questions make him pull away … and the last thing you want is to be chasing him.
This is madness.
9. If You Wouldn’t Say It To His Face, Don’t Say It By Text.
Women often make the mistake of thinking they can say things through a text message that they wouldn’t dare say in a face-to-face conversation.
You might think he’ll accept the message, but he won’t.
You might think that by text, the message will have the desired effect, but it won’t. If you don’t have the guts to say it in front of him, don’t put it into words.
10. Don’t Look Jealous.
It’s never good to appear jealous through a text message.
If you are jealous of something or some woman in his life, learn to accept the situation or change boyfriends.
He won’t change because of his jealous nature.
This is a fact.
11. Don’t Write Him Your Life Story.
Again, keep things simple. Never send more texts than you receive.
Men don’t want to sit and read your drama with their boot that doesn’t match their skirt.
If it’s women’s talk, why do you think he’s going to read it? What’s more, if it’s something personal that you really want to share or discuss, you’re not creating intimacy through a text conversation.
12. Remember That Anything You Share By Text Can Be Shared With The World.
If you send him something, you send it to the world.
You might think it’s a personal conversation between you and him only, but the reality is that you can have it sent to everyone he knows if he decides to share.
He just needs to take a screenshot to tell everyone what you wrote, as well as the pictures you send him.
Even in the most trusted relationships, the best thing to do is not put too much in writing.
He may use this against you in the future.
Conclusion
If the guy you like just stopped texting you out of the blue, then chances are he’s not into you.
This is the reality.
To ensure this doesn’t happen again, avoid miscommunications by following these good etiquette practices with your man.
Speak in the comments about your specific situation.
