Why Men Walk Away: 8 Specific Reasons

One of the ways men communicate is actually through lack of communication.

Read on to find out why men pull away and what you can do about it.

Everything is going fantastically well – at least that’s what you think.

Your relationship is evolving and you are starting to see a real future with your man.

Suddenly it happens.

Out of nowhere, he starts walking away.

Guys are much more complicated than a woman can imagine.

Predictably unpredictable, when they start to lose interest and back off, our first instinct is almost always wrong.

In fact, the very behavior that is causing him to withdraw may be the very behavior that you think attracts him.

When you feel him starting to create distance, your reaction can be the difference between having him come back full throttle and seeing him run in the opposite direction.

In order to know how to react to a guy’s elusive behavior, it’s important to understand the reasons why men seemingly leave a relationship without any sign of trouble or warning.

Reasons why men walk away

There is a reason for the question “why does he walk away?” be one of the most searched phrases on the internet.

It’s a typical male reaction, and one that is very misunderstood and mysterious to women.

Men don’t communicate in the same way as women, which can make us afraid and worried.

The problem is that the more questions you ask, the angrier he gets, and thus, the more distance he creates.

Often the first thing women want to do is try to “fix” it.

But often, by trying to do that, we only make things worse.

No matter why a guy pulls away, there is a reaction that will work and a reaction that will give you the opposite of what you want.

Here are the reasons a man might pull back, as well as some productive ways to deal with him when he pulls away.

The secret is to find out what drives you away.

1. You Are Too Aggressive In Your Insistence.

If you put too much pressure on him and he’s not in the same place in the relationship, he’ll probably start to pull away.

Guys don’t like to feel pressured to be with someone.

If they feel like they’re being forced, seeing you trying to persuade them to take the relationship to a point where they’re not ready, they’ll start to back off and try to create distance.

2. He Does Not Have The Skills To Communicate Effectively.

If there’s something on his mind or something that’s bothering you and he doesn’t know how to express it to you, then he might start to pull away.

The biggest problem in this situation is that he often doesn’t realize what is happening, how to explain it or how to correct it.

Lacking the ability to express his feelings or needs, a man often decides that the whole thing is too much for him and will create distance instead of dealing with it.

3. He’s Liking Someone Else.

If nothing has happened and he is suddenly pulling away, then it could be that he is attracted to someone else.

If he is considering being with another woman, he may be trying to find a way out of the relationship.

If you notice that his habits are changing, or if he becomes more reserved and rarely spends time with you, then he may have found someone else.

4. He’s Stressed At Work.

Men are not like women.

They are not multi-tasking.

If he’s preoccupied with something like work, he’s probably not able to focus on two things at once.

If you notice that he’s not as interested as he used to be, it’s important to start looking not only at his behavior, but also at what’s going on with his family and work life.

It may have absolutely nothing to do with you.

5. The Hunt And Chase Are Over.

Men love a challenge.

If the initial attraction to you was based on the challenge of conquest and he has now won you over, then the emotion may be gone.

It’s not a conscious thing – it’s just that after he has you, he can feel that part of his manhood is gone.

6. He Has Low Self-Esteem.

If you’ve been together for a while and things haven’t gone financially the way he thought they would, he may be feeling inadequate.

When a man feels he can’t provide the possibilities he wants, the pressure of being with someone he loves can become overwhelming.

Transferring his feelings of inadequacy to you, he may unconsciously be pulling away due to his own feelings of inadequacy, blaming you for his failures.

7. You Are At Different Stages In The Relationship.

There are multiple levels of relationship, and if you’re at stage 10 but he’s still stuck at stage 3, he might be backing off because he’s just not ready or able to be where you are.

There are several reasons why people are unwilling to commit.

If he’s not willing to come out and he feels you are, he’ll try to pull away and find some space.

8. He Knows It’s Not Right, But He Doesn’t Know How To Tell You.

He may love you, but he may not be in love with you.

Yes, that sounds like a cliché, but it’s a real thing.

He cares a lot about you, but that romantic love for you may not exist.

The last thing he wants to do is hurt your feelings, so he can stay distant while he tries to figure out how to approach you about it.


Relationships are complicated, and they can be even more complicated when your man pulls away and isolates you from his thoughts and feelings.

The worst thing you can do is overreact or aggressively try to get his emotions out.

As difficult as it is, step back, give him space, and take time to focus on your own feelings and well-being.