What is passion? The word passion derives from the Latin patio which means to suffer. As we will see, this mode of relationship cannot lead to happiness. What are the differences between love and passion?
It is a feeling that takes possession of us following a dazzling crush! Without warning, our desire begins to take up all the space and activates an attraction from which we cannot detach ourselves. The object of passion is totally idealized by our thoughts and desires. Reality no longer has a place in a passion because we are like two actors in a film created each time at time T.
Know that this is not love at all: this loss of control can lead us to make foolish decisions because we are the victim of our impulses. Work will no longer matter, family will no longer exist and friends will be just one option among many. The only important and priority thing over everything is this other that I adulate, I idolize and that I hate just as much.
Everything is increased tenfold and the feelings end up losing their reason. We become the shadow of its shadow and that doesn’t matter because only the object of our desire counts. The eyes of others no longer matter, their opinions matter little as does the rest of the universe: we are two against the rest of the world.
The end of passion is horribly painful
When we experience the end we experience symptoms as strong as what a drug addict who does not have his dose can feel. There is a real dependence on the object of desire. In passion everything is brutal because everything is increased tenfold and exalted: we manage nothing as a slave to this thunderbolt that struck us down with reason. lose contact with the logical world and like living on another planet where we live all to a climax that these are the sensations or feelings.
In true passion, there is no desire but a real need for the other which becomes the one and only reason to live and hope. When one lives a passion one is always tired because torn continuously between arguments, cries, and theatrical outbursts. It is because we appropriate our partner, it must belong to us! This completely imagined ideal being must be with me because without it I am nothing and I can never live.
You will understand, passion is not very exciting when you realize that it leads to nothing except the heartbreak that will take weeks, even months to recover.
Love is first of all an emotional attraction. To truly love you must have taken the time to know yourself in order to have a feeling of inner wholeness. The other is a stranger who will gradually take the place of lovers. In love, there is no violence but respect and attention towards this other who is there to bring me a little more happiness in my life.
In love, we give of our person without conditions. Things are done for free and sincerely for the sole purpose of giving your partner that you love and respect.
The lover is not going to let his actions be dictated by his emotions, there will not be this constant overflow that we find in the passions because here we are in front of two well-constituted and differentiated entities.
In a romantic relationship, you do not lose your head, you remain yourself whatever happens in mutual respect. All this will take the time necessary to grow your union and get to know your partner.
It is a lasting feeling based on the real and not fantasized knowledge of the loved one. We see the other as he is with his qualities and his faults. There is no idealization and fantasy: reality remains as it is.
Love is therefore a lasting feeling because based on the real knowledge of your partner that you love and respect. You see it as it is with its qualities and weaknesses and you accept it as it is without wanting to change it.
Finally, love gives good energies and allows us to move forward in life.
By way of conclusion, I want to say to you: BE CAREFUL! Living a love passion is not a pleasure because it is destructive. It happens in our lives when we suffer from a lack of love and it hurts us so much inside that we have to find someone who will fill this lack quickly. Know that this relationship is purely selfish because you will seek in the other what you do not have in you. This adulated being with whom you live a passion is nothing other than a simple average person like you and me but your phantasmagoria makes you carry it high above the skies alongside the gods of Olympus.
Wake up and learn to love yourself because you are the most important person in your life.