Here’s what you should be looking for.
As the American writer Richard Bach rightly said, “a soul mate is a lock that each of our keys unlocks and a key that unlocks each of our locks. When we feel secure enough to unlock all the locks, our true self emerges and we can finally be fully and honestly who we are. ”
Ah, soul mates. The paragon of love and union. In our fast-paced world, full of diverse kinds of people, we find ourselves engaging in more relationships than we would like, so as to find that person capable of unlocking each of our locks.
Not all are able to fill us as a soul mate can. There is a huge difference between a soul mate, half of our heart and a life partner – a person who does not have all of the elements to perfectly match us.
Our soul mate allows us to feel complete, peaceful and intact as if no more pieces were missing from the puzzle. A life partner, on the other hand, can be a huge support and a longtime companion, but it is not entirely capable of enriching our spirit.
Many of us stay in relationships with a “life partner” because we are content with little and for many reasons. First, because we often have an unconscious fear of loneliness. And since we are biologically destined to fall in love, finding a partner is the most natural thing in the world. But there are times when we prolong what was supposed to be a temporary relationship and we settle for eternally with it, wrongly.
There are certain relationships that are only made to last a while and to close a karmic chapter in our lives; relationships in which we are supposed to have a child without necessarily being supposed to stay together. Relationships too, which are disturbing because of the multitude of emotions they arouse in us and which prevent us from following our path.
I saw this while exercising my profession as a psychologist, on the part of people married with their love of youth, as on the part of people who got married at retirement age and encountered problems of engagement. But many of us choose a life between these two extremes and therefore have experienced other relationships before finding the person we believe is intended for them.
Whether you are currently married, in a relationship or about to start a relationship with a new lover, it is essential that you know what role this person is intended to play in your life. After all, it is impossible to avoid the inevitable and often we have to ask ourselves this awkward question: is this person the one with whom I am destined to spend my life? Have I invested too quickly in this relationship with someone who can never compliment me?
Whichever category you are in, there are unmistakable signs, clearly indicating that a bond of soul mates is developing (or a lack of bond) between you and your partner. While browsing this list, think about your partner or potential partner and ask yourself whether or not he meets the criteria of a soul mate.
The 10 elements specific to a relationship with your soul mate:
1. It is something deep.
Describing what it feels like to be with your soul mate is difficult. It is a tenacious, deep and persistent emotion that it is impossible to describe using words.
If your partner is your soul mate, chances are he has been present in your past lives. Soul mates often choose to reunite in one life and to travel the world together.
You may suddenly and briefly see flashbacks of your soul mate. It is even possible that you have this funny impression of deja vu as if a moment was repeated and perhaps had existed before and elsewhere.
3. You understand each other.
Have you ever met people who finished each other’s sentences respectively? Some say it is because they have spent a lot of time together, but I say that it is a form of connection-specific to soul mates. You may have experienced this with your best friend or with your mother, but if you experience it with your partner, it is a telltale sign that he is your soul mate.
4. You fell in love with his faults.
No relationship is perfect and even soul mates experience ups and downs. But their ties will be much more difficult to break. Soul mates have an extraordinary ability to accept and learn to love each other’s imperfections.
It is much more likely that you have met your soul mate if you both love yourself as you are, accepting both the qualities and the faults of the other.
5. It’s intense.
A relationship with your soul mate is much more intense than another, in both good and bad terms. The most important thing is that, even during the negative phases, you are focused on solving problems and are both able to see beyond them.
6. You two are against the world.
Soul mates often perceive their relationship as “them two against the world”. They feel so connected to each other that they are ready and willing to face all the blows of fate, as long as they have their soul mate by their side. Relationships between two soul mates are based on compromise and on unity above all.
7. You are mentally inseparable.
Soul mates often have a mental connection similar to that shared by twins. They may catch the phone and call at the same time. Although life may force you to separate, your minds will always be on the same page if you are soul mates.
8. You feel safe and protected.
Whatever your partner’s gender, he or she should always make you feel secure and protected. It does mean that, if you are a man, your wife must make you feel protected too!
Your soul mate will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side. A person who revives your anxieties, whether voluntarily or not, is not your soul mate.
9. You are unable to imagine your life without him (or her).
A soul mate is certainly not someone you can get away from easily. He is a person without whom one cannot imagine being, a person who is worth in your eyes, worth fighting for.
10. You look yourself in the eye.
Soul mates tend to look at each other in the eyes when they speak to each other, more frequently than any other couple. This naturally arises from the deep connection that exists between them. Looking at a person in the eye when they speak indicates a high level of comfort and confidence.
Whether you are destined to be soul mates or whether you are two people who love each other and are content with the strengths and weaknesses of the other, the decision remains yours.
The beauty of free will is that you can stay in a relationship or change it, as you please. Being with your soul mate is one of the most precious gifts of life. And if you have the impression of having found the other half of your heart, I wish you an eternity of joys, laughter and long nights to embrace you; unraveling one by one the great mysteries of the universe.