Being alone is not scary, terrible, a curse, or anything else stupid as some people claim. Being alone has nothing to do with loneliness either, unless you choose to.
Being alone is much better than chaining shitty dates that make you feel horrible or make you wake up next to some boy who thinks your name is Julie (when your first name is Marie). Being alone is the time to find yourself, and it is an extremely important moment.
People develop such anxiety and anger at the idea of being alone, when there is no reason because you are the one who decides whether being alone is good or not.
Stay alone until you meet someone who doesn’t just tell you that they want to see you, but who actually comes to see you and feels joy. Stay alone until you meet someone who doesn’t spend time making excuses but who really wants to spend time with you and do the things you love.
Stay alone until you meet someone who talks about you and extols your merits with friends, family, colleagues, or even the homeless around the corner – with everyone. Stay alone until you meet someone who is proud like a rooster to be on your arm, because less than that is unacceptable.
Stay alone until you meet someone who is impatient to find you, not out of a desire to “control”, of course, but out of a simple need to take care of yourself, because yes, there is a big difference between of them. And no, being with someone who controls you isn’t cool at all.
Stay alone until you meet someone with whom you really want to spend your free time, not someone with whom you convince yourself that you want to spend time. Someone begging for attention is not worth your time. If someone likes you, you’ll find out, otherwise it’s time to get rid of them and think about yourself.
Stay alone until you meet someone you miss when you’re not there, not someone who forgets that you exist on weekends, unless they are drunk or feel alone.
Stay alone until you meet someone who is really interested in your feelings. Not someone who says, “Too bad, you’ll forgive me later” or just expects you to move on. Stay alone until you meet someone who doesn’t ignore you or lets you wait for a message more often than they answer you.
Stay alone until you meet someone who is proud of you, who inspires you, who wants to make you better and who accompanies you on this path. Stay alone until you meet someone who erases your anxieties and helps you feel better about yourself. Stay alone until you meet someone who makes you a priority and makes it clear that you are not an option.
Stay alone until you find someone who is genuinely interested in you. So many people get into mediocre relationships with shabby people – don’t be one of them. Love is the only thing with which you must never, really never, come to terms with mediocrity.
Until then, stay alone. One day you will thank yourself.
