You’re single and maybe you’re talking to a guy or two.
At the moment, you usually talk over the phone or in a group.
Instead of wasting your time or worse, being made a fool of, you start to wonder where this might go or if it should turn into anything.
The tips below are for girls who are “talking to someone” but haven’t decided how much closer to him they should be.
Here are five telltale signs that you should stop talking to him and move on to someone else:
1. Text Messaging
Especially if you’re interested, don’t pay attention to old-fashioned social and gender constructions about whether or not a girl should text a guy first.
Let him know you’re interested.
However, if it’s always you who initiates the conversation, or if he usually ends the conversation abruptly, then maybe you should reconsider.
If he never responds, only texts during the week and disappears on the weekend, or only texts during the night, don’t waste your time.
There are plenty of other guys who would love to chat with you without weirdly specific patterns of when he’s available!
2. Social Networks
If you know more about this guy through his social media activities than the information he tells you directly, you are either a stalker or you are wasting your time.
If you think you chase him too much, try to meet him in person – not his virtual persona.
If you’ve tried and you’re still only getting the details of his life through stories, find someone you can get to know better in person.
“Few” is as bad as “many”.
If this guy has never complimented you or said something nice while flirting — especially if you’ve already complimented him a lot — he may not continue doing so in the future.
On the other hand, if he says “Hi beautiful” every time he strikes up a conversation, either you’re ignoring him and he’s trying to nudge you OR you’re not the only “Beautiful” he strikes up with.
The secret is knowing how much he praises people and in what context he does it.
Find someone who only compliments when they are in the genuine and caring category.
4. He “Misses” You
Unless he is very far away, there should be no reason for him to miss you anytime soon.
If he really misses you, he might find time to surprise you or actually take you on a date.
Whether he’s far or near or maybe neither of you has the time, he should find ways to show you how much he misses you rather than just saying it haphazardly.
Also, how can you miss someone you don’t really know?
Stop talking to this guy and find someone who really misses you… right after he leaves you after the date.
5. He has a girlfriend
If you know he has a girlfriend, stop.
There are a lot of single guys out there.
This should be obvious, but unfortunately, this is not always the case.
Maybe you spoke up and didn’t realize he already had a girlfriend until later New Engagement.
You can find this out from a friend or find out directly from his girlfriend.
If he is willing to cheat and disrespect his girlfriend, he will never give you the respect you deserve either.
Find someone who doesn’t have a girlfriend he’s trying to hide.
When you want to get to know someone better, you need to strike a balance between taking risks and being a little suspicious at the same time (at first).
Plan a group meeting so that neither of you feels pressured.
Simply, if he does any of the things listed above, end the engagement and move on.