Can’t seem to find love? What if it was because of fairy tales? Here are 3 myths about romantic relationships that can keep you from falling in love.
Did you grow up watching Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty? Do you believe in Prince Charming and are you convinced that he will really save you on his white horse? OK, it’s good to have dreams.
But in reality, and more so in the 21st century, things are slightly different. The problem is that by daydreaming, you get the wrong idea of romantic relationships.
If you can’t find love, it may be because you miss your chance with great people, but you don’t judge “good enough” for yourself. Except that if you wait for the exact replica of a love story worthy of a real fairy tale, you risk missing out on beautiful relationships.
Here are 3 myths that can keep you from falling in love.
You are waiting for the perfect man or woman
We don’t want to disappoint you, but this person does not exist. However, you can find the ideal partner for you, the one that suits you best. And this person will not be perfect.
Thus, your lover or your lover will necessarily have faults, it is human and completely normal. You are the first to have it, and that is precisely what makes your charm.
Instead of projecting yourself into a perfect and ideal romantic relationship, you must above all determine what you really want in a relationship: a funny person? A nice person? A person who has the same passion as you? You must be wondering what a “perfect relationship” means to you. Not for everyone, just for you.
You are looking for a soul mate
Yes, love at first sight exists. But it doesn’t happen to everyone. Besides, it is even rather rare. The problem is, it’s hard to find your “orange half” at a glance. Love is a great work that works day by day, to learn to know and understand better the other and vice versa.
When you meet someone, rather than putting them in a box immediately, ask yourself a few questions. For example, ask yourself what your life would be like with this person, or what they would be like in 5, 10 or 20 years.
If it can be what you want, you can at least give it the benefit of the doubt and try your luck. Conversely, if it doesn’t suit you, it’s not worth forcing, even if the person seems to be like you.
You try to make people change
Maybe you are not looking for a perfect person because you understand that he does not exist. However, when you meet someone good, you always tell yourself that you are going to change it. You are trying to “fix” what you think are flaws, to make it a better version. But all this, according to your criteria, of course.
However, since no one is perfect, you must learn to love others with their flaws. You will surely not appreciate that your partner constantly blames you for your faults and tries to change your personality.
The basis of a relationship being trust, but also tolerance, everyone should learn to love the other with their qualities and faults.
