Do you want to know if your boy is the one for you and really cares about you? You have come to the right place. Next, we will tell you how to know if a man takes you seriously or only plays with you.
Starting a new relationship can present many risks for everyone involved. It is more normal than we would like, but, almost always, one of the two becomes more emotionally involved than the other and therefore ends up hurt. Serious and committed relationships require both of you to be on the same level of feeling. Yes, if you feel that your boy is not, you should take preventive measures as soon as possible to be able to take care of yourself and your heart.
Main indicators of how a man is valuing you
When a guy is 100% ready to have a serious and lasting relationship with you, it shows in his actions. Next, we are going to talk to you about it and what are the main indicators about how a man is valuing you. Pay attention to all of them, as it will indicate that he really cares about you.
However, keep in mind that attitudes that a guy cares about you or is just having fun with you do mix. Therefore, we recommend that you pay attention and evaluate which are the predominant ones to know if a man takes you seriously or not.
Wants to spend a lot of time with you
One of the main indicators that a man takes you seriously is this. Well, if he wants to spend a lot of time with you and includes you in all (or almost all) of his plans, it is a good sign. If you are deeply in love, you won’t say a lot of good things about a guy who loves to go out alone.
Therefore, the best thing your boy can do to show that he wants something serious with you and is faithful to you is to include you in his plans. Also, you can mention that he loves spending time with you or that he has a lot of fun. If so, you will feel that it is your soul mate.
You start to be important in his life
Following the previous point, another indicator to know if a man takes you seriously is the importance you have in his life. Well, if he shows you with words and especially with actions that you are important to him, it is a good clear sign that he is ready for something serious.
Surely you wonder how to know if you are important or not and what are the attitudes that demonstrate it. Well, for example, he can speak in the plural (of the two of you), he shares his thoughts and plans for the future, or even includes you in them.
In this way, what he wants is to let you know that you have a guaranteed space in his future and in his heart. He wants more than just having a good time with you and he is really committing himself to your relationship.
It’s about communicating with you frequently
When you care about someone, you try to communicate with them frequently. Even if you don’t have anything important to say to him, you just want to hear his voice or know about him.
Therefore, if your boy writes or calls you often to find out how you are doing, it is a sign that he wants something serious. If you are not important in his life, it may disappear for several days without explanation.
There are no excuses here, so to know if a man takes you seriously, pay attention to how often he disappears from your life or not. It may happen that occasionally, he is unable to communicate with you because something has actually happened. But if he’s always looking for a way to do it despite everything, it’s because he really cares about you.
Pay close attention to everything you tell him
Following the same line of indicators, to know if a man takes you seriously or not, see how he behaves when you are together and tell him about you. If you notice that he pays a lot of attention to what you say, it is because he really cares about you.
In addition, it shows why he thinks about your needs, tastes, and preferences. Well, he is pending and aware of everything you tell him and he does not forget it easily. So if he knows what you like and how you like it, or surprised you by recalling facts or facts about yourself that you told him a long time ago, Congratulations, that man takes you seriously!
Be careful with this, as there are many men who are simply easily distracted or do not have a very good memory for some things. The fact that he does not remember absolutely everything you tell him does not necessarily imply that he is only playing with you. For example, he may not remember everything about what you have told him about your going out with friends, but yes, what is your favorite chocolate bar.
He has no problem being seen with you in public
When a man just wants to play with you, maybe he is also playing with other girls. So you don’t want to be seen walking around the plaza hand-in-hand together. On the other hand, when a guy is ready for a serious relationship, he is not embarrassed or bothered to go out with you.
On the contrary, he is happy to be seen together and will want to tell all his friends, family, and other loved ones around him that he has found love. They can even introduce them to you, so be prepared for family dinners and lunches.
Connecting with the social environment of both is the best way to take the relationship to a new level. Everyone knows their relationship as a couple and therefore it is unified and strengthened much more.
Cares about your well-being
To find out if a man takes you seriously or not, pay attention to this indicator. If he cares about your well-being and wants the best for you, it is a sign that he cares about you and wants more than just hanging out with you.
For example, he can give you some advice or give you his opinion on something you want to do. It will help you to see the pros and cons so that you always find the best option for you and for both of you in the event that it also affects him.
By this, we do not mean that it will tell you how you should dress, how to wear your hair or how often you should hang out with your friends and family. If he does, you should run out of there, as this is an indicator that he is a violent man. Therefore, they will end up in a toxic relationship.
Is interested in meeting your family and friends
Finally, to know if a man takes you seriously or only plays with you, pay attention to this other indicator. When someone wants to form a serious relationship and is interested in their partner and in meeting your family and friends.
If a guy cares about you, he will want the best for you and see you happy, so he will find a way to spend time with you. Following the previous point, if you only want to meet your family and friends to control you and know where or with whom you are, run away. So if he insists too much or pressures you to do so, the best thing you can do is walk away before you become more romantically involved.
What are the signs that a man is playing with me?
We already tell you what the indicators are to know if a man takes you seriously. But, surely you are wondering how to know if your boy is playing with you. Well, in the same way, that he can show you that he cares about you, he will give you clear signals if he wants to hang out.
Yes, we know, it can sometimes be difficult for us to see a person’s intentions when we are in love. But even so, certain actions or gestures do not go unnoticed and despite our love blindness, we notice that something strange is happening.
Like the feeling that our guy just wants something casual for fun, and he’s not really engaged in the relationship. If you have doubts about it, watch out for these clear signs that your boy is only playing with you.
His attitude changes, sometimes he is tender and other times very distant
One of the signs that someone who just wants to play with you shows is their change in attitude. If you notice that he is sometimes cute and other times very distant, it is not a good sign. There will be times when he is gentlemanly and attentive, but it is only to get you to bed.
After you have sated your most basic instincts, you will suddenly become cold and distant. In this case, you will probably be upset and tell them. Since he is not interested in you, he will not care about your well-being and may ignore you. After several days, after the anger has passed, he will respond by asking for your forgiveness.
Once again, he will be tender, attentive, and chivalrous, but it will be to take you back to bed. It is a vicious cycle that repeats itself over and over again and seems to never end. To know if a man is serious about you, you have to put your feelings aside for a moment and pay attention to his attitudes.
For him, there is no ‘we’
If you want to know if a man takes you seriously or not, pay attention to the conversations they have. Listen to what they have to say, but especially in the way, they express themselves. When a guy just wants to have fun with you, he won’t talk to you about future plans.
He may tell you about what he would like to do or achieve, but they will always be individual plans and he will not include you in them. The “we” in their conversations will not be present, as they are not interested in forming a serious and stable relationship with you.
Introduces you only as a friend
Another of the signs to know if a man takes you seriously or only plays with you is this. They may have already spent a lot of time together (several months) and you don’t know anyone from their family.
It can also happen that on some occasions they run into someone from their inner circle and present you as their friend. If so, then you know that he is not ready to take another step or move forward in his relationship with you.
You are not a priority for him
If you are not a priority for him and he almost always tells you that he is busy or that he does not have time for you, it is a sign that he does not care about you. Although it is true that sometimes our couples can be busy, if there really is true love, they will know how to set aside a space in their agenda for you.
So if he tells you all the time that he has other plans and is only with you when he has nothing else interesting or fun to do, he is just playing with you. There will be times when he can’t really see you, but if he always chooses to party time with his friends, you are not his priority.
He wants to stay single
Following the previous point, since you are not a priority for him, he will not include you in his plans or in his social group. Guys who don’t want something serious will always want to show themselves single, in case someone more interesting shows up.
Also, they don’t worry about introducing and including their girlfriends in their social group as they see them as a casual relationship or as someone who won’t be in their life for a long time. In the worst case, he may have other romantic relationships in parallel and that he is being unfaithful to you.
Appears and disappears constantly
As we told you know if a man takes you seriously, you should pay attention to his changes in attitude. If it constantly appears and disappears without any kind of explanation, it is because it just wants to play with you.
He appears to be detailed, attentive, or even tender to deceive you and make you believe that he cares about you. But, after he has gotten what he was looking for from you, it will vanish for several days. It will reappear when it thirsts for you again, but it will only be to use you.
Yes, we know that, for you, that boy may be important and you are in love, so seeing that you are only his toy will be painful. However, the best thing you can do is walk away before becoming more romantically involved.
He has no contact through social networks
Finally, to find out if a man takes you seriously or not, pay attention to his social networks. Refusing to add you to his friends’ list is not a good sign. It can also happen that, if he has added you on his social networks (Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, etc.), but he gets upset when you comment on any of his publications.
This is a clear sign that he wants to keep his relationship a secret and that he is only playing with you. Well, you don’t want anyone in your inner circle to know that you are together.
What to do if my boyfriend doesn’t want something serious with me?
If you have noticed that your partner does not want something serious with you, you may want to change his attitude and make him fall in love. However, this can be a somewhat complex task, since you cannot buy love or force someone to love you.
Now, if you feel that you have already tried everything to take your relationship to another level, but you are not successful, you should think for yourself. The best thing is to walk away, otherwise, you will end up with a broken heart and doing more damage.
If you are really looking for a serious and stable relationship, it is best to stop wasting time, since you will not achieve anything. Be free and do not despair, you will always find someone better, someone, who gives you all his love.
Another option, you may wonder if they can stay as friends. However, it is not highly recommended, especially if you have very strong feelings for him. If you really love him and do not want to continue suffering, the best thing is to cut all kinds of relationships they have.
Do not get emotionally attached to someone who is not ready for something serious with you and seeks your own horizons. And finally, as our grandmothers used to say “there is always a break for an uncooked one”. Do not rush and remember that you deserve a love with all the letters, someone who is willing to give you all his heart.
So far we come with this super complete guide on how to know if a man takes you seriously or is just playing with you. We hope that all these tips that we have given you have been useful and that you can put them into practice.