How do you know if the guy liked being with you?
You can spend hours, days and weeks over-analyzing the time you were together, separating what was said and every action.
What you’re trying to find out is if the guy really liked you and if he was good enough for you to date more. Remember, all true romantic stories started with a first date, so it’s great to know the real reasons and results of your first date, especially if it was with someone you’re really attracted to.
You know how you feel. You had fun, and would love to see the person again. So how can you know if the date went well?
Here are some signs that the guy liked being with you:
1. It was easy to talk to him
One of the best indicators that the meeting went well was the ease of talking to each other.
Conversations can take time, and lulls can be awkward silences.
It can be difficult to pay attention or even make you feel uncomfortable.
But, some lulls in the conversation are normal, and if he’s interested in you, they’ll pass quickly.
If you’ve met a few of these and felt the conversation naturally jump from topic to topic, you know there’s good mental chemistry between the two of you.
It doesn’t take a dating coach to know that when two people find it easy to talk, it shows that they like the way the other person thinks.
Through deeper and longer conversations, guys reveal the true thoughts and feelings beneath the surface. They do this with their words and their body language.
If the conversation flows smoothly, you can be sure the two are on the same intellectual level and likely enjoy some of the same interests.
2. You two had a chance to talk
Nothing is worse than going on a date and never saying a word. When one person dominates the conversation, it can feel more like a one-person prank than a date.
He may ask general questions at first, but as the conversation continues, he may ask more personal questions, such as: how do you start your day or what you think about certain subjects.
When he dominates the conversation, you get a chance to hear about him and his life, but it’s such a flurry of words that you can often get bored, especially when you’re not able to add anything to the conversation. If he can’t stop talking or expects you to lead the entire conversation, it’s hard to tell if he’s interested in you or not.
When the two of you have a chance to talk on a date, you get to know each other with reciprocity and respect between the two of you. You can also feel each other’s eye contact and body language, which is a big step up after just texting or talking on the phone. You get to know about them and their life, and they get to know you. When the two of you have equal time to share, listen, and respond, the conversation will be much easier to maintain.
3. The meeting had a lot of laughs
Laughing with someone is a surefire way to tell if you’re having fun. Maybe it’s laughing at dad’s jokes or funny work stories. The content doesn’t matter. What matters is that you are comfortable enough to let go and laugh together.
That’s why provoking laughter — even if his joke wasn’t the funniest — is one of the subtle and super-quick ways to build attraction between the two of you.
If you walk away from the date with an inside joke or two, you know both parties had a good time.
If you really liked each other, the connection through humor, laughter and fun is likely to happen.
4. Your anxiety was low for most of the encounter
You may feel butterflies in your stomach at first, nervous about meeting a new person.
It’s normal to feel this way. If your anxiety lasts until the date or gets worse, you’re not going to have a good date. What’s more, your partner will likely be able to read that anxiety in your body language, which can also make them feel uncomfortable and anxious.
The other person may know about your anxiety or even be the cause of it. Either way, anxiety doesn’t lead to a date.
If, however, your nerves calm down and you feel comfortable with this person, then the first date is more likely to be good for both of you.
The more comfortable you are with the other person – and the less anxious your behavior on the date – the more you can be yourself.
Also, being yourself is what will make the other person like you.
5. Time with him was longer than expected
Maybe you two have lost track of time. Perhaps one of you suggested dinner, dessert, or after-dinner drinks. Whatever the reason, sometimes dates take longer than expected.
When a date goes on, it’s usually a good thing if you like the other person.
This will give you more of a chance to get to know him, as well as spend more time with someone you’re in love with.
When dates get long, it’s usually a good sign, meaning the two of you are having fun.
This is a significant sign of a good date: you’re having fun and you don’t want it to end.
6. Is he into you?
No matter how good the date is, or how disastrous it may be, the question can still arise: does he like me?
One way to gauge whether or not he liked you is whether the first date went well.
You may also notice other indicators, such as body language.
If you’ve been part of her great moment, you probably want to date a second date.
Second dates usually mean he likes you.
But sometimes we can be surprised.
So how do you know if a guy is interested in you after the first date?
7. He’ll tell you he had fun
Please ignore this three-day rule or anything else that dictates how long a guy should wait to contact you after a date.
If he likes you or is interested in a second date, he’ll probably text you or call you the next day and let you know how much fun he had.
It is not only confirmation that the meeting went well, but also a sign of respect and a desire to keep the lines of communication open.
The more he wants to communicate, the more he wants to get to know you, because he’s into you.
8. He will want to be friends with social media
If a guy likes you, he’ll want to talk to you. These days, that means social media.
If he asks for your Facebook or Twitter profile, he’s not trying to increase your follower count. He wants to stay connected to you.
Even this long-distance solution could lead to encounters in the future, and he is betting on that possibility.
It can be a little awkward to invite someone you barely know into your personal life this way, but the truth is, social media is a great way to keep in touch more casually.
It’s not as intense as texting or calling all the time, and some people might prefer something less intense.
9. He will want a second date
If he likes you, he will want to see you again.
The simplest way for him to communicate that he likes you: making a second date.
This is clearer than any body language or eye contact could ever be!
When he suggests you go out again, feel free to suggest things to do on the second date. You can even be adventurous and suggest the second date yourself.
Either way, a second date is a big sign that he’s interested in you.
Remember that first dates lead to second dates, third dates lead to more.
10. He will mention his friends
If a guy is interested in you, it will likely bring up conversations about his friends, what they do, who they are, and stories about the times they spent together.
When a guy does that, it’s because he’s letting you into his life in a closer way. He might even mention to you that he talked about your meeting with his friends.
As you know, friends are on your side.
They want you to have fun dates and get what you want from the dating and relationship scene.
If he starts inviting you into his friends’ lives (perhaps even suggesting a group date), you can be sure he’s thinking about more than just the first date.
10. Let’s be more than friends
I like him, but how can I know if he likes me too?
It’s important to have goals when you start to enter the dating scene. Do you want to have fun and go on as many dates as possible?
Alternatively, are you looking for something more dedicated and long-term-oriented? Maybe something in between. There is no right or wrong answer; it’s your choice. There is no right or wrong way to date.
If you’re looking for a serious relationship, you might want to think about couples counseling at some point. Couples counseling is a great way to strengthen the bond between you and your partner as you continue down the relationship path.
When looking for a therapist, it’s critical to find one that fits your lifestyle and schedule.
Online therapy is great for this. You can have a session from almost anywhere. You and your partner don’t even need to be in the same room.
Online therapy is a way to get the benefits of therapy without having to put off the days to go to a therapist’s office.
11. Trust yourself
Trust your instincts when it comes to figuring out if a first date worked out or if he likes you after the first one.
Your intuition is a powerful tool. You instinctively know, by the body language, tone of voice and vocabulary used, whether there was a spark or not.
You can feel the chemistry between two people, and if it’s not there, it’s okay to move on with that person.
But if you prefer to find out if he likes you, remember that your worth is not tied to someone else’s opinion of you. You are a wonderful person just the way you are, and anyone is lucky enough to have the chance to date you.