You broke up for a reason, so go for something better with these 7 straightforward tips
I feel very hurt, sad, and alone at the moment.
I can’t go a day without thinking about him.
I just don’t know what to do.
I know I shouldn’t do this, but I stop by his house to see if he’s there.
I think about all the time we spent together.
I thought we were happy; I just don’t understand what went wrong.
Why do we need to separate?
When I call his phone, he ignores me.
I even tried going to the same bar as him for a chance to talk to him.
I just want to understand what went wrong.
I don’t think I’ll ever get over it.
What do I do now?
1 . Realize There’s Never A Good Time To Break Up With Someone
I don’t care if it’s your career, a place you volunteer, or a boyfriend/girlfriend you’re breaking up with; there is never a good time to break up with someone.
You have this key in your stomach and your head is so negative that you are questioning your own mental health.
If You need to get out of the relationship, then get out… no matter what he threatens, says or does.
2 . Just do it
There’s nothing lonelier than loving someone who doesn’t love you back.
This really, really hurts.
So understand if he broke up with you, he has a valid reason.
It’s not his responsibility to get you back or feel sorry for you because you can’t face the breakup and move on.
So do what you need to do until the pain goes away.
get a rebound boyfriend; just do it.
PS that’s what I did.
Forget about men for 2 years; just do it.
Here’s my point, just move on.
Some people read this and say, “What? Did she tell everyone to play with other people? That’s not cool; what if they get hurt?”
Yes, this is true, but we are all responsible for ourselves.
You cannot and will not hurt someone who is in the right place to love.
That person will find your behavior repulsive.
People ready for love don’t get involved in messy situations, nor do they accept the “attractive overcoming of your pity party”; they just ignore their little phase.
So be kind, kind, and forgive yourself.
Sometimes we need to screw it up to get it right.
Everyone ruins their life at some point; be ok with it.
Who wrote the rulebook?
You are suffering and we all suffer in our own way, which brings me to my next point…
3 . It’s All Part Of The Process
Sad, hurt, alone, and not knowing what to do with yourself is part of the process.
We, humans, are sorry all the time.
We suffer changes, we suffer when we lose part of our identity and we suffer when someone takes their love away from us.
Grief is not just about death; it is a normal cycle in a human experience.
Understand what you are experiencing is normal.
4 . Time Heals All Wounds And Sorrows
Yes, I know what you’re thinking: I already know that phrase, but it didn’t help me.
There is no one right way to end a breakup, but understand that it is just a life experience that you are going through and that you will.
It’s up to you when.
The main thing here is to understand that in your future relationships you cannot love someone completely if you are not open to feeling pain.
If we numb ourselves to pain, we numb ourselves to love.
Because you turned off to feel.
If You Can’t Feel, You Can’t Love
My therapist at the time told me, “I’m delighted he broke your heart.”
My response was “WHAT?” And she told me, “You can’t experience love if you can’t deal with pain.”
It was from that conversation that I learned that pain is part of the journey towards love.
Our goal in life is to understand and deal with pain, not avoid it.
Keep an open heart.
5 . He’s Ignoring You Because He Needs To
If you’re texting, calling, walking past his house… this is the overcoming phase, and it will pass.
Often, several months after the breakup, you see the relationship differently than you do now.
You’ll see that he’s not as amazing as you thought.
We always see relationships differently before, after, and during.
The cracks you ignored will start to show.
If he’s ignoring you, it’s because he needs to get the message across to you – it’s over.
Respect your wishes and move on; his behavior is scaring him.
Wanting someone back is needy and desperate, and you don’t want to look that way.
Start with your good life.
6 . Never Get Back With Him… EVER!
Nothing is ever gained by going backward, so don’t even think about it.
You both fall into the same cycle, repeating the same patterns and the same issues that caused the breakup in the first place.
Don’t buy into the “I’ll change” promise.
Instead, take a look at what you did well, where you screwed up in the relationship, and grow to find a better man.
There is a good experience in all negative experiences, look at it this way.
You will never regret a breakup.
Understand what happened for a reason and that the best is yet to come.
Learn from the experience and think about what you would do differently next time.
7 . Start Being Happy
The best revenge is to be happy, bigger, and better.
Find the guy who wants you, find the guy who’s excited to see you, find the guy who gets on his knees for you, find the guy you can’t keep your hands off and never settle for anything less.
Go get him, honey.
Understand that you will get over the breakup, realize that this guy is not yours and that the feelings you have now will go away, even if it doesn’t seem like it now.
Remember to move on. you’ll be fine.