Nobody knows why humans have the ability to lie, and even though Ricky Gervais did his best with that shitty movie about lying, it’s unlikely that we’ll ever know why lying, a human concept, is part of the DNA. human.
Lying is harmful to your relationships, especially romantic ones.
If you lie to your partner and they catch you in that lie (or even if they suspect you are lying), it damages trust.
When mistrust enters a relationship, it’s like someone exploding a bomb in their basement: it all happens when the foundation is torn to smithereens.
It’s hard enough to answer the question of why we tell lies, and it’s nearly impossible to figure out why men lie, especially the men in our lives that we love dearly.
These men have a huge place in our lives and hearts.
We have made them the center of our worlds, why do men lie on Earth when we give them our hearts to care for?
I decided to ask a group of anonymous men why they lied to their girlfriends and what they had to say in equal parts, heartbreaking, enraged, and kind of… illuminating.
Dude, Let’s Be Realistic: Why Do You Lie To Your Girlfriends?
“Women lie all the time, so why shouldn’t men lie?
Like, wearing makeup, that’s a lie.”
“I don’t have to tell my girlfriend the truth when she asks why I can’t answer the phone.
I am in the bathroom.
That is why”.
“I hardly ever lie, but I know some men who lie all the time. Every now and then I catch myself lying about some stupid, irrelevant bullshit, and I’m like, ‘I have no idea why I just said that.’
“A lot of times I’ll have a legitimate excuse for not being able to participate in plans with a girl and I’ll debate, ‘How can I get out of this and make it believable?’ Then I sometimes realize that I can just tell the truth.
I have no idea why I lie so much, but it’s usually about little things so I can stay home alone or with friends.”
“I try not to lie, but when that happens it’s because I’m trying to avoid fighting.”
“It’s difficult. I lie to keep her from getting upset, so she finds out and gets upset anyway.”
“There are two types of liars in a relationship. There are those who are okay with lying (you don’t look fat, etc.) and there are those who are just very okay with lying. One is saving the relationship, the other is destroying it.”
“In my last relationship before my fiancee, I lied all the time.
I think I was trying to blow up the relationship, to end it without being the side that actually pulled the trigger and said, ‘Hey, it’s over.'”
“Because she lied to me from the start.”
“I hate it when my girlfriend cries. I only lie to her to stop her from crying.”
“Telling the truth may be the right thing to do, but lying is so much easier.”
“If I’m being completely honest, I sometimes lie to her just to get her attention. Sometimes when you’ve been with someone for a long time, you can feel forgotten. If I do something bad or whatever and lie about it, she finds out, and like it or not, I’m the center of her attention again.”