In the beginning, everything is beautiful and perfect, we understand each other and we love each other as if it were the first time. But past the butterflies in the belly and the passionate phase, we have to face the facts: the differences create discordances. Welcome to the couple’s opposition phase. This is where we end up entering a relationship made of pretenses, chimeras, and lies … The couple ends up looking like a masquerade of which we are the puppet! However, it is possible to have a healthy romantic relationship if you respect the 5 basic principles.
1. Communication for a healthy romantic relationship
The majority of people cannot communicate. We think that talking is enough to make a relationship work: it’s wrong! Communicating well in a couple means taking the time to understand the logic of the other. You have to be able to be empathetic by putting yourself in your partner’s sneakers in order to understand his reality. Everything that cannot be said will be known sooner or later, so it is better to communicate on all subjects. You may disagree, be angry, and not understand what your partner is saying, but you need to be open to listening and understanding. This is the one and only way to make your union last.
We often say that we should not say everything in the couple: I think it’s wrong! We can say everything, but there is the way to say it. If you accumulate frustrations and disagreements, you will look outside for the person who will accept you as you are. By dint of misunderstandings, we become hard of hearing! We enter the disease (badly said) and we plunge into an endless chasm.
2. Accept each other’s differences
You don’t pair up with your double or twin: you have to accept the differences. At the beginning of a relationship, one has the impression of being on the same wavelength and of having the same centers of interest, but it is misleading, it is the love passion that induces idealization the other. Reality quickly takes over and we realize that the resemblances of the past are transformed and become the differences of today.
It doesn’t matter if you have differences, as this will create wealth in your relationship. Do not sit on your positions thinking that you have a lot of science. Get to know your differences and you will be surprised to find that this will open up new paths of knowledge. You will learn to open up to New Worlds and find yourself loving what you did not know. Open yourself to differences to enrich yourself and become a person filled with new data. If you close, you will force your partner to share with others and lose the wealth present in your relationship.