In the eyes of men, not all compliments are created equal.
I don’t think we talk enough about it, but men are as affected by praise and appreciation as are women. If not more, even. Whatever the reason, women tend to get the lion’s share of compliments about their looks or the feelings they inspire in men.
And a concrete example can prove it: in a few seconds, I can find ten songs that only speak of the beauty of women (exterior and interior) while, even in my head, I can’t find more than five on men.
So, without further ado, here are six kinds of compliments that men would like to hear more often. I mention some of them after men asked me to write this article, others come from discussions I had with my male clients and finally, some come to me from my own love life.
1. Compliments that prove to him that you believe in him
What most quickly melts a man is when his partner supports him and believes in him. And this is one of the things I have heard the most from my male readers and when I asked them their opinion about writing this article. One of my clients said to me, “As soon as she says something like ‘I believe in you’, I feel like a superhero who can do anything. “
– ” I believe in you. »
-« I like your ambitions. »
-« Whatever you want to do, I’m sure you will get there. You have always succeeded. “
-” Of course people want to work with / for you! People trust you and your abilities. And they are right. What you do is wonderful. »
-« Of course you managed to get this increase / this new position. You are talented, hardworking and everyone knows it. I am very proud of you. »
-« You already accumulate so many successes in your life. I’m sure you will continue to do great things. You will make the most of each of the situations that arise.
2. Compliments on her body and her appearance in general
Although in Western countries, men undergo less body-shaming than women, they are no less anxious by certain parts of their body. What’s more, everyone (whatever their gender) likes to know that their partner finds at home certain things that are pleasant to watch…
Whether it’s his arms, hands, eyes, thighs or other more intimate parts that receive the compliment, guys are not difficult … Here are some examples of compliments that will go straight to his heart.
– ” You are so Handsome “.
– “Wow … You weren’t kidding by telling me that you were training. Magnificent ! »
-« You seem very virile today. I like it. “
-” You are beautiful with this tie / this suit / this outfit! »
-« I love it when you wrap me in your sexy arms. »
-« You are beautiful when you laugh. »
-« You are beautiful when you cry. »
-« You are always beautiful, even when you wake up with your hair in disarray. “
3. Compliments that underline his efforts
We all love that the efforts we make for our relationship are recognized. Show him that you appreciate what he does for you. Even the simplest things. Notice and recognize them all. Each time you express your appreciation out loud, you are likely to get more! And even if it isn’t, you will allow him to feel loved.
Whether it’s taking out the trash, changing a light bulb, or doing the dishes isn’t the most important thing – what matters is that you recognize this type of act from time to time.
– ” You are adorable. “
-” Thank you for cooking for me, my love. That makes me very happy. And it’s delicious! “
-” You can fix anything! »
-« I like that you are so tender with me. “
-” Thank you for listening to me. That you let me discharge makes me happy. »
-« I noticed that you had done (that) for me. Thank you for being so considerate. That makes me very happy. You are so nice and I love it. »
-« I loved to see playing with the children (of our mutual friends) today. This player side is too sexy. I like that you can let go and have fun from time to time. “
4. Compliments that show your respect.
Numerous studies show that men associate love with respect. Knowing that they are respected is often more important to them emotionally than knowing that they are loved. Although these studies do not have excessive meaning on an individual level, it is still important to note that your man wants to feel respected.
– “You are a good man. »
-« I am proud of you. »
-« I respect you enormously. “
-” As the days go by, you get better. “
-” It takes a lot of courage to admit that you were wrong / apologize / have this conversation … I admire that you were able to. It is very attractive. »
-« I like your capacity to forgive those close to you. It took a lot of strength to take matters into your own hands and you couldn’t have done better. »
-« I like your way of being attentive / understanding with my friends / relatives / colleagues. You really listen to people and I find it admirable. “
5. Compliments that show your confidence in him and his ability to take charge
Blame social conditioning, biology or whatever, but the majority of men deeply like to be seen as the leaders of their lives and their romantic relationships. Let him know that this is how you see him and that you trust his way of being in the world by offering him some of the following compliments:
– ” I trust you. »
-« I am on your side. »
-« You never made us take the wrong path. »
-« I will follow you to the end of the world. »
-« You are of such good advice. You are so brilliant. “
6. Compliments that show it touches you.
All men know this feeling, when someone extremely attractive walks by their side and they fall on their knees. This surge of excitement is powerful. Let him know that in his company, you feel something similar.
– “I can’t help blushing when I’m with you. »
-« You always know how to make me smile. »
-« You make me feel such deep things. »
-« I feel like I can accomplish a lot more knowing that you are my safety net. I feel supported and it is priceless to me. »
-« Your eyes are mesmerizing. I could get lost forever. “
-” I have never felt so comfortable and safe with someone. I like to be with you. “
-” No one has ever excited me so much. You make my head spin. »
-« You are the funniest man I know. “
Your spouse is unique and will be affected by some of these compliments more than others. Try a few and see how it works. Everyone appreciates a sincere compliment and the majority of these can also work for a woman.